Feb 14, 2009
A Valentine reminder for those in unlikely love.
Charity:
But marry you! How could we get married…?
Sid:
The question is not how we’d manage, it’s do you want to.
(Crossing to Safety, 82)
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Another fabulous book I’d forgotten about … though hardly valentines candy. We read this as a faculty and Charity in particular stuck in a lot of our imaginations.
i love that. so true. and now i have a new book to add to my “to read” list.
i’m assuming sid & charity end up getting married… and stay married. and love each other through thick & thin. if so, then that quote/excerpt is true. :)
30 years and going strong — today I awoke thinking about what has made it last, and actually wrote it up.
I think I responded to my husband pretty much the same way when he proposed to me 11 years ago!
Exactly. Marriage is not having all the answers, it is being committed to the person during the process… needed for our generation.
It does get back to, do you *want* to manage? Are you willing to? Marriage isn’t about HOW you manage so much as being willing to manage.
Even though we’re only 2.5 years fresh (with a bun in the oven to manage), it all gets back to a covenant of grace.
I adore this book. Stegner had keen insight into human nature, marriage, and friendship.
Oh how I LOVE this book! Thanks for being willing to take a risk on our recommendation! Have you finished it yet?
How timely. I just facilitated the discussion of “Crossing to Safety” at our neighborhood book club Thursday night. Love the richness and depth of Stegner’s writing. This book is worth reading at intervals throughout one’s marriage, say … every ten years.
To those who have read the book: What do you see to be the significance of the title and to whom do you think it refers?
You must read all the Stegner you can get your hands on. Some of the most heartbreaking prose ever.