Writer, director, and celebrated Hollywood male feminist, Joss Whedon, is getting Buffy-the-Vampire-Slayed on the Internet after his ex-wife of 16 years, Kai Cole, wrote a scathing tell-all essay about his numerous infidelities and deep-seated hypocrisy published on The Wrap.
The creator of Buffy, Angel, and writer/director of Marvel's The Avengers, to name a few, has always been lauded as a champion for women in Hollywood. He has a long track record of writing strong female characters, casting talented women in his projects, and has been an outspoken feminist ally to women.
But apparently, he likes women a little too much.
Kai Cole and Joss Whedon were married for 16 fraught years before they finally called it quits in 2012.
via: Getty ImagesWhedon reportedly quietly separated from his wife in April of 2012 and filed for divorce months later, citing Hollywood's favorite vague breakup excuse, "irreconcilable differences."
But Cole wasn't just going to let him slip away quietly.
via: Getty ImagesIn response to recent questions from the press, she wrote a guest blog for The Wrap detailing the years of deception and emotional abuse she endured at the hands of this so-called feminist ally. According to Cole, Whedon had his first affair on the set of Buffy, in the very early days of their marriage.
"There were times in our relationship that I was uncomfortable with the attention Joss paid other women," Cole wrote."He always had a lot of female friends," she continued, "but he told me it was because his mother raised him as a feminist, so he just liked women better. He said he admired and respected females, he didn't lust after them."
Years later, he finally came forward with the truth.Cole wrote, "Fifteen years later, when he was done with our marriage and finally ready to tell the truth, he wrote me, 'When I was running Buffy, I was surrounded by beautiful, needy, aggressive young women. It felt like I had a disease, like something from a Greek myth. Suddenly I am a powerful producer and the world is laid out at my feet and I can't touch it.' But he did touch it."
Cole's story makes it clear that Whedon felt as if he deserved the female attention paid to him by these so-called "needy" actresses.
via: Getty ImagesThe man pictured here, receiving an award at the UN Women USNC L.A. Media Summit for his work with the feminist #HeForShe movement, is this very same man. The same man who speaks out consistently for the rights of women then clearly exploits his position of power and drags his own wife down with him. That doesn't quite seem like a true friend to women.
Cole continued, "Joss admitted that... he hid multiple affairs and a number of inappropriate emotional ones that he had with his actresses, co-workers, fans and friends, while he stayed married to me."He wrote to her about how he never really loved anyone but her, and yet, here he was having secret affairs for over a decade. "He wanted it all," Cole wrote, "he didn't want to choose, so he accepted the duality as a part of his life."
Whedon even tried to claim that what he was doing was totally normal considering his position in Hollywood.
via: Getty ImagesCole wrote, "When he walked out of our marriage, and was trying to make 'things seem less bewildering' to help me understand how he could have lied to me for so long, he said, 'In many ways I was the HEIGHT of normal, in this culture. We're taught to be providers and companions and at the same time, to conquer and acquire — specifically sexually — and I was pulling off both!'" Can you say, "Puke!"?