Comments on: Isn’t being unbusy just as good a reason to not do something as being busy? http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/ Curious | Cute | Comical | Crazy Thu, 09 Feb 2012 08:31:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Something to Think About « Heritage and Destiny http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32290 Something to Think About « Heritage and Destiny Sat, 28 Feb 2009 15:29:29 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32290 [...] View article… [...] [...] View article… [...]

]]> By: “I’m busy.” « Growing In Grace http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32260 “I’m busy.” « Growing In Grace Tue, 24 Feb 2009 17:31:21 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32260 [...] HT:  22 Words [...] [...] HT:  22 Words [...]

]]> By: John Cordero http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32259 John Cordero Mon, 23 Feb 2009 22:39:48 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32259 My usual response to queries of my time: "I am always busy, but unfortunately there's no direct correlation between business and productivity." My usual response to queries of my time: “I am always busy, but unfortunately there’s no direct correlation between business and productivity.”

]]> By: SharonAbelle http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32289 SharonAbelle Sat, 21 Feb 2009 17:33:13 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32289 I've also found the phrase, "I have commitments that day" useful. My commitment may be to read a book or count my fingernails. Nevertheless, that IS my commitment. I’ve also found the phrase, “I have commitments that day” useful.

My commitment may be to read a book or count my fingernails.

Nevertheless, that IS my commitment.

]]> By: gavinbrown http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32288 gavinbrown Sat, 21 Feb 2009 16:30:58 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32288 But honestly, I have rarely been that honest with others. Plus, I have three children and don't envision watching a marathon of anything followed by a nap! But honestly, I have rarely been that honest with others.

Plus, I have three children and don’t envision watching a marathon of anything followed by a nap!

]]> By: gavinbrown http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32287 gavinbrown Sat, 21 Feb 2009 16:27:30 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32287 un-busy = busy doing whatever I am not obligated to do. Example: Q. Wanna come over and watch a movie? A. I'm busy. Q. I thought you were off today? A. I am, but I've made plans to watch a Seinfeld marathon then take a nap. A. Oh. un-busy = busy doing whatever I am not obligated to do.

Example:

Q. Wanna come over and watch a movie?

A. I’m busy.

Q. I thought you were off today?

A. I am, but I’ve made plans to watch a Seinfeld marathon then take a nap.

A. Oh.

]]> By: Shannon Archer http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32286 Shannon Archer Sat, 21 Feb 2009 13:33:41 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32286 I agree with Myrddin. I think sometimes we can justify failing to serve others by saying we are busy or need downtime when really we just don't "feel" like it. That is not to say we should ever sacrifice important family time or necessary rest time or must ALWAYS be serving others, but if we would give up that time for something more appealing, then maybe it is just an excuse. I agree with Myrddin. I think sometimes we can justify failing to serve others by saying we are busy or need downtime when really we just don’t “feel” like it. That is not to say we should ever sacrifice important family time or necessary rest time or must ALWAYS be serving others, but if we would give up that time for something more appealing, then maybe it is just an excuse.

]]> By: Zoe http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32285 Zoe Sat, 21 Feb 2009 12:04:45 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32285 I regularly tell friends I'm busy when I'm taking time for myself. It's not a lie. I'm busy, just not with other people. I still feel bad about it, though, like I am obligated to say yes to people's invitations all the time. I usually offer an alternate time to meet though, so that they know it's not that I don't want to see them. I regularly tell friends I’m busy when I’m taking time for myself. It’s not a lie. I’m busy, just not with other people. I still feel bad about it, though, like I am obligated to say yes to people’s invitations all the time. I usually offer an alternate time to meet though, so that they know it’s not that I don’t want to see them.

]]> By: Myrddin http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32284 Myrddin Sat, 21 Feb 2009 12:03:51 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32284 I think it depends a great deal upon what you're being asked to do and what you're <i>really</i> protecting by not doing it. I think it depends a great deal upon what you’re being asked to do and what you’re really protecting by not doing it.

]]> By: Katrina http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32283 Katrina Sat, 21 Feb 2009 04:05:51 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32283 I find that people at first are put off my my wanting to have time by myself. It's strange to tell people you are going hiking by yourself, and no, it's not because I tried and couldn't find someone to go with me. But friends eventually honor it. And sort of like the idea themselves. I find that people at first are put off my my wanting to have time by myself. It’s strange to tell people you are going hiking by yourself, and no, it’s not because I tried and couldn’t find someone to go with me.
But friends eventually honor it. And sort of like the idea themselves.

]]> By: links for 2009-02-20 - chrishubbs.com http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32282 links for 2009-02-20 - chrishubbs.com Sat, 21 Feb 2009 03:30:24 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32282 [...] Isn’t being unbusy just as good a reason to not do something as being busy? « 22 Words AMEN, Mr. Piper. (tags: cjh_comment) [...] [...] Isn’t being unbusy just as good a reason to not do something as being busy? « 22 Words AMEN, Mr. Piper. (tags: cjh_comment) [...]

]]> By: SharonAbelle http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32281 SharonAbelle Sat, 21 Feb 2009 02:30:39 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32281 I think so, too. I think so, too.

