When a couple is expecting a child, friends and family often offer to help out whenever possible… but one mother-in-law has taken it way too far. The mother-in-law in question has recently asked that the expecting parents run baby names by her for approval before they settle on one.
The tricky situation was posted to Reddit by the anonymous mom-to-be who asked for advice on her nightmare mother-in-law.
In the post, she explained that her in-law is usually “easy to get along with” but upon announcing she is pregnant, she “snapped.”
“We let her get out all of her excitement, but didn’t really encourage it,” she wrote, “She keeps doing this weird thing where she refers to the baby as ‘her’ baby.”
And now, it’s gotten even worse…
When her mother-in-law was visiting a few weeks ago, the pair got onto the topic of baby names. While talking about possible names, the grandmother-to-be “told me to give her a list and she’d go through and let us know which ones she liked or didn’t like.”
“I asked her why that was necessary, and she said ‘Oh, you know! Just making sure we’re on the same page’.”
“I asked for clarification to that why we’d need to be on the same page, and she started getting a bit cagey about it. ‘Oh you know. Just one of those things. Gotta make sure everyone’s on board with the name.’ At that point, I cleared my throat and said, very kindly but firmly, ‘There’s no reason for anyone else to be on board with the names we’ve chosen’.”
At that point, the mother-in-law became upset and insisted: “Well it’s my grandchild! My baby!“
To which the Reddit user responded: “No, she’s not your baby. Grandchild, yes. But… you don’t think you get ‘a say’ in anything involving her, do you? Like… you don’t think you get any say in her name, how she’s raised, what schools she goes to, how she dresses, any of it, right? You know you’re not the parent here, right?”
After that the mother-in-law “blew up” and called her “ungrateful” before being told to “knock off the theatrics and go home.”
“I just got up and said I was bored with this conversation and went to the backyard to go read in the sun while she melted down to my husband about how I’m stealing all the joy from her and that don’t I get that grandma is the most important role she’ll ever play?”
Since she was told to go home she has been “going all over social media playing up what a victim she is because I guess now we’re ‘keeping her baby away’.”
“I’ve had so much pushback from family telling us we need to just get over it and learn to accept that grandma’s going to be around and that yeah, maybe she should get a say in some things, after all, it’s her grandchild.”
Do you think the mother-in-law was in the wrong? Or do you think it’s okay for her to be so involved in the raising of her grandchild?