The rules of dating can seem pretty complicated. Should you kiss on the first date, or wait and try to make it more special? Should you text them back immediately, or treat them mean to keep them keen? How soon is too soon to meet their friend? But there’s one question that sparks perhaps more debate than any other… and that is who should pay?
Tradition does tend to dictate that picking up the check is the responsibility of the male partner in heterosexual relationships. And although some believe this is unfair and outdated, it’s still a pervasive idea that plagues the dating scene.
But what happens when a newly budding relationship doesn’t work out? If a man has invested a lot of money into dating a girl, and she changes her mind, what should happen with the financial disparity? Well, one man has gone viral this week for his rather … courageous idea.
Alex Colboth from Wisconsin, USA, shared a rather amusing dating interaction on Twitter, and it sparked a fierce debate. She posted a message she’d received from a guy she met on Tinder and been on a few dates with before deciding it wasn’t going to work out, with the caption, “It’s the audacity for me.”
To put it simply, Alex’s scorned date asked her to “reimburse him” for the 3 dates they went on that he paid for. While the message wasn’t particularly rude and was logically broken down, many people were still pretty shocked by it.
“Dating is like gambling. You put your time, money, whatever into it, and sometimes it doesn’t work out and you leave empty-handed. You made the decision to spend money and now you’re mad you didn’t win? The casino doesn’t owe you s***,” one Twitter user wrote in response.
“Him asking for the dates to be split evenly isn’t the issue here. it’s that he waited until AFTER he knew things wouldn’t continue to ask. so he wasn’t paying to be nice in the first place, he was paying with the expectation of some reward (sex, companionship, etc) which is weird,” agreed another.
However, some responses were actually on the side of the man. “Some days on Twitter, y’all are humanitarians. Want to socialize the country so there’s no homelessness, universal basic income, etc. In the same breath y’all will shame a frugal man for wanting to be reimbursed for a situation that doesn’t bring him the value,” one opined.
Another brutal response read, “You never get your money back on a bad investment. The man should have known you weren’t worth it before he invested.”
But it seems as if Alex remained unbothered. She took to Twitter to post this follow-up.
Where do you stand on this controversial topic? Did the man have a right to ask for a refund after the relationship went sour?