n October 15, actress and comedian Charlyne Yi took to Twitter to air some troubling memories she has of the first time she met comedian David Cross. She claimed that he made fun of her and spouted racist comments.
Now, Amber Tamblyn, outspoken actress and David Cross's wife, is speaking out about her reaction to the years-old accusations and the actions she took to address Yi's story directly.
Charlyne Yi shared the story of the first time she met David Cross ten years ago.
According to Yi, he made fun of her pants, and when she became speechless and couldn’t react, he said, “What’s a matter? You don’t speak English?? Ching-chong-ching-chong.”
That's obviously on the opposite end of the spectrum from "OK."
David Cross issued several responses to Yi’s accusations via Twitter. His first said, “I would never intentionally hurt someone like that. I do not remember doing this when I met her… I am NOT accusing Charlene [sic] of lying and I’m truly sorry if I hurt her, it was never my intention to do that.”
But then, he kept going: “With the luxury of time and critical thought…I believe I may have figured it out.” Cross then explains that he would never say something like that unless he was doing his “a**hole redneck racist character,” then concludes that he must have done that character and she just didn’t get it.
He should have stopped at “I’m truly sorry.”
Amber Tamblyn — Cross's wife — has been an outspoken voice for women in the industry, and several days after Yi posted her accusations, Tamblyn addressed the story on Twitter.
“I spoke to @charlyne_yi and her feelings/safety are all that matter to me. We’re good. I owe you nothing, Twitter. You’re lucky to have me,” Tamblyn wrote.
Two important things here: Tamblyn makes it very clear that Charlyne Yi’s feelings and safety are the only things that matter in this situation. She also points out that she is not actually involved in the story and doesn’t owe the people of Twitter anything.
Tamblyn obviously kept getting responses about the matter, so she addressed it a second time for extra extra clarity:
This Twitter user accused Tamblyn’s of coming to the defense of white women who accuse others of sexual harassment but not speaking out with people of color like Charlyne Yi are attacked by her husband.
Tamblyn again reiterated that she spoke to Charlyne directly and was wholly concerned with her feelings.
Just to drive the point home one last time, Tamblyn tweeted again.
She refused to take responsibility for her husband’s actions and repeated that women are not “accountable for the decisions or words of their partners.”
It’s an important point. We applaud Amber Tamblyn for making the distinction, not taking responsibility or apologizing for her husband’s mistake, yet still making it crystal clear that she believes women, she believes Charlyne Yi, and she stands by her.