Nov 21, 2009
Alright guys, man up & admit how girly you are.
Like this post?
I’ll go first:
- I like yarn shops and pink bathroom decor.
- I occasionally use a straightener.
- I’ll enjoy the church craft fair.
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I don’t like pink bathroom decor but I do like the color pink. OK, maybe i would like pink bathroom decor.
I use a straightener everyday for my faux hawk.
I tried to get Becky to go to the church craft fair. Evidently, she values sleep more than buying cool “things”.
Not just any ‘ole straightener! :)
I straighten my hair. I even have some heat protection spray for it as well.
I was late for a meal out recently because I was straightening my hair.
Sometimes I like to eat ice cream whilst watching chick-flicks. This is only to be done in the presence of women, otherwise it just becomes weird.
My husband likes the color pink and doesn’t mind watching chick flicks with me.
I like Pride & Prejudice (the 6 hour A&E version)…and not just because it’s my wife’s favorite movie.
I like the short one, haven’t seen the long.
I watched this with a group of guys for my high school english class. We were four of the six males in that class. We like to think that legitimized our masculinity. The girls just poked fun at us. They soon found out who got the higher test scores . . .
my bathroom is purple and my favorite shirt is pink
I’m obsessed with bags and shoes, and my wife, who hates to shop, does not allow me to go to the mall.
I like shoes, clothes and home decor. Also I cook, but I don’t think that’s girly anymore.
When my hair was long I used a blow drier, but never went as far as the straightener. “Not that there’s anything wrong with that.”
I’m going out on a limb: none of these are “girly.” Appreciating color, design and really neat fabrics isn’t effete. It’s human.
I wholeheartedly agree with Ben!
Some men like “chick flicks.” Some men hate them. Some take tons of time and product to care for their hair. Some occasionally remember to wash it. Some like pink. Some gag at pink. Some have a passion for interior design. Some could care less about it. Some like to hunt, kill, and skin wild animals for fun. Some think hunting is gross and violent.
It seems like men come in all kinds of personalities and interests, while still being plenty masculine. Granted, I’m not a man myself, but I’ve known a bunch of them in my lifetime, and they have ranged all the way from backwoods North Dakotan mountain men to artistic, sensitive city slickers. But not a one of them was sending confusing signals about his masculinity.
Just had to edit myself and say some men couldn’t care less about it…
I am agreeing with those before me…
I enjoy buying clothes for my wife more than she does. I missed my calling as an interior decorator. Jane Austen novels are some of my favorite reads…
so, i came home from grocery shopping the other night and brent blurts out defensively, “So what?! So I watched few minutes of Glee, okay??!” without any prompting. He cracks me up.
This makes me so happy.
What I find interesting about this post (forgive my deconstructionist attitude by the way, I’ve been stuck reading about postmodernist theory for months now) is that it looks like you’re trying to overcome the binary oppositions drawn up between men and women, but end up reinforcing them.
Oh, and if I had your hair, I’d use a straightener too, haha.
oh, dear.
Are you going to have an opportunity in a day or two for the girls to admit how manly we are?
I’ll work on my acceptance of self-proclaimed girly-men if you’ll work on your acceptance of manly-girls.
I am trying to get my wife to make a gingerbread house with me. I’ve made a few. I like to think it can be masculine when I make them really big with huge candy cane pillars.
I like Jane Austen Movies.
i use “hair product.”
i like onesies… for my unborn daughter.
i like cupcakes with pink frosting.
i like pillows on the bed that aren’t for your head.
I keep my beard manicured
I think it’s cool when Shane Bernard hits those really high notes
I know when to complain about a bad haircut
That’s the manliest attempt at trying to be girly I’ve ever seen. Love it!
Love pink
Enjoy interior design
Faithfully watch Project Runway
I am well stocked in both pink and purple shirts. . .and have been since well before pink was widely accepted for men.
I wear copious amounts of hair spray.
I moisturize.
Oh dear; I don’t like pink, I don’t like girlie movies, I use nothing but shampoo to wash my hair, I don’t like shopping.
I would never use hair spray, straighteners or anything else artificial on my hair.
I have no idea why I am supposed to have a so called ‘feminine’ side….why would I want a feminine side? God created me as a man, not as a hermaphrodite. I live in the UK so I am wondering is this an American problem :-)
I must agree with Glenn.
No pink, no girlie movies, no shopping, no hair anything…
Instead dark blue, Bourne movies, letting others do the shopping (who enjoy it), and only an old ratty hair brush.
I think Mohler may have had a recent post on such things… (all in good fun).
