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Moving out on your own for the very first time is an important and exciting part of life for any young adult. There's the thrill of having your own space, the freedom to come and go as you please...oh yeah plus rent and utilities, managing your own space for the first time, and all the other tiny adult things that no one warns you about.

Most of us are young and stupid when we get our first place, which means we all make a lot of mistakes. In hindsight it's funny, but if you're a newly minted adult about to head out...you might want to check out this Reddit thread that shares the things we weren't prepared for.

Get ready for some big Moods, and some laughs at the sweet, naive children we once were. You might even learn a thing or two because no one teaches us how to be dang adults.

Like many good Reddit threads, this one started with a simple question.

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"Adults of reddit, what was something you were unprepared for when you first moved out out of your parents' house?"

In the least surprising response in the world, most answers were about money.

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Children just don't know how money works!

And then there's the paradox of money.

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You value it so much more, but it all seems less valuable.

This is so real it hurts.

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It turns out the idea of $100 brings up a lot of feels in adults.

And speaking of money...

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It can turn even exciting things, like getting mail, into a big ol' bummer.

The difference between mail as a kid and mail as an adult basically sums it up.

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Anything unexpected when you're grown means you owe money.

You know what else money can ruin?

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Basic needs like being warm.

Oh, and if staying warm wasn't enough...

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Water costs money too. Utilities are a scam, I'm telling you.

In other "things you need to stay alive are horribly expensive" news...

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Getting your first doctor's bill is a heart attack waiting to happen. Which they will then charge you for.

And speaking of basic needs that are SO expensive...

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Let's talk about food.

So many parents gave us unrealistic expectations.

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You mean eating Chipotle every day is not a feasible option?

And even if you WANT to cook...

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It takes a lot of time to build up your kitchen with the basic ingredients.

On top of all of that, food requires so many steps.

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Buy the groceries, know what you have, decide what you want, THEN prepare it.

And defrosting??

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You think I know what I want to eat HOURS before I'm going to eat it?

Even without defrosting, cooking takes some serious time.

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And recipes lie. It will not take me 5 minutes to chop two onions, a pile of veggies, and a hunk of meat. I am slow.

But that's one of the basic struggles of adulting.

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Everything takes so much time.

And when you're young, you don't think about the strategy of it.

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Prevent the mess and you will be happy.

But even then, there are a thousand hidden places in your home that get dirty.

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I never thought about cleaning baseboards before I moved out.

And keeping your house clean and tidy?

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It's more than the cleaning itself. It's remembering to buy all the tiny household goods that magically appeared when you lived with your parents.

But on the plus side, that means you get to experience a whole new kind of joy.

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It's even better when your roommate picks up the TP.

A ton of the challenges and chores are outside of the house too.

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Setting up appointments is the worst.

And honestly no one tells you how to find providers.

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Do I just pick a doctor? How does insurance work?

And even if you were prepared for the chores themselves...

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It's hard to be aware of what it will be like emotionally.

A huge part of being an adult is managing other people.

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This is why "can I speak to your manager" Mom voice exists.

But it's also dealing with NOT other people.

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Like when you realize that there's literally no one around to take care of you if you need it.

And if you are living alone?

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Not having people around can take a serious emotional toll.

You don't realize how much emotional work your parents did until they're not around.

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Being happy is work. And it turns out it's super hard.

There are positives to moving out though!

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Especially if you grew up in a toxic environment, the freedom can be a game-changer.

Sweet, sweet independence.

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It can feel like a breath of fresh air.

To all you young un's out there...

Good luck! It's definitely worth it to live on your own.