Mom Teaches Her Kids That ‘Virginity’ Doesn’t Exist | 22 Words

A smart-talking mom has gone viral this week after she revealed that she teaches her daughters that virginity "doesn't exist" and her reasons are so important.

Read on to find out why...

​Now, when it comes to raising our children...


There are so many life lessons that we need to teach them.

Of course, there are many different methods of teaching our children these important lessons...


With many being considered as a little unorthodox or inappropriate... but hey! How a parent raises their child is nobody's business but their own.

Well, one mom has recently gone viral on TikTok after talking about the "weird" way in which she is raising her 5 daughters...


And it's opened so many minds of both women and men all around the world.

Cayce LaCorte, who goes by @book_mama on TikTok, is an author and the proud mom of 5 daughters...

Facebook / Cayce LaCorte

And she recently saw a TikTok video asking parents to share something about the way they raise their kids that other parents find weird.

Cayce, who is from Charleston in South Carolina, decided to open up about how she's been raising her 5 daughters - aged between 7 - sixteen - to believe there is no such thing as virginity.


"I'm going to get a lot of s*** for this, but what you gonna do!" she started by saying.

"I'm raising my 5 daughters to believe there is no such thing as virginity. It is a patriarchal concept used to control women and serves no purpose other than making women feel bad about themselves."

She continued:


"Just because some guy randomly sticks his p*nis in you at some point in your life does not change your worth, does not change who you are, it doesn't do anything other than happen. Sex is important, it's a big deal... it has nothing to do with your 'first time'. It's just ridiculous."

Cayce then explained that she gets a lot of "crap from other moms" for her ideology on virginity.


"They're like, 'Don't you think that'll make your daughters promiscuous?' No! I'm raising them to be good people and have solid foundations and make their own smart intelligent choices, not because some book says not to."

Cayce's video immediately went viral and it has since been viewed more than 2 million times.

Facebook / Cayce LaCorte

BuzzFeed spoke to the mom, who said she thinks her video resonated with so many people because she said what a lot of people were thinking but didn't know how to articulate.

"I also think that there's a large group of parents of young children who hadn't thought that far ahead yet," she said.

​Cayce noticed a lot of people who responded to her video were r*pe and assault survivors who were made to feel worthless and "soiled" from their experiences.


"We all have our own 'r*pe/assault/pressured into doing something I didn't want' story. We can all empathize. For an entire society to tell you that your worth is tied to your virginity or purity, then have someone take that from you?! It's heartbreaking and infuriating and makes me want to smash things," she explained.

"We are so f****** angry about all of this, and if I can make a single survivor feel better about themselves, then I've already succeeded."

She also said the message in her video isn't just about virginity.

Facebook / Cayce LaCorte

"It's about the way we force arbitrary rules on ourselves and our kids and miss the big picture. Instead, we could focus on education about pregnancy, STDs, self-worth. How about, instead of making the first time special, make sure it's always special because that's the bare minimum you deserve."

When it comes to teaching her kids about sex, Cayce doesn't wait to have that "one big talk."

Facebook / Cayce LaCorte

Instead, she has a lot of little conversations as they grow.

"I start young, focusing on body autonomy — not having to hug someone or let a relative kiss them. I make sure they understand the technical names for the parts of their bodies. I want them to know that it's OK to cause a scene if they feel threatened or even just scared."

And, if Cayce was raising sons, she wouldn't handle things any differently.


"You have to battle against toxic masculinity — which is like rolling a boulder up a hill, but it can be done. I'd give the same talks about consent, diversity, love, boundaries, permission, and openness."

Cayce's perspective is truly inspiring...


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And the fact that she is teaching her daughters to not base themselves on their virginities and learn that they're worth so much more as human beings is simply amazing.

You can watch her full video here.