May 16, 2011
A man’s burden: Apologizing for being offended
From Doghouse Diaries…
(via Miss Cellania)
Everyone can agree that this is pretty much exactly right, right?
Or maybe not. In which case…I’m sorry.
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Dead on.
In my experience, of being a woman and knowing/dating men, it’s the opposite. Men refuse to admit they did anything wrong, and women have to apologize for making everything their fault.
Hm. If this experience and my experience are both true, there must be all different kinds of men and women.
No way. I refuse to believe that… :)
You are ABSOLUTELY WRONG and I CAN’T BELIEVE you’d think that.
i’m sorry :\
I agree with Elizabeth.
i think the situation works both way depending on the couple
If that’s what your experience is, the men you date/know are assholes. Find a nice guy and you would find this comic dead on.
“Find a nice guy and you would find this comic dead on.”
You mean a pushover.
Why the hell does everyone have to say that a nice guy is a pushover. I’m a nice guy but I’m far from a pushover. And this comic is true, and the reason being is I’M a nice guy. I wouldn’t want my girlfriend to be even more sad by constantly blaming her for something.
Shut up Prometheus.
Bless your heart nice guy….There is a big difference between nice and weak!! take care :)
Prometheus, I would do you. And then marry you. In that order. :)
Correct and as we all know pushover = not a real man.
You’re a man, Kala. I like a sweet, nice guy. But I don’t want a push over. It’s all about patience to find the right guy. Which you’ll probably never do . . .
A whipped man is a sexed man.
If that’s what your experience is, the WOMEN you date/know are assholes. Find a nice GIRL and you would find this comic to be wrong, and that both sexes are capable of being jerks.
So basically you’re saying that if a man does this, he is a jerk and the girl is stupid for dating him.
But if a woman does this, she’s just being a woman.
Way to be completely sexist, dude. I don’t think you’re as “nice” as you think you are. Both men and women are assholes sometimes.
You’re dating the wrong guys.
Maybe it’s because your dating them and not married to them, but even I’ll agree with this. The minute I say “You don’t have to make me feel worse about it!” my husband says he’s sorry. LOL!
Yeah huge difference between just dating and if you’ve been married for a while. :-p
Agreed!~
Those men probably didn’t like you enough…
*She said, as she decided to prove the validity of the comic then and there.
Ha! My girlfriend will apologise for NOTHING. My Mother is the same. My experience is most definitely the opposite to yours!
You’re just dating huge losers.
YES this is very true. Not completely though because in many cases men just don’t realize they did something wrong and don’t feel the need to apologize. when a woman expresses her discontent men blame that women are over dramatic and needy and we end up apologizing.
of course there are all different kinds of men and women!
typical response from a woman
Clearly a woman, and therefore disregarded.
well not all women do. but the only reason men say sorry after a girl loses their dog is because “it’s illegal to hit a girl” btw i am a girl so eh. the truth is the truth if it is someone younger then you just drop it but if they are your age or older then you can hit them with words.
Well looky here, boys. We got use here a feminist. This is exactly true; women always subdue their accidents with smothering and manipulation, as they do with other people committing accidents such as this comic so rightly shows. I hate women sometimes.
Okay, man. You need to get this straight. Happy girlfriend = more while Unhappy girlfriend = less. There’s nothing wrong with swallowing your pride to make ‘em happy. By saying sorry you can manipulate them in return. Just a quick life tip for you: ‘Sorry’ is better than ‘I love you’ and you get bonus points if you combine the two. :)
theres all different types of men and women? WOAH!!! REALLY?!?! Who would’ve thunk???
….. I’m sorry
I think it’s less dependent on gender and more on the person. In my case, I seem to assume a lot of the blame in the relationship while my boyfriend is the deflector.
ur wrong, this happens to me all the time
OK, I would believe you if you can give me a couple of (say around 3 to 4) examples of when ‘YOU’ had to say sorry even though it was not your fault.
I think you are wrong young lass and are clearly a naive woman who only finds and dates assholes. Funny that I read the comic and found it spot on much like my wife who said I do the same thing. Happy hunting finding the man of your dreams.
Just the opposite with my wife. I am always wrong!
Absolutely true in my experience.
You GUYS stop it! She already feels bad about it, don’t make her feel worse. ; )
and if a guy feels bad about it? most women have no problem making him feel worse ;)
I second that
i completely agree with elizabeth.. thats always how it goes with me.. times have changed..
Times haven’t changed, you just don’t know how to work your men.
hahaha, true that!
