6. They need to assert their independence.
Does your child constantly resist your authority? Are they defiant? Do they do incredibly annoying things because they insist on not needing any help? Do they make terrible decisions?
It certainly feels like bad behavior, but it's just part of growing up.
Your daughter’s bangs are now 3 cm long or your son has a bald spot because they tried to cut their own hair. As annoying as this is, they are doing exactly what they should be doing developmentally: thinking of their own plan and carrying it out independently. One day, hopefully, they will come up with better plans.
7. Their core strengths trip them up.
We all have core strengths inherent in our personalities. We might be determined, or spontaneous, or focused, or cautious. Each of these can be an asset in some circumstances, but a liability in others.
When our kids' behavior seems at it's worst, it's often simply the flip side of one of their core strengths.
Your focused and determined student flips out when he gets a bad grade. Your fierce competitor turns into a gloating winner or sore loser depending how the game goes. Your live in the moment child has a hard time planning out and executing longer school projects. And your thoughtful, careful daughter is afraid to try new things.
There’s not much a parent can do here but try to recognize these behaviors as the underbelly of our kids’ strengths, and help them cope with the emotional fallout.
7. They have an insatiable need for play.
So your kids are constantly silly. They fall into fits of laughter at inappropriate times. They must show you their cartwheel even though you’re in a desperate rush to leave the house.