Mar 4, 2010
Are you like me when you’re offended? If so, that’s bad. Let’s change, shall we?
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After accidentally offending someone, I want them to understand: I didn’t mean it.
But when I’m offended—who cares what they meant?!
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I am. Let’s change!
Ouch. Hate to admit it, but I’m right there with you.
Keep two things in mind as you contemplate this great subject – Isaiah 26:3 tells us that if our “minds” are engaged with God our “peace” won’t be interrupted as much as when someone offends us. Secondly, if we do not think more highly of ourselves than is proper then we will be more less likely to be offended.
It is difficult to be consistent I have found, and I hate those moments I allow myself to give the much power to someone else.
Ugly, ugly pride!! My biggest enemy. I get offended because I think I’m better than what is being stated or what I think is being stated about me and then I want to vindicate myself. Bad idea!! Last time I checked, that was Gods job. Psalm 135:14.
woot! 0.0
never thought of it this way. so true. let’s change!
Let’s change…so that we’re now all offended? Orso that we stop being offended when someone says ‘I didn’t mean it’? Which higher consciousness is your remark meant to take us up into?
Guilty. As. Charged (3 words)
Only weenies get offended. (If this offends you, you’re a weeny.)
Yes, let’s !!!
Years ago (you can talk like that if you’e 82) I was enlightened as one shared with me that it’s good to pray for the one we might have thought was offending….as perhaps he/she is simply trying to elevate self by putting us down…..intended or not. It’s been a very “free-ing” thought.
Not exactly. I do like to know that they didn’t mean it that way (and hope that they mean it when they say they didn’t mean it).
But I have this fault in that things really bother me UNTIL the person acknowledges that the did me wrong. I just recently started to feel better about something because someone finally acknowledged that what someone said to me five years ago was an ignorant and hurtful thing to say. It doesn’t even matter that it wasn’t the person who said it. I’m just somehow relieved that when the subject came up and I explained what was bothering me, someone agreed that I had been wronged.
Yet I kind of feel like it was wrong of me to want that kind of affirmation.
Too often my desire to make peace with someone and assure them that I wasn’t trying to offend them is simply the desire to control the image they have of me.
I’m right there with you
I’m worse, maybe. I worry about what they will think of me that I would say such a thing instead of being concerned that I actually offended them. Or at least the two are mixed together. Pitiful.
You’ve pretty much summed up the whole point of Lent here.