We all know the perception of only children, youngest children, older children, and, of course, the overlooked middle child, but how much of that is real?
via: DiplyWell, it's definitely true that the order in which kids are born has an effect on their personality. But it's still unclear whether it's nature or nurture that dictates it. Take a look and see for yourself. Do you fit the descriptions below?
Perception isn't always reality. If it was, then every older sibling would be "bossy" to some degree.
For centuries, people have tried to determine how birth order REALLY affects a person's personality and mindset.
via: DiplyLots of ideas have been tossed around, but many have been disregarded.
Researchers still can't agree on whether the birth order innately affects the child or if it's the family structure that follows that shapes the kids.
via: DiplyNevertheless, there are some traits that are clearly correlated to where you lie in the order of birth among your siblings, so let's take a look at them!
Experts contend that only children tend to be more mature.
via: DiplyThat makes a degree of sense, since they hang out with adults (their parents) far more than a kid with siblings would. Only children also tend to be more independent than those with siblings. They have fewer opportunities to play with others, so they are left to develop themselves.
However, this independence can come at a cost.
via: DiplyOther research shows that being an only child can cause problems with cooperating and compromising in a group dynamic or in social settings.
Firstborn kids seem to be more driven and ambitious than kids born later in the order.
via: DiplyThis could be because parents spend more one-on-one time with their first kid. This can be good, but can lead to the child becoming "over-responsible."
Firstborns can be bossy, too. I mean, they were there first, after all.
The first borns got more attention and might fight to keep it when younger ones come around!
The second born kids tend to be compromising and accommodating.
via: DiplyIs it because the first-borns are so bossy?MAYBE! But it's definitely a strong correlation.
Second borns and middle kids also tend to be really attentive to rules and structure.
via: DiplyDr. Gross says more about that here.
Young ones are also likely to be the most rambunctious and "crazy" though we can't exactly agree on why that is.
via: DiplySome think that parents get more lax about boundaries as they have more children, but others think that it's the child's way of demanding attention with so many other kids around.
It's been proven though that parents ease up on rules from younger ones because they've learned their kids really aren't in CONSTANT danger.
via: DiplyEither that, or they're just tired of enforcing rules!
But young kids ARE free spirits compared to their older siblings.
They also turn out to be more "fun" than their older brothers and sisters.
via: DiplyAnd together, they all form a crazy, wonderful family. Do YOU fall in line with these personality types based on birth order?