A mom has explained why she let her 4-year-old daughter wee in the car while they were on the way to school when they were running late.
Amanda Bouldin posted to TikTok to explain the incident. Her little girl had been so caught up in watching TV, that she didn’t even have time to go to the bathroom before going to school, even though every morning, the mom asks her daughter to use the toilet before they leave for the forty-five-minute drive to school.
And because, every morning, the mom’s daughter fights her on her not needing the bathroom, Amanda wanted to teach her kid a lesson.
The video has over 730k likes, and has Amanda beginning by saying:
“So I’m going to tell you why I let my four-year-old pee in my car – if that doesn’t keep you from scrolling, I don’t know what will.”
She explains: “So my 4-year-old loves cartoons in the morning. I get it Daniel Tiger is riveting, I love him. But I ask her every day before we leave to go to the bathroom and every morning she fights me on it, so today I say, ‘alright, let’s go,’ – we have a forty-five-minute drive to school.
“Thirty-five minutes into it she says she has to go, I let her know we can’t stop because we have to get to school on time, I have other people I have to drop off.
“I’m encouraging the whole way, ‘you can do it, we can do it,’ needless to say she didn’t make it. She pees everywhere. Did I think this would happen? Yes. Did I hope it wouldn’t? Yes. But I don’t get mad at her.”
But the mom was desperate to show her daughter how important it was to use the bathroom before leaving for school to avoid the habit in the future.
“I wanted her to make this mistake in a controlled environment. I knew the school had accident clothes, so did I. I knew I had time to deal with this problem, I also knew I wasn’t going to get mad,” she continues.
“I wasn’t going to shame her for going to the bathroom, it happens, but I walked around and said, ‘this is why mummy says to go before we leave, you see mummy wants to help you, that’s why I ask you to do that.’ I let her make a choice so she could see what would happen.”
Amanda then says: “Yeah, it puts me out a little, but she learned something. So we changed her clothes, agreed we go before we left the house and went to school.
“I let her make her own choice and now she knows to go.”
One person wrote in the comment section of Amanda’s video, praising her for the parenting technique.
“This is how my mum parented me, this is how I will parent my kids! You go Mumma.”
And another agreed: “Natural consequences is a great way to handle stuff like that,” they wrote.
“This is good parenting,” another chimed in.
But one person wrote: “I don’t agree with this parenting style, but I think if it works for you then keep doing it.”
“I would have been mad when you tell her to do something, she shouldn’t ignore you until something bad happens. She needs to listen the first time,” expressed one more person.
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