Think back to that special person in your life who you were so certain would end up being "the one". You had planned your future together, devoted yourself 100% to them, and maybe even sealed the deal with a ring, only to have everything go horribly wrong. Breakups can be tough, especially if you thought you'd be spending the rest of your life with someone. While some people end a relationship after months of fighting and drifting apart, others can remember the exact moment when they realized that it was all over.
The following people reveal the one thing that made them certain it was time to end their relationships, and the results are pretty shocking. (The last one is downright psychotic!)
They might just make you glad to be single. At least you don't have to go through a messy breakup if there's no one to break up with, right?
"When I got an allergic reaction to her cat and had trouble breathing."
"Her friends went to get her and she refused to come over to me because I 'didn't compliment her new hairstyle'.
It wasn't even that nice."-snldude87
"She went to a party, and I was informed I was not allowed to go with her."
"At said party was a bunch of Fratbros who would be instrumental in approving her being able to join the sorority she wanted to join.
She came home looking as if she had freshly showered, and when I asked her why she looked that way she said, 'I was hit with a water balloon'.
Apparently, a huge water balloon that didn't get your clothes wet and also left oddly colored stains near the neckline of your shirt..."-Logic_Nom
"Before I found out I was pregnant, I was going to Taco Bell to pick him up some lunch since he was stuck at work."
"My ex is a big guy that could probably eat a horse if he tried. So, my order was huge and I was trying to get a grip on all those plastic bags when the guy behind the counter said something like, 'surely you can't eat all that' in a teasing sort of tone.
I explained that no, it was for my boyfriend because he's stuck at work. The Taco Bell guy (no older than 17) replied, 'Well, tell him he's lucky to have such a beautiful and thoughtful girlfriend.'
Now, I was 21 at the time and had no interest in this Taco Bell guy. But I got out to my car and cried because it was the first time anyone had said something nice to me in so long. I began to make plans for leaving him.
A week later I found out I was pregnant. I stuck it out for about 6 months, then I just left with nowhere to go. I showed up on my mom's doorstep at about 10 pm that night and never looked back."-furiousnymph
"Everything just stopped and became more and more annoying."
"Instead of finding her laugh adorable, I couldn't stand her hyena-like cackle. Instead of finding her innocence to the world cute, I started to realize that she was as smart as my hairy-ass big toe.
Instead of wanting to spend every minute of the day talking to her, I began to detest the moments when that diarrhea would ooze from her mouth.
So yeah, that's when I knew."-me_know_more
"She broke up with me to test how much I liked her, and to see if I'd fight for her.""Turned out I wouldn't!"-SnowyG
"When he decided to go to Mexico without telling me."
"I couldn't get a hold of him for days, then when I finally did, he told me that he had gone to Mexico with his uncles. I was furious, he didn't understand why.
What an idiot."-[deleted]
"We'd been 'together' for a year and she still freaked out whenever I mentioned the future.""Also, correcting her parents every time they called me her 'boyfriend'."-Azarul
"She got super jealous because she heard women's voices in the background (I was walking around my college campus)...""...and demanded that I go up and kick/slap one of them so that they would never be interested in me."-
"She was abusive, insulting, violent, and just rude to me."
"None of those things were enough to make me say enough is enough. It was my first girlfriend and I was a freshman in college. I didn't think I was in an abusive relationship, I just thought I wasn't doing right by her and I was the problem.
Then she called one of my closest friends a bitch. Suddenly everything clicked. I ended it. I'm so glad I did."-[deleted]
"When I became second to his games and friends.""Can't compete with computer or bros."-kj2970
"When I couldn't see myself married to him.""I loved him but those feelings became something similar to those of a close friend or something. It really sucked how things ended but they had to. It wasn't fair to either of us."-xnumberviii
"She just had a lot of crazy trust issues."
"She knew most of my passwords because whatever... really who cares if you trust the person, but where I assumed there was still an understanding that if I gave her my email password once to check something for me that doesn't mean check it every day, use it to guess my password for other things, unfollow most of my female friends, set up something on your laptop that shows you all my text messages...
I put up with it for a long time because I don't screw around and thought that once she realized that she would lighten up, but the more faithful I seemed the more suspicious she got.
She had her reasons, but I didn't really see it as something she was ever going to get over. No bueno."-skimble-skamble
"I was raped while in the military.""Fiance was also military. I told him what happened and he went out, had sex with someone, FILMED IT, and showed me the film because 'I cheated on him so he was making it even.' I ran immediately."-[deleted]
"He cheated. And got another woman pregnant.""Then called me a few weeks later asking me to be the child's godmother, because he 'knows I'm really good with kids.'"-kmmy89399
"He was obsessed with making me look/speak better."
