Kristen Bell Reveals the ‘Incredibly Toxic’ Fights That Almost Ended Her Relationship with Dax Shepard

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Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard are #relationshipgoals like no other Hollywood couple. The actors are both hilarious, beautiful people who are over-the-moon in love with each other.

But the best thing about their relationship is that they’re upfront about the struggles they’ve faced and the fact that marriage is hard work. Neither of them professes to be perfect, and while their love is definitely worthy of envy, it’s not because it’s always rainbows and butterflies in the Bell-Shepard household.

It’s because they trust each other and care for each other enough to work out their issues when they arise. Kristen Bell recently appeared on Harry, where she got real about an old bad habit that Shepard wouldn’t tolerate, and the way she talks about it is seriously mature.

Oh yeah, they’re also in movies and stuff — Kristen Bell is an actual Disney princess*. *Anna from Frozen is a princess no matter what Disney says!

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They can’t help themselves. The couple got married in 2013, though they’d already been together for many years.

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In an interview with Playboy, Shepard said, “Kristen’s a good girl. She grew up very Christian, went straight to college, did great in school, and started work immediately. She’s charitable and philanthropic and rescues dogs. So when we met, our backgrounds were opposites. All the things I’d done were terrifying to her, and she had a hard time believing I would ever be able to stay married and monogamous and a father and all those things.”

All couples face challenges, and it’s extremely refreshing and reassuring to learn that couples we all admire go through the same stuff we do.

In a recent appearance on Harry, Kristen Bell got real about those fights in the first year or so of her relationship with Shepard.

While she and Shepard have both been honest about their struggles before, it’s not every day we hear this kind of candidness from a celebrity couple. Wait ’til you hear what she said…

“When we first met, we fell madly in love, and I love the dramatic exit,” Bell said. “We’d get in a fight because we’d fight a lot, and I’d yell something and then slam the bedroom door, then I’d slam the front door, then I’d get in my car and then I’d skid out the driveway and I would sit around the corner in my car and it felt so good and I realized how incredibly toxic it was only after he pointed it out.” “Three months into our relationship, he was like, ‘You can’t leave anymore during fights. I’m not going to do that.’ I was like, ‘What?’ He’s like you can’t do that, I’m not going to have a relationship — he has a very high standard and a strong code of ethics. He was like, ‘No, I have more respect for myself — I love you — but I’m not going to do that my whole life.'”

Silly Frozen puns aside, how wonderful is it to hear that even Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard, even the couple with the most perfect, adorable relationship, fought like crazy and had to learn how to communicate productively with each other?

Relationships are hard. Marriage is hard. It’s not always singing “Africa” in Africa or making your wife lose her mind over an adorable animal. It is sometimes those things. But not always.

That is what relationships are all about, after all. The ability to be self-reflective and adaptable is essential, not only to help build a healthy relationship but also to be a good person.

They’ve always been honest about their relationship — the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between. But this isn’t the first (or only) lesson we’ve learned from Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard…

They may want to slow down, in that case… But it’s true. Marriage isn’t always easy, but if you’ve found the right person, the work is worth it.

Life is too short to take it seriously all the time. As much as Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard get real about the struggles of marriage, they also clearly love each other and have so much fun together. That balance is so important.

It may be hard to communicate effectively while your mouth is full of egg rolls, but that’s what a relationship is: loving someone even when little bits of pork and cabbage are falling out of their mouth.