I must admit this post and some of the comments did make me laugh out loud several times.
it wasn’t an American problem when we trashed your sissy tea in the Atlantic:)
Hahahahahaha! Don’t forget European shoulder bags a.k.a. “man purse”!
I think the point is that these things are considered “girly” or “feminine” but liking them doesn’t make you a girl!
If you think that your God-given maleness depends on not liking these things, you’re way off. Do you protect and provide for your family? That (and other things) make you a Godly man. So what if you do it in a pink shirt!
and you said i needed an internet censor.
And I breathe a sigh of relief…
You want a feminine side because you were created in God’s image. He had both a feminine and a masculine side (as evidenced by the fact that men and women are created in His image).
I have these two movies in my collection (and yes I actually do enjoy them, but usually with female company).
1) Man From Snowy River
2) Pride and Prejudice
There are other things, but that’s all I’m positing for now. Its funny what growing up as the oldest of nine with four girls right after does to you.
The Man from Snowy River is a girl movie?
I grew up convinced it was an adventure horse australian western…
I like extremely fragrent, fruity smells.
this post and all these comments made me laugh out loud. i would love to read the vise versa too…guest post for molly?
I really wish I would have known before the craft boutique because I would have hassled you more to buy yourself an apron! Sheesh.
My husband knows how to sew and enjoys it. He’s actually a better seamster than me.
Yes…No.
No.
Yes.
Hahaha! That is how my husband would describe my girliness!
You all look like a bunch of girlie men!
:P
I occasionally enjoy chick flicks…
I’m sure I’ve worn purple many times in my past. But that’s due to me not being able to differenciate blue from purple…
I like to cook and bake but I don’t think that’s really considered girlie these days.
I pick out all of my wife’s clothes and makeup.
It’s not that I am a controlling, Thag-like troglodyte. It’s the fact that even though she is the artist in the house, I have better color and fashion sense than she does.
Plus, God help me, I liked the movie “Yentl” as a kid… have no idea why… I’m still seeking therapy for that one.
i guess I’m insecure, but this comment stream feels odd to me.
1. I enjoy chick flicks (with my wife)
2. Do not mind walking down the Barbie or feminine products aisle
3. Have no problem picking out and carrying any of the above to the cash register
4. I am brought to tears by something at least daily.
5. Enjoy shooting firearms
6. Like drinking good beer
7. Love football
Pink bathroom decor? Yarn? My daughter uses a straightener. But I did do the windows in the dept. store I worked in during college.
Not that this is any reflection on these comments or the men behind them, but I can’t read these without hearing them in a falsetto voice.
I crochet
So the question is: why do so many religious-type men seem to be so preoccupied with (i.e. insecure about) their manhood? You virtually never hear atheist/agnostic men agonize over whether their tastes, hairstyle, clothes, movies, music, food, car, decor, are ‘manly’ enough.
The question is: How to answer this question without coming off as defensive?
Perhaps Christian men have a standard of manliness in God that atheists/agnostics do not. It’s easier to “agonize” over something if you have something solid to compare to?
Don’t be too quick to accept the accusation that you’re being defensive. Don’t get easily sidetracked into having to “defend yourself against the accusation that you are being defensive.”
Pretty sure God created pink… and judging from flowers, sunsets, and other things he uses it in, he likes it a lot.
I don’t think our Western definition of “manliness” is necessarily the same as God’s.
awesome point!!
I got a free but unwanted subscription to Men’s Health magazine.
sorry–keyboard is a bit broken–
As I was saying–taking the magazine as a clue, there are a lot of men out there who seem to care a ton about looking manly, and don’t seem to care much about God.
This made me wonder if there is anything I like or do that is “manly” — I get up and go to a job every morning. (I guess the things women do are not often questioned.)
Thanks for the good laugh, Aber. I wish I could have been at the Craft Fair this year.
Really? I know lots of guys of various persuasions who care about that kinda stuff a lot!
Do atheists/agnostics tend toward the bully side of the chamber? After all, one of their arguments re. God is that he’s a crutch for the weak. Maybe it’s a case of not talking about their worst fears concerning themselves. As for Christians and manhood – in the Western culture we’ve not only lost a biblical concept of manhood; we’ve even lost a biblical concept of adulthood.
Both sides can be bullies.
I think manliness/girly traits are often cultural. I mean men used to wear skirts, wigs, and makeup in the not-too-distant past. And as your post shows, girls often like “manly” things and men often like “girly” things.
Oh and I enjoy baking, reading, and eating chocolate.
I wear pink, drink Green Tea Lattes and Vivannos at Starbucks, and watch chick flicks.