]]> By: carissa http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32280 carissa Fri, 20 Feb 2009 23:52:58 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32280 i heard the following exchange yesterday: "hey, how are you?" "oh, busy." "remarkably busy or just normal busy?" it seems it's the standard american answer. i used to LOVE being busy. now it seems so unnatural to me . . . anyway, good point! i heard the following exchange yesterday:

“hey, how are you?”
“oh, busy.”
“remarkably busy or just normal busy?”

it seems it’s the standard american answer. i used to LOVE being busy. now it seems so unnatural to me . . . anyway, good point!

]]> By: Ben http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32279 Ben Fri, 20 Feb 2009 23:33:52 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32279 I will often tell people that I just need some time to myself. I will often tell people that I just need some time to myself.

]]> By: jessicamelling http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32278 jessicamelling Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:55:09 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32278 I'm way into margin, so I give a hearty "yes" to your question. I’m way into margin, so I give a hearty “yes” to your question.

]]> By: JJ http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32277 JJ Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:43:01 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32277 "Full" and "busy" are two different things... “Full” and “busy” are two different things…

]]> By: Amanda Beattie http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32276 Amanda Beattie Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:33:32 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32276 I agree it is a good reason! But I personally am working on not needing to defend my saying "no" to something. I think we can still honor that person by saying, "Not today; can we schedule another time?" I agree it is a good reason! But I personally am working on not needing to defend my saying “no” to something. I think we can still honor that person by saying, “Not today; can we schedule another time?”

]]> By: Charlotte http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32275 Charlotte Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:18:41 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32275 yes. especially when friends want to hang out/have play dates with my kids and/or me... we're good with two or three "outings" each week. i'm not afraid to say,"no, but thanks for the invite. maybe another time." i don't necessarily let others know that we're resting or trying to not fill up all of our days. there's no conflict when they don't know. :) yes. especially when friends want to hang out/have play dates with my kids and/or me… we’re good with two or three “outings” each week. i’m not afraid to say,”no, but thanks for the invite. maybe another time.” i don’t necessarily let others know that we’re resting or trying to not fill up all of our days. there’s no conflict when they don’t know. :)

]]> By: vika http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32274 vika Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:10:50 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32274 I agree that is tends to create more conflict or hurt feelings to just say you want to stay unbusy. Unfortunate but I think it is a cultural value, that if you are not busy you have time for whoever asks. We generally 'plan' our time off that we want to have as family time, relaxing time, unbusy time. That way we can honestly tell people that we have 'plans', even if that plan is do nothing. I agree that is tends to create more conflict or hurt feelings to just say you want to stay unbusy. Unfortunate but I think it is a cultural value, that if you are not busy you have time for whoever asks. We generally ‘plan’ our time off that we want to have as family time, relaxing time, unbusy time. That way we can honestly tell people that we have ‘plans’, even if that plan is do nothing.

]]> By: Cindy Hanson http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32273 Cindy Hanson Fri, 20 Feb 2009 20:29:11 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32273 I hate to be just another face in the crowd, but I can't resist this post... I JUST came up with my 'own quote' that 'Time is a Thief'... it steals us from the values we all respect but ignore. I value downtime and boundaries but also see that we can easily fall into a trap of letting time hold ud hostage from the important things in life! same point... different angle, a little. thank you for your post! cindy I hate to be just another face in the crowd, but I can’t resist this post… I JUST came up with my ‘own quote’ that ‘Time is a Thief’… it steals us from the values we all respect but ignore.
I value downtime and boundaries but also see that we can easily fall into a trap of letting time hold ud hostage from the important things in life! same point… different angle, a little.
thank you for your post! cindy

]]> By: jessica mell http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32272 jessica mell Fri, 20 Feb 2009 19:49:04 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32272 definitely. i think it can (however inappropriately) create more conflict than the "i'm busy" option, which is why people don't use it as much. we seem more apt to respect people's boundaries if they are "busy" than if they are actively seeking rest... definitely.

i think it can (however inappropriately) create more conflict than the “i’m busy” option, which is why people don’t use it as much.

we seem more apt to respect people’s boundaries if they are “busy” than if they are actively seeking rest…

]]> By: MP http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32271 MP Fri, 20 Feb 2009 19:38:53 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32271 Much agreed. We need to have seasons of being un-busy. It's also helpful to notice that, sometimes, work creates more work. So even if you take on an unnecessary small thing during a season of trying to be un-busy, that can snowball to a bunch of other things and undo your aim. Much agreed. We need to have seasons of being un-busy. It’s also helpful to notice that, sometimes, work creates more work. So even if you take on an unnecessary small thing during a season of trying to be un-busy, that can snowball to a bunch of other things and undo your aim.

]]> By: Bryan DeWire http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32270 Bryan DeWire Fri, 20 Feb 2009 19:23:43 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32270 Ha- what an excellent point! Ha- what an excellent point!

]]> By: Tony C http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32269 Tony C Fri, 20 Feb 2009 19:03:41 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32269 yes! yes!

]]> By: amen abraham, amen « Anthemning His name….. http://twentytwowords.com/2009/02/20/isn%e2%80%99t-being-unbusy-just-as-good-a-reason-to-not-do-something-as-being-busy/#comment-32268 amen abraham, amen « Anthemning His name….. Fri, 20 Feb 2009 18:59:36 +0000 http://twentytwowords.com/?p=2362#comment-32268 [...] Isn’t being unbusy just as good a reason to not do something as being busy? [...] [...] Isn’t being unbusy just as good a reason to not do something as being busy? [...]

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