"Jer and I have been together since we were teenagers," Nikki wrote.
“After thirteen years of being together and eleven years of marriage I’ve had people ask me, ‘So, what’s the secret to a successful marriage?'”
“I usually laugh.”
"I know the typical responses from the 'Don't go to bed angry' or the 'Always say I love you when they leave.'"
“You guys,” she continued, “do you know how many times in eleven years Jer has taken residency on the couch prior to us having kids because we were mad?”
“Do you know how many times he’s left without us saying ‘I love you’ because kids and life?”
"His way of saying 'I love you' some mornings is letting me sleep in when he leaves and everyone is still asleep."
“All the ‘secrets’ we’ve broken them.”
Then, she revealed her biggest secret of all…
"The secret to a long lasting marriage," she wrote...
“is there is no secret at all.”
Hold the phone. What?
“It’s to get up and try again over and over every damn day.”
"It's hanging on tight when you are young, newly married and living on frozen dinners because it's all you can afford."
“It’s staying up all night in tears with your first newborn child because you both are over tired, overwhelmed and scared to death but you are in it together.”
“It’s counting pennies when you are young so that you can build a life together for your future family. It’s about knowing that nothing is going to turn out perfect, that your marriage won’t be a highlight reel because that’s not real life.”
We love this dose of sweet reality! So what else did Pennington have to say?