The Most Annoying Rom-Com Moments of All Time | 22 Words

A lot of people (read: dudes) don't like romantic comedies. They think they're lame, hacky, and most importantly, devoid of punching and explosions. But those people are wrong. Rom-com films are, quite possibly, the best movie genre.

There's no cynicism in a rom-com — we just get two people that the universe — fate itself — have decided to belong together. There's comfort in knowing they'll get together in the end, and every relationship mistake along the way is just another beat of a story this star-crossed couple will one day tell their grandkids.

But just because rom-coms are the best genre doesn't mean they're perfect. Everyone has at least one moment that is so eye-rolling lame you can understand why boyfriends the world over turn up their noses at the thought of watching a rom-com. And here they are, the most annoying moments from romantic comedies.

How about that How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, huh?

Kate Hudson plays a writer working on an article about all the things women do wrong in relationships. She plans to lure in a man and then get him to leave her (guess how many days she gives herself to do it?).

It's a movie about its most likable character deciding to be cartoonishly awful.

She goes out of her way to be the worst possible girlfriend to our boy Mathew McConaughey, invading his boundaries on a boys' poker night and photoshopping their faces together to see what their kids would look like. And remember, they are less than 10 days into the relationship. It wouldn't be so bad if it were about an annoying character finding love with a nice Mathew McConaughey-kind of guy. But we, the audience, know it's all fake — she's not being authentic.

It has what I call the Dexter problem.

In the first season of the Showtime drama Dexter, the audience finds out the identity of the mysterious ice truck killer about three episodes before our hero, Dexter, does. So we spend those episodes annoyed that the character we're supposed to be connecting with is acting so stupidly around who we know is the killer. Good movies send the audience on the ride with the characters we're being asked to fall in love with. How am I supposed to connect with Kate Hudson and Mathew McConaughey when I'm constantly seeing them behave in a way I hate?

It's almost rom-com sacrilege to speak ill of 10 Things I Hate About You.

With two phenomenal romantic couples — Julia Styles & Heath Ledger and Joseph Gordon-Levitt and the criminally-underrated Larisa Oleynik — 10 Things I Hate About You makes us root for two couples when most rom-coms struggle to make us root for one.

But Kat's poem? It's trash.

At the end of the movie, after they've gone through all the trials and tribulations of falling in love, Julia Styles' Kat writes a poem for Heath Ledger's Patrick, and oh man. It's just rough. Look at this sludge: I hate the way you talk to me And the way you cut your hair I hate the way you drive my car I hate it when you stare I hate your big dumb combat boots And the way you read my mind I hate you so much that it makes me sick It even makes me rhyme I hate the way you're always right I hate it when you lie I hate it when you make me laugh Even worse when you make me cry I hate the way you're not around And the fact that you didn't call But mostly I hate the way I don't hate you Not even close, not even a little bit, not even at all. That is some get-you-a-C-in-eighth-grade-poetry-level poetry right there.

Maybe if she'd sung it in the bleachers?

My first thought was that the poem would've sounded better if it was being performed as a grand gesture of love in front of the entire school, but I don't know. It's a pretty bad poem. It'd be the biggest test of the grand romantic gesture.

Next, we've got Clueless.

The rom-com that gave '90s teens a whole new vocabulary with which to dismiss people — "as if" and "whatever" — starred Alicia Silverstone as a super-wealthy Beverly Hills girl looking high and low for the perfect boyfriend.

At the end, that perfect boyfriend turns out to be her step-brother.

At the end, she settles down with the guy she grew up with. Granted, he was played by Paul Rudd and is, therefore, Marvel superhero-level attractive, but it still leaves a weird taste in your mouth.

That's the whole movie!

The idea of falling for a step-brother — someone you have no blood relation to but some unspoken familial ties — is kind of the perfect rom-com set-up. You can have both characters spend time together and be themselves while also having this giant obstacle keeping them apart. But it takes an entire movie to tease out the issues involved there! Don't just tack it on at the end!

Now we turn to TV's best rom-com, How I Met Your Mother.

The most romantically-minded show in TV history, How I Met Your Mother spent nine seasons on its main character, Ted Mosby, and his search for the perfect love — a love we knew he'd eventually find, because the show was framed as a conversation with his future children about how he'd met their mother.

But the show hinted at tragedy halfway through its final season.

Ted finally meets the titular mother in the final season of the show, and almost immediately we start getting flash-forwards hinting that she's sick?! What a slap in the face to those of us who'd spent years going along with the show's almost passive-aggressive withholding of half its lead couple.

And then they pulled the trigger in the finale.

We find out that, yes, in this future where Ted's been telling his kids the story, the mother had passed away. Plus, Ted was asking permission from his kids to get together with a completely different woman. This was an ending that would've worked in season one, not in season nine. Oh man, I'm still upset about it.

Love Actually is actually about 45 rom-coms packed into one.

