hose of us without direct experience with twin babies are very curious about them. Maybe we always wanted twins or always wished we were a twin. Maybe we just want to know how hard having twins really is. Or we are afraid — very afraid — of what these little natural clones are capable of.
Those of us who do have twins have to deal with these feelings of curiosity and the questions that come with them. Every twin parents knows what it's like to be in public with their kids, where every outing turns into a Q&A session with strangers about what it's like to have twins.
If twins aren't scary as hell, then why are they in horror movies?
Sometimes our curiosity is a morbid one. We see these terrifying things, and this parent who is surviving with them, and we must know more! Like, how did this parent end up with these terrifying things? And how is she surviving with them?
Having one baby is hard. Having two must be twice as hard — at least!
The truth is that we (non-twin people) are awe struck by you (twin people). We find you fascinating for so many reasons. And so we ask questions. Some of our questions are friendly and well intentioned, and some are completely over the line and intrusive.
Many twin moms fantasize about what they wish they could say to these nosy strangers.
As any twin parent knows, questions and comments from strangers are a constant. And not all questions are polite or welcome. Oh, to have the nerve to deflect unwanted comments with a snappy reply and leave a wake of gobsmacked strangers behind as we go about our business!
Annie Nolan, an Australian mom (or "mum") of three including twin girls Delphine and Cheska, took a humorous approach to the never-ending curiosity of strangers.
She answered all the questions on a couple of signs. While she didn’t ultimately head out into the world with her kids as tiny billboards, she did share the photo on social media. And other twin moms could relate!
While most people understand that the questions they receive are intended to be friendly and harmless, it can get tiresome.
When you ask stupid questions, expect sarcastic answers.
How many times does a parent of multiple kids have to be told by strangers that she has her hands full? Of course she does. She knows that. Telling her that what she’s doing looks hard (and that she makes it look hard) isn’t helping anybody. Want to help? Find the baby sock that has fallen off 53 times in the last half hour.