Gay Poly Throuple Listing 3 Dads on Birth Certificate | 22 Words

3 dads have made legal history after they became the first throuple to have all 3 names listed on their child's birth certificate...


But it nearly didn't happen...

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A heartbreaking thought.

For these 3 dads, becoming parents has been a challenge from the beginning.

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Keep scrolling to hear their incredible story.

Now, people express love in different ways...

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And for many, expressing their love isn't always exclusive to just one person.

Many people consider themselves to be polyamorous...

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Polyamory is defined as loving more than one person, and it is often mistaken for an "open relationship."

A lot of people feel unfulfilled in a single relationship...

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In reality, polyamorous relationships are unique in that they are comprised of multiple, loving partnerships.

Many struggle to characterize a polyamorous relationship, however...


According to New York City relationship expert and author Susan Winter, a polyamorous relationship is often “characterized by a primary couple that openly (and with mutual consent) engage with other romantic partners. These sexual liaisons may be enacted as a couple, or independently."

These types of relationships differ depending on the person...

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For some people, a polyamorous relationship involves being in a relationship with multiple people but having one main partner. For others, polyamory is the possibility of being in 2 completely separate relationships.

And while polyamory works well for a lot of couples.

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It doesn't come without it's difficulties.

One of the biggest difficulties for those in a polyamorous relationship is society.


Unfortunately, a minority of people are unaccepting of polyamorous relationships.

Society is in some ways not set up for polyamorous relationships...

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As one throuple found out when they had to fight to have their names on their child's birth certificates.

But now, $120,000 and several contracts later...

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They have made a moment in legal history and it's been praised online...

Ian Jenkins, Alan Mayfield, and Jeremy Allen Hodges faced restrictive laws that prevented them from building a family through surrogacy.

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But after a battle in court, medical setbacks and $120,000 on legal fees, they made legal history back in 2017 after a judge allowed all 3 dads to be named on the birth certificate of their daughter, Piper.

The trio, who are now parents to 2 children, daughter Piper, and son Parker, broke a huge milestone for polyamorous families in the US.

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But it wasn't easy...

Speaking to The Morning Show, Alan said, "The big challenge for us was the legal challenges."


"So with surrogacy you have to have a parentage order from the court, declaring who will be the legal parents."

"At the beginning, we weren't sure that we could all 3 of us on the birth certificate, so it became a court process."


"We argued in court - it was a pretty interesting, tense courtroom scene. At first it seemed we were not going to be granted that, so we asked to speak in court and pled out viewpoint and the judge ultimately changed her mind and granted us legal parentage for our child before she was born."

Ian has explained their reproductive journey and legal battle to become fathers in his upcoming book titled, Three Dads and a Baby.

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Ian met Mayfield, a psychiatrist, while they were both completing their medical residencies in Boston.

They were a couple for 8 years before meeting Hodges, who works at a zoo hospital, and sparking a romantic relationship.

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They had been a throuple for 5 years before they began discussing parenthood.

In his book, Jenkins writes: "The fact that Piper has 3 parents is just not a big deal. I have 3 parents myself — my mother, father, and stepmother — and no one thinks anything of it."

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"Some people seem to think it's about a ton of sex or something, or we're unstable and must do crazy things. [But] it's really remarkably ordinary and domestic in our house and definitely not 'Tiger King'."

He later adds that his children have no issues in understanding their parents relationship, explaining that: "I'm Papa, Alan is Dada, and Jeremy is Daddy."

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"We all bring something different. Alan is the best at reading books, with an accent and backstory for every character. Jeremy is the creative dad, who makes bath bombs and special lunches for the kids. Ian is often the family cook, and the resident fort-maker."

If a child's loved and looked after, surely that's all that should matter.


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