You ever make a way-too-ambitious weekend to-do list? You're not going to clean the garage, mow the lawn, and put up the Halloween decorations. That's the movie Love Actually. There is a lot going on here — kids are falling in love, secretaries are falling in love, the Prime Minister of the UK is falling in love.

But this Kiera Knightly/ Andrew Lincoln storyline?

In one of its 800 storylines, Kiera Knightly plays a married woman and Andrew Lincoln plays her husband's best friend. And he's in love with her. And he is a real jerk about it.

Who thought that was cute?!

Andrew Lincoln basically goes behind his best friend's back to tell Kiera Knightly he's going to love her forever. He stealthily holds up cards to tell her he plans on stalking her for the rest of her days. And a screenwriter thought that would make us swoon? Get out of here.

Sometimes, annoying moments in rom-coms have to happen for the sake of the plot.

I get it, you can't have a rom-com where two people meet and just date like normal people. Sometimes ridiculous things have to get in their way. Take, for instance, the entire movie Serendipity — the entire universe keeps getting in the middle of the obviously perfect-for-each-other Kate Beckinsale and John Cusak.

But the letters going out in To All the Boys I've Loved Before is a new low.

In To All the Boys I've Loved Before, our hero Lara Jean writes letters to every boy she's ever had a crush on, but she keeps them locked in a box. You don't set up a Chekhov's gun like that and fire it by getting those letters into a mailbox.

Why is no one mad at this awful little sister?

Every rom-com needs a quirky oddball to balance out all the angst and swooning, but in To All the Boys I've Loved Before, that mascot character is Lara Jean's little sister Kitty sent the letters because... who knows? And everyone just kind of shrugs their shoulders and moves on from this incredible betrayal! I needed at least one scene where Lara Jean considers putting out a mob hit on her sister.

Never Been Kissed is about a teacher-student relationship.

See, this is what's so annoying about Never Been Kissed — it's a great rom-com that is consistently tainted by the fact that its central relationship is between Drew Barrymore, a reporter going undercover at a high school and pretending to be a 17-year-old, and her teacher. I'll say it again — the second half of our romantic leads is Drew Barrymore's teacher.

Granted, Drew Barrymore is technically not a student.

I know, I know, Drew Barrymore's character is actually 25 and she's just pretending to be a high school student as research for an article. (A lot of rom-coms use that "researching an article" trope to justify their madcap plots, huh?)

But that doesn't make it any less creepy.

The teacher still thought he was going after a student. The fact that she was revealed to be not really

While You Were Sleeping is a great rom-com...

In the movie that made her a go-to rom-com heroine, Sandra Bullock plays Lucy, a toll booth worker who falls in love with one of her regular customers.

... but it is punctuated by annoying moments.

It should be noted, though, that she has maybe four words of conversation with this regular customer. And after said customer falls into a coma, a series of comedic misunderstandings lead his family to think she's his fiancé. And to top it all off, the regular customer's brother falls for her, but she can't tell him without blowing up the lie. This movie is the definition of a hat on a hat — it's already unusual to find yourself maintaining a lie with a coma patient's family. But to then fall for another guy in said coma patient's family?

Sandra Bullock saves this movie.

If anyone other than the most likable actor in history played Lucy, the audience goes through this entire movie rooting for Sandra to go to the insane asylum.

You've Got Mail might be my favorite rom-com of all time.

You've got Tom Hanks. You've got Meg Ryan. They're a rom-com power couple! And in You've Got Mail, we rectify the mistake of Sleepless In Seattle — a movie that sees Hanks and Ryan spend the movie on opposite sides of the country and not meet until the very end — and give them all the screen-time together they can handle. They're enemies, they're friends, but most importantly, they're together.

But why can't we be in the same boat as the characters for longer?

Hanks owns a mega-corporate bookstore threatening to put Ryan's little indie bookstore out of business. But they're both falling in love over the new-in-1998 technology of email... without knowing who they're talking to.

It's the Dexter problem all over again.

We the audience know Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan are perfect for each other, but they don't know, and it's another case of the Dexter issue. We want to be on the level with the characters we're falling in love with! The midpoint of this movie should have seen both characters figure out who was on the other end of that dial-up connection and then be afraid to tell the other.

27 Dresses is a rom-com that doesn't get its due.

There was a time when Katherine Heigl seemed locked to be the heir to Meg Ryan's throne as the queen of the rom-coms, and 27 Dresses is probably the biggest reason why. Playing a perpetual bridesmaid (guess how many dresses she had to buy?) she meets James Marsden, who might finally be The One. Of course, since it's a rom-com, he's writing an article about her.

But there is one glaringly annoying scene snuck right in the middle.

As Heigl and Marsden are falling in love, they start singing Elton John's "Benny and the Jets," and on a non-karaoke night, the entire bar gets behind them.

Falling in love is supposed to be magical in these movies, but this?

I get it — when you're in love, the world changes around you. It's the movie communicating how magical this connection is. But this scene couldn't have missed the mark more. No one likes these kinds of people at the bar. This scene is a screenwriter smelling their own farts and assuming everyone else will like them too.