I'm afraid that if you clicked on this article suspecting that it might be click bait, it isn't. As much as I'd like to say, "only joking, this story has totally been blown out of proportion and no kind of homophobic exchanged actually happened," I, unfortunately, can't.
As much as we want to believe that we're living in a progressive world wherein we have the freedom to love whoever we want to, some people don't seem to have gotten the memo that that can be possible.
A twenty-two-year old beautician from Texas was reminded of this all too bluntly when a bride-to-be said that she wouldn't hire her to do her wedding make-up unless she changed her "mind about being gay."
"Okay, that's totally fine, you have a nice day."Responding to the homophobic client, Kristian Cardenas was more than graceful. If someone didn't hire me as their make up artist... well, I'd say fair enough, because I'm terrible at make-up. But if someone didn't hire me for something that I am good at, like swimming or something (swimming jobs?), because I'm gay, I would certainly want to question why my decision as to why who I would rather take home after a night out would affect my professional judgment.
Sadly, it's not easy to call someone out, even if said somebody is a bigot.Standing up for yourself is hard, but standing up for your sexual decisions is even harder. No one likes talking about their sex lives... well, I suppose some people do, but most people don't. Having to defend what you get up to in the bedroom to a perfect stranger is really difficult and should not in any way be necessary. Homophobic attacks are a little like getting a stomach ache after going to an all-you-can-eat buffet: you don't anticipate it, but you're never surprised.
"Oh, I don't want a gay person doing my wedding make up."After being rejected by the client because of her sexuality, Cardenas bravely asked, "I'm sorry, but what does that have to do with your wedding or my services?" Like seriously, what has her sexuality got to do with your lame ass wedding?
People following Kristian's story have guessed the bride's concerns...One Facebook-user made the fair suggestion that the bride-to-be was concerned that being in the vicinity of a gay person may inadvertently turn her gay. I guess that may well scupper her wedding plans...
Being exposed to the same air as a gay person is definitely what makes you gay.
via: Imdb.comWhen I was a baby, I was locked in an airtight room with Jodie Foster and Kristen Stewart.
The ill-informed bride-to-be tried to explain her reasoning behind the "no gay" rule...
The unnamed bride stated, "I just can't have someone who's gay being a part of my special day. The wedding is in a church and I don't want you walking into my church."There's a whole bunch of things wrong with this, but let's start with "I just." That's right, we're really going to go to town on this. So, to me, "just" implies something small, like "it's just going to be my friends that you've already met at the party," or "I just need you to pick up one lemon from the story," you know? "I just don't want any gay people at my wedding" is not a "just" situation; adding it to your a**hole justification doesn't make you any less of an a** hole. Don't hide behind an adverb you little nasty, you.
Did you know that every time a gay walks into a church, an angel drops from the sky and crushes a homophobe?It's true, I heard it on the radio. The bride-to-be claimed that she didn't want a gay person in her church. I didn't know that your make-up artist had to attend the ceremony... Maybe the bride-to-be gets a real bad greasy face that would need a constant reapplication of powder to ensure that she didn't resemble a tin of vaseline by the time they got to the vows? Whatever her skin problems may be, though, it's really not cool to banish someone from somewhere because they're gay. And I'm not gonna hear any of this "being gay is a sin" baloney because the Bible doesn't even say that women can't be with women, you know what it does say though?
"He that is wounded in the stones, or hath his privy member cut off, shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord."(Deuteronomy 23:1)Which basically means that if your genitals are wounded, you aren't welcome at church.
If I kicked the bride's hubby in the balls, would she ban him as well?I think that it's important to live in the present. I'm not saying that religion is a load of garbage, I think it's cool to have faith, but making religion exclusive based on outdated principles is really no way to behave.
Sadly, the bride's comments really hurt Cardenas.Speaking to Insider magazine, the make-up artist admitted that, "I struggle with religion myself, so hearing from someone 'I'm not welcome in their church' hurt me in more ways than I thought." The sad truth is that, even though we know that people like the bride-to-be are stupid, it still hurts. Why? Because in the same way that she can't change her greasy face, we can't change being gay! It's not a choice, it just is what it is.
The audacity of this bride-to-be knows no limits.Not only did she explicitly say that Kristian Cardenas could not be part of her wedding day because she is gay, she also felt completely within her rights to say: "I still have more questions." *eye roll* "How can you be a Latina woman and be gay? You do know being gay is a sin, correct?" *sleeve roll*
I have a question...How could anybody possibly want to marry, and promise to spend the rest of their life with, someone as painfully ignorant/down-right rude as you? Anybody? Maybe he's just as bad.
Clearly, the bride never saw the L Word.Before Cardenas could even fathom a response to the claim that being Latina and gay are two totally contradicting components (I guess she never saw Carmen in The L word..), the Bridezilla continued.
"I will pray for you, my friend. I'm sorry that you've chosen a path that's going to send you straight to hell."She then went on to use her favorite adverb again: "I think you do beautiful makeup but I just can't have someone who's gay being a part of my special day."
Don't you hate it when someone says something horrible and then sugar coats it?"Have you gained weight? Cute top though." "Oh wow, no one's ever asked you out? You're so lucky, dating's trash." "Aw, you look so tired, bless you." You know, that kind of thing. Our Bridezilla is deffo one of those people.
Thankfully, Kristian knew the best way to handle a homophobe...Block 'em.
After blocking the bride-to-be, Cardena's shared the exchange on Facebook.Along with screenshots of the conversation, Kristian wrote: "Today I was taken back a little bit, and I doubted if I wanted to continue doing hair and makeup if this is the response I am going to get for being who I am."
"Homophobia is real."Explaining the reason that she decided to share the messages, Kristian wrote: "Homophobia is real, and with it being pride month I feel like the comments get worse. I'm sharing this today to say, please be kind to everyone. If someone doesn't have the same views as you, opinions, or whatever it may be, just respect them. Don't hate them for being different." *rounds of applause* *bouquets of flowers* *miscellaneous underwear* Seriously though, what an eloquent post. Well put, girl.
Thankfully, the internet reminded Cardena's that not everyone is awful.Sadly, the post also attracted the attention of some bigots, as this article may well do - but these losers were shot down by supporters of Kristian.
The make-up artist from Texas had no idea that her post would draw so much attention.
via: FacebookSpeaking to Insider Magazine, she said: "I thought I was just sharing this with my friends and family," adding, "My girlfriend is from a different state and wanted her friends and family to see what had happened so she asked me to make it public." Unfortunately, Kristian's post highlights an issue within this country that hasn't gone away. It's almost been three years to the day since the Pulse Nightclub shooting which killed forty-nine people and wounded fifty-three, making it one of America's worst mass shootings in history. The attack, in case you'd forgotten, was an attack specifically targeting the gay community. I don't want people to live in fear. I don't want to live in fear. Anyone that thinks that it's acceptable to discriminate against somebody for their sexuality needs a reality check - sharpish. Life's hard enough, right? Unfortunately, this bride isn't the only one out there who thinks that there are things that members of the LGBTQ+ community can't do as a consequence of their sexuality. Keep reading to learn about the fifteen things that gay and trans people "can't" do according to some straight people.