It would have been easy to skip the breakfast, to not draw attention to the fact that there is no dad in the picture.
But instead Srenco decided to take a humorous approach to a serious situation. Her kids look happy, she looks happy. Clearly, these kids are not suffering from a lack of love and support.
Many people pointed out that there are ways to make these school events more inclusive.
Families come in all sorts of configurations. Some kids have two moms or two dads. Some kids have a parent deployed overseas, or deceased, or indisposed for any number of reasons.
Some kids live with aunts, uncles, or grandparents. Some kids are in foster care. It’s probably time to ditch the “Dad” and “Mom” specific events in favor of “special someone” events.
For some reason, it's taking us a long time to embrace inclusivity.
Some argue that making events like father/daughter dances more generic waters them down or makes them less special. This makes no sense. A daughter with an able and willing father still gets to go to the dance with him. But by making it inclusive, a daughter whose father is not able, willing, available, or alive can also go to the special dance. How could that possibly be a bad thing?
Facebook user Caity Garness replied, "Had to do the sammmeeee thing last year. My husband works super long hours, but I didn’t want my daughter to miss out!"
It’s great that there are moms out there willing to don a faux goatee for their kids. But there are certainly many more who would find it terrifying or humiliating. (And probably a lot of kids who would find it embarrassing too!)
We all know that the school’s intention is to include everyone, and that of course a different parent or caregiver is welcome, but many people don’t feel comfortable standing out, so the kids miss out.
If the events were more generically inclusive, then all the kids could participate regardless of who their caregivers are!
Regardless of the inclusivity of a particular event, or the world at large, there's one thing we know to be true.
A mom’s love is not to be trifled with.
Way to go, Michelle Srenco, and all single parents out there fighting the good fight every day!
Have you hugged a mom today?