t is unconscionable that we are still discriminating against same-sex parents in 2018, and in doing so, jeopardizing the well-being of tiny, innocent children.
The story of Ethan and Aiden Dvash-Banks will, if you are a human being with a heart, make your insides burst into furious flames.
Andrew and Elad Dvash-Banks met in Tel Aviv.
Andrew grew up in Los Angeles, CA and Tel Aviv was Elad’s hometown. The couple eventually decided they wanted to get married, but at the time, in 2010, it was illegal for same-sex couples to do so in the United States.
So, they moved to Toronto and wed there.
Three years later, the American Defense of Marriage Act was finally struck down.
This meant that Andrew and Elad's marriage would finally be recognized in the United States.
It was their goal to relocate to Los Angeles, and they made plans to do so with their whole family after their children were born.
Like any happy couple with parental aspirations, Andrew and Elad wanted to start a family.
Their twins, Ethan and Aiden, were born via surrogate in September 2016. Shortly after, the whole family made the trek down to the U.S. Andrew sponsored Elad — and Israeli citizen — for a green card.
Everything was going smoothly until the couple brought their twin boys to the American consulate in Toronto to apply for U.S. citizenship.
The woman helping them began to ask questions about who their sons were genetically related to. These are questions that never would have been asked of opposite-sex parents. It would simply be assumed that they were both biologically related to their children.
Aaron Morris, the executive director of Immigration Equality, told The Associated Press, “If a mother and father walk into a consulate and have a marriage certificate and birth certificated, they’re never asked any questions about the biology of the child. But the converse is also true and every same-sex couple will be asked that.”
“It was an awful moment for our whole family,” Andrew said.
But it didn’t end there…