“Work your men”…. exactly the attitude that the comic is criticizing. Why can’t a relationship consist of both sides taking responsibility when it’s due?
Times haven’t changed, you just need to reverse the polarity of your asshole magnet.
This is exactly how it goes about. There is no way I can react to the same thing toward my wife the way she would react toward me in a similar situation.
This is exactly how it goes ! If my wife does something that upsets me and I call her on it (which of course hurts her feelings) I end up having to buy her flowers or something because for example she lost my dog !
Ok so every girl in this convo is in denial and doesnt want to feel bad about them selves so they are manipulating every guy in the conversation to suport their incorrect cause and apologize, master plan guys we have ot stick together. SORRY girls ;)
Okay, can we at least establish a few things I think we would all agree to:
1) Hurting another person is bad.
2) Refusing to apologize/accept guilt for hurting another person is bad.
3) Rubbing someone else’s face in their own error is bad.
4) Manipulation is bad.
5) Men and women alike are sinful, prone to pushiness and pride.
I would like to propose that, in light of 5, men and women all err in points 1-4. And probably not in very different numbers than one another–or at the very least, certainly not in an exceptionless, clean split between the genders. So it is unhelpful to point fingers at one another and formulate stereotypes, but a pretty good idea to go, “Hm, I want to get better at being quick to apologize and quick to forgive, even if my significant other doesn’t.”
I bet you’re lots of fun at parties.
Haha!
I’m a girl and I think it’s pretty true. lol In my opinion anyway. :3
I think a lot of the ladies here aren’t catching the lightheartedness that is intended by (I believe) most of the men here.
I’ve done this. For sure. And now, I’m really sorry.
I think the views of gender-specific actions depends on the gender of the accuser – each gender thinks the other is “in the wrong”
You’re playing with your own gender right now aren’t you?
Every time you play with yourself, you’re playing with your own gender. KABOOONG!
This just means us girls are better at getting out of things. :)
Though i would understand if it was an accident. :P
In the end, it is always the man who is wrong.
unless the woman’s being a dumb bitch like you
Been married for 5 years to the most amazing man. And I have to say, this comic is true. Must send to the hubby so he can have a good laugh. Then I’ll say “I’m sorry” :-p
its sad that most men are more detrimentally affected by this than they let on
This is not right. At all. Not for me anyways. It takes a blue moon, a miracle from God, and all the energy in me to get my fiance to say SORRY. And that is pretty much how all the guys I know are. Unless they are p*u*s*s*i*e*s haha.
Since when saying “I’m sorry” makes you a pussy??? I totally disagree!
This I somewhat gotta agree with. Cause I too have a lot of trouble saying sorry.
But you know what, in spite of that – I still need to say sorry sooo many times. Its like I don’t care the first time, then something else happens, and then something else happens AND then I have to say sorry like hundred times at once.
This comic is so true, but i really don’t even have to be dating some1 for this to happen to me
im gay, but from all i know: so true.
wait! you could totally solve this! Does this happen in gay relationships? IF sooo then it isn’t WOMEN! It’s the role you pick in the relationship..the ‘give in’ person and the ‘walk all over you person’
This happens in EVERY relationship, no matter the sex or gender presentation of the people involved. Straight relationships, gay relationships, lesbian relationships, etc.
Real men apologize when they feel remorse only. Not when their wife/girlfriend is upset.
And definitely not when it is the woman’s fault.
Note: this doesn’t mean its always the woman’s fault and anyone who says its always the man’s fault can just go to hell.
does no one else see this as what it is? a joke =P (plus alot of women do this not saying all and some guys do aswell but its more a woman trate)
True Story (haha love it)
That’s the way it is in my relationship. I think it just depends on the way people deal with things. I react to anger worse than my boyfriend does, he is able to apologise right away, it takes me longer to apologise when I eff up. I’m just really lucky to have a patient, loving boyfriend who knows I’ll come around when I am at my most sincere.
I Can’t Understand
My husband NEVER apologizes for being a DICK. I apologize whenever I feel like I need to. He never admits when he’s wrong AND he likes to blame EVERYONE else for his problems….even our 2 & 3 yr olds toddlers! Even when it is CLEARLY his fault. Seriously, he could be by himself and still find someone/someTHING else to blame, whatever it is, on!
This works either way…obviously. It just depends on the role you each take in the relationship. It’s a give and take thing…..durrr.
My Dad is like that. My mom left him for a woman. He didn’t learn any lessons.
