Dad Says He 'Hates' His 1-Year-Old Baby Because His Wife Died Giving Birth To Him | 22 Words

One man took to Reddit to share his hateful feelings towards his newborn son, after his wife died during childbirth.

Keep scrolling to read his heartbreaking post...

Becoming a parent is not an easy task...


Anyone who's raised a child will confirm that they don't call it the hardest job in the world for nothing.

And there's another factor which makes the job exponentially harder.

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Raising a kid as a part of a 2-man parenting team is tricky at the best of times – but if you’re managing it as a single parent, you definitely deserve some sort of award.

Being a single parent is always tricky.

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Dealing with the challenges of parenting as a one-man team can be even more testing.

And to add to that, one man has had to deal with the death of his wife while trying to raise his newborn son...

And he's struggling to deal with it all...

In his grief, the man has admitted to hating his son after his wife died giving birth to him...

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And people have mixed emotions about his resentful words...

The man took to Reddit to share his resentment towards his son...



He wrote: "My wife (22F) and me (22M) got married when we were 19. It was honestly one of the happiest days in my life and our marriage was wonderful, I loved her more than anything. In our second year of college, she ended up getting pregnant. As a side note, her parents and my parents are horrendous, abusive, and overbearing."

He continued...

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"We struggled to cut off contact (I went full after my wife passed away) and when she got pregnant, her parents threatened to cut off all financial support if she aborted. She was young but had to have the baby because of her overbearing parents. As such, my wife didn't really have the heart to abort either so she decided to keep it. The pregnancy was horrible on her, she was constantly nauseous and sick. Last year, the day of labor comes, of course, I'm beside her even though it's a baby I never wanted. I'd rather not get into detail, but the worst happened and I went home alone with a baby."

And things only went downhill from there...

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His initial plan was to go to med school, but that just didn't happen.

He then added that the first year after his wife died was hell...

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"I worked two jobs and my son was bounced around with my friends, who rotated looking after him while I was working. I worked 12am-8am overnight where I'd leave him with my best friend. Thankfully he was not a fussy baby and slept through most of the night. At eight o'clock, coming home from work, I'd swing by and pick him up and then spend time with him, probably end up falling asleep in chunks with him waking me up screaming, then I'd be off to work again at 3pm-9pm where I worked part-time at a drugstore. I'd call up whichever friend was available and struggle to find someone to keep him."

When no one could take care of the baby, he'd call in sick...

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"I'm 22 with a son who turned one today. Couldn't find anyone to watch him so I called in. He's sleeping next to me in his cradle and looking at his squishy little face I just... I hate him. I hate this stupid fucking kid. Well, not entirely. When he snuggles next to me the few hours I have off, I get a rush of affection for him. But most of the time, I hate him. He wrote this during his son's first birthday, adding that he knew he was supposed to throw a big party, but I can't. It's about three o'clock right now where I am and I've been crying on and off since I got up this morning. This isn't his birthday, this is the day my wife died. If she had been here right now, then I wouldn't be all by myself with a one-year-old. Who I literally hate more than anything in the world."

He said he wants to go back in time and stop his wife from having the baby...


"I'm really just ranting now. I just wish I could go back to before he was born, when I was a bright-eyed kid who was going to go to med school and live a successful life as a doctor, with a beautiful wife and tons of friends. You know what's going on now with my friends? They're starting to get sick of me. I'm just 'the one with the kid' who's always pawning him off to all of them. They hang out without me, not that I could even come if they asked. And I bet they're sick of it too. For a year, they've been practically half raising my kid. But this won't work forever. I can't rely on them forever. They're already getting sick of him. I'm sick of him. And I've got seventeen more years before I'm free."

His story is heartbreaking, and we just hope he can get the help he needs.

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