ecoming a mom is an amazing experience, but also a job with a steep learning curve. Millions of women look forward to the joys of holding their firstborn and marveling at how beautiful he or she is, at the same time knowing that they've got a few new skills to learn.
And because the duties of a new mom are many and sometimes difficult, unsolicited criticism is anything but helpful.
Actress Julia Stiles recently welcomed her first baby into the world, and one look at her is enough to clue anyone in that she's over the moon about it. Unfortunately, when you're a celebrity, everyone's got an opinion about your child-rearing skills, and an Instagram post proved that Mama Stiles isn't immune to the peanut gallery.
There's nothing like becoming a mom for the first time.
After nine months of waiting, bravely heading to the hospital and going through the birth experience is a huge right of passage for any woman.
It takes courage, determination, and possibly some drugs, but when new moms come out the other side of it with their bundles of beautiful baby joy, they feel like rock stars who can take on the world.
New baby duty comes with some amazing perks.
When it comes to snuggling, newborn babies have everyone beat. With the toddler years a little ways down the road, a new mom is free to soak up the many ups of bringing home a tiny person.
Rocking a new baby, while he or she sleeps, is one of the world’s most relaxing activities. Dressing them up in tiny clothes is also tons of fun. And when people talk about “new baby smell” being addictive, well, they’re not joking.
But the work is real too.
New baby duty is serious business and comes with a learning curve for most moms. (Sure there’s probably someone out there who figured it all out, right off the bat, but we haven’t met her yet.)
Working out diapering, breastfeeding, sleep schedules, and everything in between keeps new moms on their toes and hoping for a nap.
Like anything worth doing in life, it’s tough, but moms are tougher, and getting down a fresh skill set becomes priority.
So it's no wonder that new parents don't necessarily need unsolicited advice.
When a new baby arrives on the scene, it’s normal for people to want to help. And it’s normal for family, friends, and co-workers make meals and bring presents to ease some of the initial stress of adjusting to a fresh and foreign baby schedule.
What isn’t helpful is when others start judging rookie parents, especially moms trying to adjust, about the way they’re figuring things out.
In the "extra advice" category, celebrities tend to wrack up the points.
Social media invites its own special brand of criticism. For regular people, posting a picture or status update can invite strong opinions from friends and family. But when it comes to celebrities, these opinions, often extremely harsh ones, come in droves.
It could be because the rich and famous aren’t viewed as every day individuals, but whatever the reason, stars and starlets rake in a lot of negative attention along with the good.
This extends into the realm of parenting…