One man has taken to Reddit to ask if he was the a**hole for refusing to move away from a woman despite making her uncomfortable...

For any woman, being alone at night, especially at a train station, can make you feel on edge...


Now, if you add a stranger sitting suspiciously close to you into the mix, then things can feel a little more unsettling. Especially when over eighty-one percent of women have experienced harassment in their lifetime.

A man has taken to Reddit to ask if he was in the wrong for refusing to move when a woman felt uncomfortable with where he was sitting.


"Am I the a**hole for refusing to move from a bench at night cause this lady was uncomfortable?" asked user @ladyatstop.

The twenty-four-year-old man shared what happened...

"I get off late from work around eleven pm almost midnight. I do packing and shipping, it was an 8-hour shift was on my feet all day so I'm exhausted AF and just wanna get home. At the metro station where I catch the train, there is only one long bench to sit and this lady was already sitting on one side. She looked maybe like thirty, not too old. So I sit on the other side of the bench. Not even that close to her cause I'm at the edge. She keeps looking at me until she asks if I mind. I ask her what she means. The lady tells me if I mind going somewhere else and I ask why," he wrote.

She told him that she was uncomfortable.

"She tells me we're the only people at the station and she not comfortable with me being close to her. I look around again even though I know there are no other places to sit and I tell her sorry I won't bother her I just really need to sit cause I'm tired from work. Then she asks would it really kill me if I moved somewhere else since the train gonna be there in 15 mins and I could sit then," he wrote.

But he wasn't going to move and continues: "This lady's not letting it go. I promise I won't bother her. Like I didn't even tell her anything or do something the first few minutes I sat down by her. This time she gets really mad and asks me to move."

​He started to get annoyed by her persistently asking him to move. 


"I tell her no and that I'm sorry, she doesn't have to worry about me since I just want to sit somewhere after standing all day. After saying that, I put my headphones back on and looked at my phone. But saw this lady after a few mins get up and walk all the way to the other side of the platform and just stand there. Before she left, I did hear her saying 'fucking jackass.' Didn't think she would get this mad at me for not wanting to move," he added.

"I get why ladies would be uncomfortable that late at night at a train station with some random guy but I wasn't even paying attention to her at all. And didn't wanna move cause again I was super tired. Still was I an a**hole?" he asked Reddit.


Redditors appeared to side with him and argued that she should have moved if she felt uncomfortable.

"Absolutely not the a**hole. If she didn't feel safe, she shouldn't have even spoken to you. She should simply have walked away without a backward glance and that would have been it," wrote one Redditor.

Despite the general consensus being in favor of the user, it's not difficult to see why women don't feel safe in certain public places. As crime stats show, women all across America face dangers such as sexual harassment and violence every single day.