Mom Speaks Out About the Moment She Realized She Needed a Break From Her Kids

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Being a mom is hard, especially when there are so many expectations you’re supposed to reach. This mom has spoken out about the moment she realized she needed a break from her kids.

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Mom Cristalle Hayes spoke out in an opinion piece with the Mirror about her rage as a mother.

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And I think it’s safe to say that she’s a breath of fresh air for momma bears around the globe.

Because let’s be honest I think we’re all guilty of trying a little too hard sometimes to keep it all together, whether we’re a mom or not. But, moms especially, are expected to be on top of everything twenty-four-seven, and when they’re not, there’s always someone out there that has something to say.

It could be the mother-in-law, your own parents, or the dreaded social media trolls, and it just gets a little too much.

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So, Cristalle, a psychotherapist and mom of 2 munchkins has finally taken the step to speak openly about something that a lot of moms are afraid to talk about.

“Mummy rage is a genuine experience,” she began.

And it doesn’t look pretty, but it’s definitely about time moms get a little bit more support when they feel that rage souring through their bodies, right?

Cristalle realized that mom rage was something that needed to be addressed when she experienced it for the very 1st time, or at least she realized that’s what it was, after a while of feeling hella run down.

And, because of her rage, she found the secret that will help all moms. Keep on scrolling to see what that is.

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“I realised this while sobbing into a glass of cold water – feelings of anger and frustration coursing through my body, my throat was tight, and I was clenching my jaw. What was happening to me? What had triggered all these feelings?” she expressed in the opinion piece.

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She then went on to explain exactly how she began to feel so angry, and it’s important to remember that something so small is actually just a trigger for what you’ve been holding back.

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So, when her youngsters were demanding her attention, as children do, because they love you ever so dearly, she just snapped.

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Her newborn baby needed cuddles, and her toddler, who isn’t used to the new addition to her family taking up a lot of the momma’s attention, wanted her to play, and it came at a time when the mom had just sat down to have a drink and try to eat something.

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“I felt guilty I couldn’t give him enough attention; I felt guilty that I couldn’t console my baby enough to make some space for myself,” she continued.

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And when the mom called a fellow momma friend to tell her what had happened after she had calmed down and had a quick cry, they both laughed.

And said that they find themselves getting upset over things that might actually appear quite small to those who don’t have their responsibilities as a mother.

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Talking about opening up to her friend, Cristalle said:
“I confessed that I was finding this a bit much, and my friend said with kindness, ‘We are parenting in a pandemic, and this stuff is hard, give yourself a break.'”

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“Sometimes, the pressure of being a mum and carrying the mental load can provoke rage. Mums are often in place of lack: lack of sleep, lack of time to themselves, lack of self-care,” she explained.

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And I bet you’re wondering what the heck there is to do about feeling like you’re not on top of everything, right?

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Well, 1st off, you don’t have to be on top of everything all of the time. In fact, you don’t have to be on top of everything, ever.

But, if you’re needing a few tips as to how to at least control some of that rage… Well, you’re in the right place.

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Because, Cristalle the momma bear has everything you need to know.

So, go ahead and keep on scrolling to find out her secret.

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“So, what can mothers do to reduce the rage when it all gets too much?” she asked her readers.

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And you’ll never guess what it is.

The answer is to just breathe.

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“Taking ten deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth can hugely help calm your nervous system down when your anger has been triggered,” she explained.

The psychotherapist mommy also said that journaling and meditation will help you understand what you’re feeling, too.

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And then she continued sharing her wisdom:
“Give yourself a break. Appreciate how hard this is and the profound work that goes into motherhood. Check-in with your internal dialogue.”

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“Do you sound judgemental and harsh? Soften that voice and speak to yourself as if you were a child. Kindness and compassion are excellent antidotes to anger,” she ever so kindly shared.

And honestly, although moms need that advice the most, if you’re not a mother, and are just interested in this article, well then, maybe you too, can benefit from this advice.

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And it wasn’t just Cristalle who opened up about how mom rage has made her feel.

There’s a whole side of TikTok too, where women open up about the healing they’re going through while they parent their children.

Take this mom for example, who said in her video: “When motherhood brought out rage you never knew existed.

“Then you discovered it triggered a whole new layer of healing you didn’t know existed,” she finished.

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And everyone in the mom’s comment section agreed with her, too.

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And another woman said: “Thinking I’m gonna be the most patient mom on earth with a sick toddler at home.”

“Internal range,” she said in the next clip.

So, next time you feel alone in your internal range, remember, all moms go through this, and you just need to breathe and have a little bit of a cry.

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