The internet is a strange place. In an instant, a person can go from relative anonymity to the center of a raging debate, the focus of the derision of strangers, or lauded as a hero. Seemingly innocuous subjects can cause unexpected controversy. Possibly the most controversial, heated, and harshly judged subject is parenthood. No matter what you are doing, a faction of the internet will think you are doing a terrible job while others will think you're doing great. When it comes to raising our kids, everyone else has an opinion.
The most internet-controversial thing we can do as parents, apparently, is kiss our children on the lips.
When Victoria Beckham shared this picture, the lip puritans once again came out with pitchforks.
When Instagram user eyeconicash posted a sweet video of her twins, she had no idea that the trolls would come for her.
Most people who commented on the video were taken in by how sweet the boys are, and by the clear message of kindness and empathy that their mom is trying to impart on them.
via: InstagramBut some were hyper focused on the fact that the boys kissed. On the lips. This is not OK according to the trolls of the internet.
Maybe it's because they are boys? Would people react the same if it was twin toddler girls?
via: InstagramMaybe it's because they are black? Would it be different if these were white kids? In our current climate of toxic masculinity, one would think that teaching boys about love, affection, appropriate displays of affection, kindness, and empathy would be celebrated.
The truth is that it mostly is celebrated.
via: InstagramA few people took issue with it, projecting adult sexuality onto toddlers. Not only are the boys not acting out of any kind of sexual impulse, because they are toddlers, but they are also twin brothers. The bond they share is beyond the scope of what most of us will ever experience.
The fact that some people have a problem with the simple affection between toddler twins says a lot about our culture.
via: InstagramWhy would a hug be enough? Why should we limit the way little boys can show affection? The way we raise our boys has led to some serious problems in our society. Somewhere between birth and manhood, boys are taught that feelings are feminine, for girls only. They are taught to keep their feelings to themselves in order to be manly. This is not natural to the human condition, and leads to loneliness. These lonely, emotionally stunted boys grow up not knowing how to manage their feelings. It's no wonder our men handle their emotions with violence when we've taught them from childhood that any other way is not manly!