Hillary Duff Shows Reality of Being a Working, Breastfeeding Mom in Emotional New Instagram Post | 22 Words

In a recent Instagram post, Hilary Duff opened up about the trials of her breastfeeding experience and how she came to the decision to stop breastfeeding.

Hilary has been in the public eye for years: fame at such a young age, high profile relationships, a divorce, and now a new engagement! Part of her appeal is and has always been her relatability. Whether she was trying and failing as Lizzie McGuire or playing rising star Kelsey on Younger, she's always represented her generation.

Now, as a working mom, she can relate to a whole new group of women going through the same things and living through the same pressures.

Keep reading to see what she had to say about her experience!

Hilary Duff has been famous since she played Lizzie, in "Lizzie McGuire."

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For a generation of girls, Lizzie and her animated inner voice expressed all of our insecurities. If social media had been a thing, all of the tween girls of that age would have been like this.

She's grown up with us.

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Hilary Duff is one of the few child stars that survived the whole thing and came out on the other side still relatable.

Through good times...

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She was a style icon at her age and for our generation, even if some of it doesn't hold up. She walked the line of relatable and aspirational.

And, maybe some bad times.

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It's so funny to think that the beginning of Lindsay Lohan in the tabloids was her love triangle with Hilary Duff and Aaron Carter.

She’s been a relatable voice for millennials since we were first called “millennials."

There are memes galore from this show. The writing really spoke to a younger audience, which is hard to do.

After Lizzie McGuire, she did a few movies, notably "A Cinderella Story."

Is this Chad Michael Murray's most adorable role? Perhaps. They had great chemistry on screen and she was so winning as a modern day Cinderella.

And now she stars in "Younger," where she plays an unabashedly fierce book editor opposite Sutton Foster.

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Younger is one of the best shows about being a young woman in the workplace. Although Hilary's character's astronomical rise, and her clothes, are more than a little fantastical, the show feels contemporary without condescension.

Hilary duff has been with Matthew Koma since 2017.

Hilary got divorced in 2016 amicably. Although Hilary had said she doesn't feel the need to get remarried, Hilary and Matthew got engaged on April 9, 2019!

She has two kids.

Hilary has one child from her first marriage, Luca, and she gave birth to her second child, Banks, in October 2018.

Her Instagram covers not only her professional life but also her private life.

Hilary is not afraid to show it all, on set and at home. Her Instagram features private moments with her fiance and children and also behind the scenes moments of her TV show.

She continues to be a voice of our generation, as we’ve aged with her.

Throughout her Instagram, she posts memes and pictures of llamas. Just like her animated cartoon gave voice to our inner thoughts, now her Instagram feels like the gram of a friend.

In a recent post, she shared her experience of breastfeeding as a working mom.

In keeping with her "hide nothing" social media presence, Hilary wrote a candid post about her experience breastfeeding and her difficult decision to stop.

She starts off saying that she stopped nursing her six month old last week.

She kicks off the post with a call to the "Ladies" who might relate to what she's going through and says that she stopped nursing recently.

When she had Banks, she had the goal of nursing for six months.

"I am a working mom of two. My goal was to get my little girl to six months and then decide if I (and her of course) wanted to keep going."

But, she was working the entire time and it was super hard.

"Let me tell you. Pumping at work sucks. I had zero downtime and am usually pumping in a hair and makeup trailer while four hands work to get me ready for the next scene with lots of other people around."

Because she couldn't be with her baby as much, she was pumping, which she hated.

The machine hurts and makes an annoying sound "that echoes through your head day and night." Then, once you have the milk, you have to find a place for the bottles. It's all inconvenient and painful.

With her first child, it wasn't as much of a problem.

She didn't go back to work after Luca for nine months. So, she barely had to pump with him. It's much easier to nurse your child directly.

Pumping is a great tool, but it's difficult as your only source of feeding.

"Your milk supply drastically drops when you stop feeding as often and lose the actual contact and connection with your baby."

To compensate for pumping's shortcomings, she had to eat something that sounds downright awful.

It's called "fenugreek," an herbal supplement which has been used to help stimulate breast milk production. And, as she said, made her "smell like maple syrup and rubber gloves."

As much as she loved breastfeeding, she needed a break.

"With all of this complaining, I want to say I enjoyed (almost) every moment of feeding my daughter. Felt so lucky to be so close to her and give her that start. I know many women are not able to, and for that, I am sympathetic and very grateful that I could. For six wonderful months. But I needed a break. I was going to break."

The stress of the milk supply plus the pressure to be supermom became overwhelming.

She "was sad and frustrated and feeling like a failure all of the time" even though she sees herself as a "badass rock star."

She says that all women push themselves to "do a little more" which is why she wanted to share this.

"We are strong as hell over-achievers. I am amazed at all that we can do in one single day! That goes for myself my mom friends, my mom, or my sister! I’m talking to you too mom, I don’t know who’s reading this. I wanted to share this because deciding to stop BFing was so emotional and hard."

She struggled with the decision to stop.

"I thought about it all day every day. it was a constant loop in my head. weighing the pros and cons... it was about me and not banks at that point."

And, once deciding to stop, it was still hard.

"I cried many times and felt depressed while weening. I wasn't myself at all."

She attributes her mood swings to the powerful affects of the oxytocin high.

"I was missing good times with my baby. But I was really missing that natural oxytocin high. Those chemicals are powerful hormones and no joke."

But now, she hasn't pumped in days and feels great.

"I am happy to say that I haven’t fed or pumped in three days and it’s crazy how fast you can come out on the other side."

She finishes her statement with support for moms going through the same thing.

"Whether you are pre or postpartum. Or just a busy mom, You are a superhero every day for all that you do. Always putting yourself last and running a mile a minute...while carrying all of the bags lol"

Although the experience was tough, she would do it again.

"See you nursing bras until next time."

Moms going through the same thing flooded her mentions, in one of her most liked photos of all time.

Hilary Duff cracked the code with this post: celebrities can best manage their media narrative through transparency. And this post was as transparent as you get.

You can read the full statement on Hilary's Instagram account.

We're proud of Hilary for sharing her struggles and open up the discussion with other moms out there. She's a pretty cool mom for doing so, and we're sure Banks would agree.