Polyamorous relationships have become more and more popular over the years, with many feeling much more comfortable having a relationship with more than one person. But, there's no doubt that a lot of people find the idea of a polyamorous relationship problematic, and ultimately, unfaithful.
But these preconceptions couldn't be further from the truth for 1 woman who's in a polyamorous relationship. Especially since her love story has just taken a huge turn...
People express love in different ways...
via: ShutterstockAnd for many, expressing their love isn't always exclusive to just 1 person.
Many people consider themselves to be polyamorous.
via: Getty ImagesPolyamory is defined as loving more than one person, and it is often mistaken for an "open relationship."
A lot of people feel unfulfilled in a single relationship...
via: Getty ImagesIn reality, polyamorous relationships are unique in that they are comprised of multiple, loving partnerships.
Many struggle to characterize a polyamorous relationship, however.According to New York City relationship expert and author Susan Winter, a polyamorous relationship is often “characterized by a primary couple that openly (and with mutual consent) engage with other romantic partners. These sexual liaisons may be enacted as a couple, or independently."
These types of relationships differ depending on the person.
via: Getty ImagesFor some people, a polyamorous relationship involves being in a relationship with multiple people but having 1 main partner. For others, polyamory is the possibility of being in 2 completely separate relationships.
Polyamory works well for a lot of couples.
via: Getty ImagesBut it certainly isn't the most popular relationship type.
A lot of people who tried polyamory found it extremely difficult.Writing for the Bolde blog, a woman wrote of the negative aspects of her polyamorous relationship. "Just about every poly relationship that I’ve ever had included jealousy issues," she wrote. "When you’re in love with someone, you usually will want them all to yourself, and even if you aren’t the jealous type, it’s often emotionally hard to know that you aren’t the only one they care about."
Not everyone in the polyamorous relationship will get the same experience as the others...
via: Getty Images"Even when poly relationships don’t involve ranks by name, there’s still going to be a tendency for one partner to get more out of the relationship than the others," she also wrote.
So, the thought of being involved in a polyamorous relationship is ghastly for the majority...But there's one woman who couldn't be happier being poly...
Tory Ojeda from Jacksonville, Florida currently has 4 boyfriends.
via: FacebookThe twenty-year-old's unconventional love story kicked off 3 years ago.
She met one of her partners in high school.Tory kicked off her romance with Marc, who's eighteen, back in her high school days.
2 months later, she met someone else...
via: YouTubeTory then started a relationship with Travis, twenty-three, alongside her existing relationship with Marc.
Tory has since announced her engagement to Travis...
via: YouTubeShe also found love with long-term mutual friends Ethan, 22, and Christopher, 22. We've got the full interview clip coming right up... keep scrolling!
All of Tory's partners have their own bedrooms.
via: YouTubeBut they "swap in and out" of her bed each night, to ensure they all get equal amounts of time to spend with Tory.
Sounds all well and good. But don't they get jealous?
"There are a couple of healthy ways to deal with it. Primarily just talking to each other," Ethan explained.
Travis continued: "There's always going to be like little moments of jealousy, it does take a certain amount of restraint and just getting relaxed. I will say it helps if you know the person."Seeing [Tory] with Ethan was a lot easier because I was friends with him. Her and Chris was a bit dicier at first, there was a lot more jealousy and I'll openly admit that. The same goes for Marc because I'd never interacted with them."
Tory says each of her boyfriends are free to pursue other people...
Currently, however, Tory is the only one who has multiple romantic partners.
She says that her boyfriends are "welcome" to pursue other people if they wish to and even admits she encourages them to do so.
"Honestly, I would love it if somebody found a second partner."
"Dividing time and figuring out schedules between all 5 people and making sure everyone feels included, it's kind of difficult," she added.
She also said she likes the idea of a woman entering the relationship...
via: Facebook"I'd like to not be the only woman in the relationship. That would definitely be nice."
7 months ago, their lives changed forever...
via: YouTubeTory found out she was pregnant.
Of course, there are 4 possible fathers...But it turns out Chris is the biological dad.
"Chris is the biological father. We just know that because of timing and when the approximate conception date was," Tory explained.
"Based off of the approximate conception day, we had been on vacation. So it was only us."
You're probably wondering how the whole polyamourous thing will work going into parenthood...
via: YouTubeWell, it seems Tory has already come up with a plan...
They are all planning on raising the baby together as a 5.
"But as far as I guess, socially goes, we're all raising the baby together, so everyone's dad," Tory explained.
"We're all very, very excited to be raising a baby together."
As the biological dad, how does Chris feel?
"It's definitely a little interesting," Chris said.
"I grew up with the idea of you know, one dad, one mum. But there is a lot of support between all of us dads and it's something we can tag team."
"We always joke about the idea of getting stuck in an endless loop of go ask your dad."
Their respective families aren't quite as keen on the idea...
via: YouTubeSome family members are still struggling to come to terms with the pregnancy and the idea of the baby being raised with 4 fathers.
"Most of my friends know all my partners and they love us and think that we're cute and such. My family is kind of quiet about their disapproval. Polyamory is definitely an uncommon thing," Tory confessed.
"A lot of people have grown up in monogamy culture of, you don't really love someone if you have eyes for somebody else."
But that won't stop them...
"We definitely get weird looks," Tory admitted. "I've had people just say rude comments when we've just been hanging out at a fast food place. I've been called a h*e more than once."
"Maybe in our future, we might see it become a common thing where people don't bat an eye on it anymore at all. One can hope."