That’s just because he’s a “dick”, in general
BTW, the girl in the cartoon says she feels bad about it, so she’s OBVIOUSLY sorry…. So, =0P
She’s sorry, yes. But the more important point is how she treats the guy when he does something wrong. If you don’t see this, I’m guessing you’re the kind of woman who thinks that men should apologize for doing things wrong more than you should have to.
This has definitely been true in some of my experiences with women. It might be true the other way as well. However, I think the odds are better that a man would have the sense of humor to express this sort of dynamic in a relationship. Ohhh snap!
yeah! virtual high-five! *misses* aw, crap.
Ok…this is just a comic people hahahaha I love how subject matter meant to be lighthearted and make you giggle a bit has turned into such a battle of the sexes!! Just admit it…us ladies are mental ninjas!!! *haaaaaiiiyyyyaaa!!!* ;p
As Dane Cook put, you are “mental Terrorists” Ha! You have us tossing and turning with a whispered comment to which we finally burst out “MY FATHER’S A BRILLIANT MAN!!!!!! YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW!!!!!!”
It’s really got nothing to do with one gender treating the other gender badly. It’s all about energy. Women can keep going forever. Men just don’t have the stamina or the patience for it. We’re basically thinking “ugh, whatever I want to say is not going to make me feel so much better that it’s worth spending what will surely be the rest of the night fighting and arguing, so if it’ll shut her up quicker, I’ll just apologize.”
I can’t believe you wrote this! I’m disappointed in you.
So, if a man speaks in the middle of the forest and there isn’t a woman to hear him… is he still wrong?
BTW
Anyone Anywhere— your husband has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He won’t get better.
Yes. He is.
i agree…he definately is
Sorry to break it to y’all, but just as often, the script is flipped, and HE tries turning a thoughtless mistake he made into a guilt trip for us girls.
The only mistake he made was leaving the dog in her care. If she really cared, she wouldn’t have lost the dog.
Tired of these sexist generalisations.
I have heard a lot of argument over what makes a real man and wether or not that includes his ability to apologize or not. I think one thing we can all agree on is that if a man can take down a grizzly with only a broadsword then it doesn’t matter if he apologizes or not about breaking a lamp, for he is a true man.
wtf does grizzlies have anything to do with this?
everything
This only works for pretty girls…….
Is there a difference? I mean, what defines pretty, the world stereotype, or the “everyone was perfectly and wonderfully made”?
So everyone is just as pretty, Josh? Try that one on your wife.
PS: The next words you should say after this is “I’m sorry.”
Ahahahaha, love it! The comments are nearly as funny as the comic. :)
Moral of the Story: Why take the blame when you could easily get out of it?
Haha, I’m totally the girl in this comic. Gotta work on that…
The reason this is true is because the woman has feelings and uses them at ALL times, while the man didn’t know it was a bad thing until she pointed it out….and THEN he was sorry. LOL! PLUS, a LAMP and a DOG are 2 completely different things. They shouldnt even be compared…
That’s the point. Losing a dog is soooo much more serious than breaking a lamp. The guy already admitted to it being an accident, which in guy speak is “I’m Sorry”. Instead of hearing the apology, the girl just keeps on about the lamp, forcing the guy to apologize again. Whereas, the girl says it’s an accident, that’s it the conversation is over. No more comments can be made and if one is then the guy is in the wrong. This comic is dead on. Oh and by the way the girl still didn’t apologize for losing the dog, which she won’t do for at least two hours and only after the guy spent all the time looking for the dog and she called her Mom to cry about him yelling at her, at which point Mom would point out she was wrong. Then and only then will she apologize.
HAHAHAHA This is so funny. I dont care what any of the other woman have to say about this, it is pretty much the truth. Think about it. I mean even the manliest of woman I know do this. It is futile to deny it. However men grow some balls. Apologizing for giving a little guilt trip is just as bad as woman guilt tripping when they are in the wrong
wow all u ppl are hypocritical and stereo typical lol
and i also agree with karissa haha
I think the guy are with the wright ones.
:)) so many comments from women arguing. I guess these days anyone has internet connection in their kitchens. Just saying. And if i might have offended… i’m sorry.
So incredibly true :) My husband makes me upset, I pout, and he gives in and says sorry. I upset him, I pout, and he still says sorry :3 Gotta love life. lol
Why does the bloke always end up the bad guy??? This comic is so true
This doesn’t tell the whole story.
This comic is only true when you acknowledge the fact that a man will not let the fact that you made a mistake go for about ten more panels with her apologizing in each one. Only after a million apologies later, a woman will tell you that you’re making her feel bad.
Men cannot let the mistakes of others go. Especially younger ones.
hmmm interesting