I have five kids, and I'm about to go out on a limb and tell you one of the biggest parenting secrets that nobody else seems to want to say out loud. Are you ready? Here it is.
Before their baby is born, plenty of moms and dads really, deeply, fervently care about the baby's gender. Like, a lot.
I mean, whenever someone asks, we always repeat the universal mantra of expecting parents, that "Whether it's a boy or a girl, we just want him or her to be healthy," and that's totally true. Because duh, why wouldn't you want that?
But sometimes, for all sorts of reasons, parents are secretly hoping for one or the other.
We live in a gender-obsessed society.Like all societies, we have a way of projecting our obsessions onto people and things that don't know any better. In this case, those little people would be babies and pregnant parents-to-be.
Not content to stop there, we tend to project gender on just about everything, as you can see here.
We also put genders on cars in movies, which speaks to just how gender-obsessed we can get about even inanimate objects.Ever notice how cars are always women? "She's acting up on me," Sshe's out of gas," etc. Except in the Cars universe, of course, where the hot rods are male, in keeping with gender roles.
This idea extends to the phenomenon of the "gender reveal party," which have become quite the to-do in recent years.Soon-to-be parents love any excuse to party, and that includes the revelation of their unborn child's sex. They save up the big moment for their friends, then share the moment on social media of all sorts.
Take Josh Baston, for example, who recently sat down at his kitchen table for a gender reveal party...with his four daughters. Yeah, you heard me — FOUR DAUGHTERS.
via: FacebookSay what you want about "nature taking its course" and "just wanting the baby to be healthy," but I think we can all agree that it's perfectly understandable if Baston were, deep down, hoping that his wife's fifth pregnancy would maybe add a son to the mix. Kudos to him, though, because he keeps a straight face while his wife, Christine Baston, records a Facebook Live video of the girls predicting their new sibling's gender and then slowly, oh so painfully slowly, nibbling their gigantic cupcakes to reveal either pink or blue icing inside.