Chrissy Teigen recently tweeted about an online thread called, Am I The A-Hole? And it’s a great subreddit. It’s full of the kinds of stories you would see on Seinfeld or Curb Your Enthusiasm: the petty nonsense that drives us all crazy and forces us to ask, “Was I really being that much of a jerk?”
The stories range from the incredibly petty to the delightfully strange to the profoundly frustrating.
In one particular story, a man found something out about his wife that he can’t handle. He’s asking if it would be wrong to ask his wife to move out. And, further complicating things, his wife is pregnant.
Read on to get the details of this wild story!
She’s funny in the way we all wish our best friends were funny. Or maybe we’re lucky enough that our best friends are as funny as Chrissy Teigen.
The subreddit features people telling stories and asking, Am I the bad guy in this situation or are they?
Just as a note, no one asking a question in this thread actually thinks they’re the bad guy. So there’s that.
The decision about who’s a jerk comes down the hive mentality. What does the group really think? They’re like mini-tribunals on somewhat trivial human behavior.
Like this woman demanding that her MIL give her a quilt. No one is entitled to a handmade quilt. And, she embroiled her sister-in-law in the whole thing.
It’s just bad family politics, where one person is being selfish.
Why man? Why? You can’t control what other people wear, even if you’re dating, even if they’re meeting your parents.
You should do better!
Like this one, where this person’s roommates were having too much of a good time – if you know what I mean. All their activity was making it hard for the roommate to actually live their life.
That’s a bit disrespectful if you ask me.
Isn’t the magic of the internet passing judgment on people you don’t know without shame or recompense?
You could actually spend upwards of six hours in this rabbit hole.
Basically, he came into a weird situation with his wife and didn’t know how to move forward. So he asked the internet.
All sides sound bad in this particular story…
He says that she’s started acting crazy lately, and he doesn’t know how to deal with it. So, he’s taken to the internet for some help and peace of mind.
This woman is pregnant with his child. Maybe don’t insult her on the internet, homie.
Also, “nut job” is not a great way to refer to anyone, let alone your partner in life.
So far, I’m on her side. She’s carrying a baby, and he should just be patient through the process. Irritated by small things is par for the course.
She’s accusing him of losing attraction. Super common during pregnancy. Just buck it up for a few months and be extra reassuring.
There is nothing pettier than a list of ways someone else is petty. Don’t keep score, don’t roll out a list, talk to your wife.
He made sandwiches, she ate all of them, and then told him he tasted horrible.
It’s so mean, it’s funny.
The balls on someone to eat the entire sandwich and then say to the person who made it, “Nah, it was awful it,” is such a mood.
I mean, then stop cooking for her? If she hates your cooking? Maybe just order in? It seems like an easy problem to deal with.
The reason we’re here, the reason he’s turned to the internet about his wife, the moment.
Just saying, if you have time to go to the gym, then you have time to cook food that’s better tasting than a sandwich.
That should have been his first clue that something was up. He’s some angry dude who makes bad sandwiches. No one is asking you out at the gym.
Good on you, man. He earns points by doing the bare minimum expected of a married man with a baby on the way.
She greets him with a huge hug and apologies. Now he’s suspicious. What’s going on?
What the heck is a loyalty test? And, why is her best friend cosigning such ludicrous behavior? We need to know.
And he passed! But now, has she failed his test? That he didn’t even know he was giving? Who’s the jerk, now?
Who catfishes their husband? This is one of those lose-lose situations. Either he’s going to cheat on you, or you just catfished your husband. Why would you want to live in either of those timelines?
It’s a controversial post with answers on all sides. And it also seems like there might be more tension here than just the catfishing and sandwiches.
What would you do? Is asking her to move out too extreme?
The post went viral, with all kinds of crazy responses, but now the polls are closed.
The camps seem pretty set in their views on this kind of crazy situation.
A lot of people have taken the position that asking your pregnant wife to move out of your house is extreme.
Yes, catfishing is bad, but take a breath. Maybe you could go to couple’s counseling? Or cool off for a few weeks in different bedrooms?
The counterpoint to forgiveness is that this kind of behavior is egregious and beyond the pale, even if she’s pregnant. The resounding sentiment here seems to be that these people need to talk to each other and acknowledge how bad things have become.
This is the answer to 90% of the problems found on reddit, but especially here. It seems as though there’s been an extreme communication breakdown.
So, thanks to this wonderful thread.
And don’t worry, there are plenty more Am I The Jerk? stories floating around on the internet…