It turns out that there are certain things you should never say to your children! And life coach Larry John II recently explained why on a viral TikTok video.
He insisted that saying certain things to your kids can not only upset them... but can also create life-long traumas too.
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1 of the 4 toxic categories included making the child feel like a burden, saying things such as "you cost me so much money" or "you are so exhausting to take care of." This not only makes the child question if you even care about them but it can cause much deeper damage as they grow older.
"This will cause the child to subconsciously hold in their needs and not express what they really need and feel," he explained.
The 2nd toxic category included saying offensive words towards appearance, making comments such as "You're so short," "You don't look good today", or "You're too skinny" which can cause low self-esteem and low self-confidence.
Another thing includes asking harmful questions about a child's unique behaviors.
"Things like 'why are you sitting like that?' 'Why are you walking like that?' or 'why are you chewing like that?'-this will make the child really believe that there's something wrong with them," the expert explained.
Finally, making unhealthy comparisons to siblings and other children is just not how you're supposed to parent.
A child will spend the rest of their lives comparing themselves to others and wondering why they aren't like them.
"This will make the child believe they aren't good enough and sometimes cause unhealthy relationships with their friends or their actual siblings which is so important," he explained passionately.
Of course, many supported Larry's theories:
"A lot of parents don't want to admit their wrongs and keep assuming it is all right, no it's not all right...accept it and CHANGE," one person commented.
"My mom said all of these things to me. And I remember EVERYTHING. I hated it. She never hugged, kissed, or loved on me. I will NOT be my mother..." another person wrote in the comments.
But other people didn't support him so much:
"And this is why we have snowflakes of today," one person wrote, "Basically we can't say anything to our children? if as a parent I can't correct and help them to be better who will help them?"
"Um... why are you sitting like that? Why are you chewing like that? Made me a well-behaved young ladyyyyy! Thank you, Mama!! Goodbye!" another chimed in.
So, people appear to be split about these 4 parenting tips!
Now, we know no parent is perfect but these are really things every parent should try to avoid according to Larry John II. What are your go-to parenting tips?