Tinder is hardly ever a source of heartwarming stories that will restore people's faith in humanity. In fact, the quick-swipe dating app is often a place wherein you'll discover the worst in people - creepy unwanted comments, bizarre displays of aggression, it's all there. If you're looking for a reliably positive interaction, it's probably best to look elsewhere.
And one unexpected Tinder user has opened up candidly about her experiences on the app. But this is a Tinderella with a difference - Hattie 'Retroage' is an eighty-three-year-old grandmother of 3.
First launched in 2012, Tinder revolutionized the dating scene.
via: ShutterstockIt worked on a location-based search, finding available singles with the app in your immediate area. Tinder hugely streamlined the way we date.
The app allows you to build a pretty minimal profile.
via: ShutterstockIt keeps the information that you can provide to a minimum and makes the process super visual. Based on whether someone likes what they see, they can swipe either right or left, yes or no.
The swiping process can be a little hypnotic.Some have criticized the way that Tinder is set up as it makes dating feel more like a game than a way to initiate real human interaction.
When two people swipe right for each other, they're set up as a match.
via: ShutterstockWe imagine this would give us a major self-esteem boost. It's probably all quite addictive.
And thus the cycle continues.The seemingly endless swiping process has totally changed the way that we date - both online and in real life.
In fact, many wish that other life decisions came with the same process.It now seems that simply approaching people IRL is off the table, and all flirting has to take place within the confines of an app.
This can cause problems.Many people on Tinder feel safely hidden behind their profile and they think that they can get away with things that they'd never do in the real world.
Flirting can go from zero to one hundred pretty quick.Many feel less inhibited through their screens than they do when actually speaking to someone, which can lead to some fairly cringe-worthy interactions.
There's another major issue with Tinder, too.It reduces people's entire selves down to a few pictures and a couple of sentences. This can make Tinder seem like a pretty superficial way to judge whether you "like" someone or not.
Many view Tinder as a place to hook up rather than to date.The lack of emotional connection and values can make Tinder seem quite shallow. It also seems to bring out the vain and judgemental sides of its users.
Behavior on Tinder is often a little questionable.
[Tinder] Him: u're cute Her: u'll be my 3rd victim Him: rockin' ass too Her: I'm literally a serial killer Him: *sends dick pic*— Samir Nazim (@Samir Nazim)1488937721.0
Many users are accused of not being totally honest.The gap between dating expectations and the reality of what typically goes down on Tinder can make you despair a little for romance.
Many dislike the open nudity that often presents itself on the app.
I keep this photo saved on my phone for whenever guys from a Tinder ask me to send them a nude. https://t.co/Q3WSTOmWGD— Sarah Mirk (@Sarah Mirk)1488582801.0
But it's not just about how we present ourselves.
*finds soulmate* *swipes left in hopes of finding a hotter soulmate*— DaddyJew (@DaddyJew)1421860817.0
It's safe to say that Tinder doesn't tend to bring out the best in us.
When you run out of people to swipe on Tinder, your camera should turn on and force you to look at what you've become.— Greg Dorris (@Greg Dorris)1436881678.0
One particular profile has recently gone viral.The story of one slightly unusual Tinder user has shocked the internet.
via: YouTubeThe eighty-three-year-old grandmother of 3 has opened up about her surprising experiences on the world's sleaziest dating app.
"With Tinder I see them and we do become attracted to each other, and I could see that we'll have a good night together.""Then I don't hear from them again. Pretty much I’ve become a woman who gets hooked up even though that was not my intention," she revealed.
"What I would desire from my life is a partner.""One that's turned on by me, and I'm turned on by him. So I would want a man, I would guess that’s 60."
"The oldest man from Tinder was 60 and he was really good, I saw him once."
via: YouTube"It was a good match, it was excellent, but again, they did not want to get that attached and have a relationship with a woman my age."
She's somewhat unlucky in love.
via: YouTube"It's very rare that a young man will pick a much older woman and live with her, that's rare."
Hattie also keeps some things secret."There are few things that I’m asked, one is the number and then the size, and those are 2 things I don’t necessarily discuss. But I’ve been with a lot of men because I’ve been out there dating and sleeping with men for 35 years."
Hattie tries to avoid labels."I'm a cougar by default," she admits.
But she's looking for more than just a hookup."Each time I would have wanted one of the men to say, ‘I can't live without you, this is so great’. My former husband said that, but nobody else has said it yet."
"Sometimes people say, don't you want variety? If you only had one man, would that be good enough?""I say, it's not that I need variety, I need frequency, so if you have one man, you always have a [man] in bed with you or wherever it's going to be. I really want that steady sexuality, I had that when I was married, but if it isn't happening, it isn't happening."
But now Hattie wants to get serious."I didn't want to get a man on a dating site, but then I kept hearing people get men and life mates and marriage partners and everything, that it could get serious, so I figured let me give it a try."
"Now, I was not visualizing myself as just a one-night stand but I ended up that way by default.""Because what would happen is, a man would be attracted to me and me to him, and we would meet, have a drink, then if we were interested in each other, more specifically if I was interested in them, then I bring them to the apartment and we'd make love."
Hattie is leaving Tinder to find a more "serious" dating site."I learned a lot from Tinder. You learn a lot of who you really are."
"And I did find that all of them were good experiences, different."
via: YouTube"But finally I said, look, I can't just keep saying yes to what I don't really want, I really want one man."