Kendrick doesn't like being tickled, so she told the guy she was dating to cut it out.
“I said, ‘I know that’s cute and that people do it, but I really don’t like being tickled. It really makes me feel trapped and panicked. I know it’s silly and funny for most people, but I really hate it, so could you please not?'”
Kendrick made a perfectly reasonable request, but the guy she was dating didn't respect it. "He thought that it was really dumb that I had a problem with being tickled and did it anyway," Kendrick said.
So she broke up with him.
He didn’t respect her boundaries or her requests that he stop doing something that bothered her, so she ended the relationship.
At first, Kendrick worried that when the guy talked about their breakup, she'd be labeled as "crazy."
She figured “he would tell his friends, ‘Oh, she broke up with me, because I tickled her. What a psycho.’ I just had to go, ‘No, I broke up with you because I told you something was important to me, and you didn’t respect that.'”
"Talking about how you feel about something is important," Kendrick said. "I used to not do that, because I thought, 'Those aren't facts. I can't make an argument based on my feelings.'"
“Then I realized that nobody can tell me how to feel about something. Just because you think I shouldn’t be bothered by something doesn’t mean that I’m not bothered. If my feelings matter to you, then this is what needs to change. If my feelings don’t matter to you, then I obviously need to make a decision about what that means about moving forward in any kind of professional relationship.”
Kendrick absolutely made the right call in this situation.
We applaud her for standing up for herself and getting out of an uncomfortable and unfair relationship.
Here’s a lesson we’d all do well to remember: You can break up with someone for any reason, or for no reason at all. You get to make the calls when it comes to your life. Even when it comes to something that many may see as a small non-issue like tickling.