On the other hand, maybe you've struck the perfect balance already?
This is tough! I have found our kiddos benefit from both of our parenting styles — which are way different! Does he impose his expectations on you? If so, that would drive me batty? Also, do one of you spend more time with the kiddos? I stay home with my kids and by sheer need to function, have relaxed a great deal. I think my husband has more energy to care about stuff because he is with them less? – Meredith Spidel
Always. Have. A plan.
It is such a slippery slope! We obviously want to support our children and equip them to deal with the situations but it is hard to know when to intervene and went to let them make their own way. If we don’t have adversity, we don’t learn to deal with it, right? It might be good advice to come up with a plan ahead of time, a proactive vs. reactive plan. “We will let our child deal with their own issues unless they have already tried and are asking for help or XYZ.” – Kerry Issac-Rossow
And when you don't have a plan, just chill.
My husband is the same. Likes to control everything. My way of dealing (17 Years later)…LET HIM. Grab a beer and Netflix. Whatever!! If he wants it his way, let him do it that way!!😊 you chill. – Rachel Price
Have you thought about it from another perspective?
The real issue appears to be how you interpret his actions as a judgment against your parenting style. You both need to discuss this and how you feel. He may be interpreting your actions as a judgment against him too. Understanding each other’s motivations will go a long way to a happy home. Even better, do it in front of the kids so they can see how you work together. – Lindsay Brusso
You only have so much time...
Most children have a 5-minute attention span for things they don’t care about, so if you can’t get to the point in that time the kids are bound to miss the message. Maybe try the rule: “If they aren’t hurting themselves, someone else, or something, then it isn’t worth the stress of reacting to.” Kids learn more from modeling their parents’ behavior and positive reinforcement anyway. – Allison Havens
Some problems can be solved with calm conversations. But others require something a bit more drastic…