The world was amazed when world-class supermodel Naomi Campbell announced she was going to have a baby at 50 years old. One mother, Naomi Gryn was so amazed that she wrote a message to the supermodel, having had first-hand experience being an older parent...
Supermodel of the world Naomi Campbell announced that she was going to have a baby at 50 years old.
The news sparked conversation among everyone, as women are told that being an older parent requires a lot more hard work. One parent, in particular, wanted to send a message to the '90s icon, explaining why motherhood at an later age may pose more difficulties than first expected...
"A warm and sisterly welcome to the first-time Moms At 50 Club."
"We're a small, but growing band who, believe me, need all the support we can get from others walking the same path — even though you may find you're the only one doing so in a pair of 6 in-heeled Louboutins."
"My eight-year-old, Sadie, an only child, was born on a final roll of the fertility dice."
"After two miscarriages and four attempts at IVF — when I was 51 and feared, as I'm sure you did, too, that I'd left it too late to realise my dream of being a mother."
"My obstetrician had recommended a C-section not because I was too posh to push, but because my uterine muscles were likely too old to push."
"I also felt daunted by the huge weight of responsibility to protect and nurture my child. Unlike 20 and 30-somethings, we quinquagenarian mums have lived long enough to know how terrifying this war-torn, unequal world can be."
"Thanks to my age and the stage I've reached in life — having, albeit on a smaller scale than you, fulfilled many of my ambitions as both a writer and documentary filmmaker — I've luxuriated in every glorious moment."
"You and I should count ourselves lucky to have grown up in an era when our only link to the outside world was the phone at the foot of the stairs. A time when our peers couldn't torment us with glossy, and largely false, images of their perfect lives."
"Our children benefit too, because we parent by instinct, not under pressure to recreate what we see on Instagram."
"One day I was in a queue at the post office with Sadie in a pushchair, when the woman in front asked: 'Is that your grandchild?'"
"Going against official advice, I co-slept with my baby daughter, breastfed her for far longer than some thought I should and didn't panic, or get cross, when she wasn't yet fully potty-trained as her first day of preschool approached."
"Having not grown up with technology, we must be extra vigilant when it comes to our children accessing the internet and the horrors they can stumble across there."
"Also brace yourself for struggling with some of your daughter's primary school homework. I studied maths at university, but it's now taught so differently that I find it almost impossible to help Sadie with basic arithmetic."
"It helps to be friends with mums of children the same age so you can share tips and support via WhatsApp groups. However, these friends are unlikely to be women you grew up, or started your career, with — lots of my contemporaries are now grandparents."
"Yet having children late certainly keeps you young. I turned 60 on New Year's Eve and, like so many others, my party plans had to be cancelled due to the pandemic. So, instead, I had a muddy London walk with Pete and our daughter, wearing a fabulous cream, fake fur coat Sadie had convinced me to buy. I don't suppose you'll need fashion advice, but you might find your daughter gives it to you anyway."
"Not that having a baby while going through the menopause was easy, as I'm sure you'll discover. I remember having hot flushes while breastfeeding Sadie and not knowing if it was the menopause or due to my milk letting down."
"As Sadie's got older and become more conscious of my age relative to that of her friends' mums, it has undoubtedly caused her anxiety. She often says: 'I wish you'd had me when you were younger.'"
"Perhaps that's because she worries about me getting sick and dying, but I know it's also because she'd have liked a sibling and we've explained that's not possible because of my age."
"'ll say: 'I'll do my darned best to be around, and in good shape, for as long as you need me.'"
"Yesterday I took possession of a pair of NHS hearing aids after struggling for some time to make out what was being said on TV."
"I opted for a silver pair, rather than the flesh-coloured variety I associate with the hard-of-hearing elderly. Sadie is delighted as she was tired of having to repeat herself — and couldn't wait to have a go. However, I'll be sure they're covered by my long hair as I stand at the school gates, waiting to collect her, surrounded by much younger mums."
That was a lot...
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