I watch (and enjoy) TLC’s What Not to Wear with my wife. And I’ve developed an interest in fashion thereby.
I absolutely love period dramas, especially Austin (movies and books).
I don’t mind and can actually appreciate chick flicks…if they’re good.
Hey Baberham,
You forgot your lip gloss at my house last Friday, I’ll bring it when we meet for tea at Lady Elegance.
:-)
Baberham…now THAT’S funny!
I clean my guns EVERY TIME I get back from the shooting range.
i’ve just started straightening my hair (whenever i’m not feeling lazy).
and i do like me some scented candles.
I’ll go next:
I like Hugh Grant movies,
Jane Austen novels, and
making peanut butter cookies while my friend’s out ‘dear’ hunting.
Perhaps this is shallow of me, but… Am I the only one who is a little disconcerted by the fact that things are either “manly” or “girly”? Is there a way to make the perceived age match, such as “boyish and girly” or “manly and womanly” or even just simply “masculine and feminine?”
I normally don’t like splitting hairs over language but I feel like this is an area that would be helpful to use some linguistic sensitivity. I’m assuming that none of the men commenting really view women as little girls, and women’s interests as immature, but the language could be misconstrued on that front…
Just something to think about.
Amanda, a trip into a mans head will soon tell you that there are no concerns for Politically correctness because it does not properly express how we feel. We feel like little girls when we do womanly things because it is not the norm and sometimes just plain weird that we do them. Abraham has asked us to share in how we feel. In day to day conversation we can make intelligent conversation but when our feeling are involved, what makes us less manly doesn’t make us womanly. I never feel like a woman. What men understand as humiliating and vulnerable is being girly.
Michael, thank you for your response–this does help me understand where you’re coming from.
I was just pointing out that a trip into a woman’s head (well, a lot of women anyway) will show that it can be hurtful to hear others talking about your interests and hobbies, and referring to them as “girly”, implying immaturity. Understanding that’s not what most men mean, but that is what a lot of women can hear.
I’m definitely not trying to question the intent at all, just tossing the idea out there for what it’s worth. :)
Most listened to music right now: Taylor Swift
I’ve read the entire Twilight series (twice).
“Teenage girly” might be more appropriate.
I like boutiquing, especially arts and crafts.
Sorry, but – Blech! Man up boys! At least, that’s my preference. Not sure what influences it but the whole girly man thing is not for me. Maybe age – married to a 45 year old manly man. Or location – live in the very rural woods. I like seeing my hubby tender with the kids or me, but I’d probably do a triple take if I caught him with my straightener.
I would venture (months after this comment trail began)that the previous comment is entirely preference. If it contained some solid biblical backing that men shouldn’t use hair straighteners, then I’d say pay attention. As it is, Ms. LJ, I’m glad you found a man who suit your preferences. I would, however, cut out the first bit. You’re welcome to your own opinion, but if you can’t back it, please don’t insinuate that your cultural likes apply to “boys” in general.
They don’t.
I know many a fellow with straightened hair and skinny pants on skinny legs, and they’re often as truly masculine as they come.
It has to do with heart, not hair.
I hate pink,
but I do get my eye brows waxed
I do watch chick flick but my wife doesn’t like any thing else besides veggie tales
I like shoes
the list is short but I thought I would support my manly friends with their less manly side
Bizzaro Time:
-One of my primary modes of bonding is to be doing separate activities in the same room…in silence.
-I wear men’s flannels regularly.
-The Godfathers are in my top 5.
-I like to look at my own muscles.
After reading all of these comments, I’ve discovered the most girly thing I do is read this blog. Oh, and I use smiley faces in comments. :)
There’s definitely a manly and a girly way to use emotes online. Manly: :) Girly: =-)
My wife makes more money than I do (at the moment anyway) and I find it completely unthreatening and actually nice to not feel as stressed about what would happen if I get laid off again.
I also enjoy some Broadway musicals.
and I do use hair products and body spray but at this point it seems like most men do, so it barely even seems worth mentioning.
I enjoyed this. Men who can go against culture in that manner are in my opinion very manly. Let’s do one for girls. I’ve been mistaken for a boy, on the phone and in person.
I do 97% of the cooking in our house and enjoy it.
I scream at the sight of a mouse.
I do pushups on my knees.
I would rather watch Pride & Prejudice than Braveheart, and I really like Braveheart
I like candles. But not in a girly way. In a medieval, scholarly type way.
I think the real question and answer here is how far into “femininity” are men willing to go to get and or keep having sex. nuff said.
I cut down trees.
I skip and jump.
I like to press wild flowers.