One dad with 2 young daughters has opened up about his experience of potty training his girls while out in public, and he’s sparked a huge debate…
Diaper changing stations, here in America, are almost always found in women’s restrooms, something that blogger and girl dad, Muhammed Nitoto, knows all too well…
Recalling the first time he took his 2 daughters, Zendaya, 5, and Zuri, 3, to the women’s bathroom, he shared with TODAY Parents: “I’m a 6-foot-2 Black man, I had no idea what the reaction would be.”
At the time, Nitoto — who runs the blog Chronicle Of Daddy, shared that he made the decision early on to take his daughters to the women’s bathroom when they needed to use the toilet. He explained that it has been a huge learning curve…
On his Instagram, where he documents his girl-dad journey, he wrote: “As a dad being out with daughters I never thought the bathroom would become as big as an issue as it is.
“Usually, we would go places and they have FAMILY bathrooms which are meant for people with children but what I found was most places don’t have them, and Dads are left to decide between taking their daughters to the men’s bathroom or the women’s.”
He continued: “Now when first hit with this choice I did what most men would do which is, I went to the Men’s bathroom. Now I’ve been to a men’s bathroom millions of times but walking in with your daughter makes you look at it completely different.
“Men’s bathrooms are DISGUSTING. They smell like pee and nothing is set up for a woman or a person with a child. The changing table was right next to the urinal which means my child literally would be next to where men pee which she’s being charged.
“Not to mention that there are men going in and out while you’re in there. After doing that 1 time I decided I’d never take my daughters to the men’s bathroom again. I use the women’s bathroom when I’m out with them. They are too young to go on their own so I have to go in with them. “
He then explained that he always tries to be “as respectful to women as I can,” meaning he will always knock and announce he is coming in before entering…
“Making sure if someone is inside that they know I am a Dad coming in with his daughter and making sure they are comfortable with that. Now once inside our stall I still am aware of the door and whenever I hear it open and someone new is coming in I announce myself again and make sure they know I’m inside with my child so that they aren’t surprised.”
He concluded: “Women’s bathrooms are so much cleaner and set up perfectly just in case they have children. The changing station is usually inside a stall instead of just in the open and it’s always clean. As a girl dad, I can’t help but want to protect my daughters from all things that aren’t for them and the men’s bathroom is 100% one of those things.”
Many commenters were supportive of Nitoto’s choices and thanked him for being so respectful. “Well done on being an awesome caring dad,” one user gushed. While another wrote: “Absolutely the right thing to do. Well done.”
However, some were against his actions, with one commenting: “Men need to stay out of women’s bathrooms. Full stop, no exceptions. This will restrict your movements, meaning you can only go to places with family bathrooms? Suck it up… No men in women’s bathrooms, ever. No excuses.”
What do you think?