"He would control my food intake and make me exercise every day. Whenever I was out with him I have to wear heels, dress well and he would point out what other girls were wearing and what I should try on. Putting makeup was a must even when I was on a plane.
I wasn't allowed to speak other languages aside from English and not allowed to watch dramas that were trash to him.
My last straw was him asking me to consider to get a boob job when I lost so much weight from all the exercise/controlled diet. I realized I could not live this way anymore and he will never be satisfied.
Even though I still love him I was mentally drained and constantly felt that I was ugly and unworthy."-Cutestuff
"Found credit card statement on the floor once, just before a family holiday.""Thousands in debt that he'd never told me about. I'd been paying the rent entirely by myself in a job I hated and I was too young and naïve (23) to realize he wasn't an honest man. That was it."-stringParameter
"My mom was dying. It was my last Thanksgiving with her."
"Without discussing it with me first, he had his mom buy him plane tickets to spend Thanksgiving with his parents and asked if I wanted to go with him. No. I am not missing the last Thanksgiving I can ever spend with my mom. We will have our whole lives to spend Thanksgiving with your family after this. You’re leaving me to face this one alone, or to abandon my mother on her last Thanksgiving?
It was suddenly very clear that he didn’t want to be in a relationship with me, but wouldn’t break up with me because my mom was dying."-WooRankDown
"Every time we fought she would throw her engagement ring somewhere, make me get it, then make me plead with her to put it back on.""Even for very small disagreements and even in public. That was the final straw. It was a very f***** up feeling begging somebody to be with me all the time. It gave me huge insecurity issues."-Anti_Social
"When it got to the point where he would demand to check through my phone and Facebook inbox each day.""He knew all my passwords and would sometimes log onto my Facebook account pretending to be me and would try to talk to my friends to see if I had hooked up with anyone. He even wanted to see my phone records each month to make sure I wasn't texting any guys. I wasn't even allowed to have friends that were guys. I also wasn't allowed to go to parties with my friends unless he was there to supervise, and if I did go out drinking without him he would stop talking to me for days because he was certain that 'something happened' even though nothing ever did. Spending time with him started to be so emotionally draining because I always felt like I had done something wrong."-lexis92
"She cheated on me. Multiple times. On her trip to Europe. Which she is still on.""I saw the Facebook messages on the computer where she was still logged in. Then she lied when I called her on it. This all happened about 4 hours ago. I’m at a bit of a loss. I was planning our engagement. I’m glad it happened now I guess. Very rough though."-finalproject
"Dude was a douche and hit me across the face.""Also couldn't hold down a job, but you know, mostly the face thing." -Hey_its_me_your_mum
"I found out the guy was no longer working when I called to see why his paychecks hadn’t come in."
"It turned out he quit, and instead of telling me, spent the next few weeks pretending to work. He started going to strip clubs on what little money he had hoarded.
When I went to break it off with him, he punched his hand through the wall and lost his mind. By the time he finally calmed down, he had turned strangely morose. He looked at me and asked if we could have sex one last time.
My response: 'No.'
Him after a long pause, sifting through his pockets and holding out a dollar bill: 'I’ll pay you a dollar to sleep with me. It’s all I have left.'
Needless to say, he left with a dollar in his pocket and no final goodbye."
"After 2 years of constantly forgiving him for cheating on me, it wasn't until I needed to be hospitalized that I realized he didn't love me.""When I needed him the most he told me, 'I'm sorry, I can't take you being in there. It makes me too sad. Call me when you get out.' So when I did, I told him I just wanted to be friends, but I had nothing against him. Literally, a day after I called him and told him that, he made Facebook official post dating some other girl. I'm married now and really happy in my relationship. I definitely dodged a bullet." -wanderingcat72
"We dated for 3 years and got engaged after 2.""The closer it got, the more he decided he wanted to have children immediately, wanted me to stay home with them, and then said, 'Knowing that, I'm wondering if it's worth it for you to continue grad school.' I was just starting my second year of my master's program. Buh-bye." -dadadawn
"We were at a wedding I was in, and multiple times the thought passed through my mind: 'this will never be us.' It wasn't even a question, it was a certainty."
"It was scary as hell. He noticed something was off, I eventually talked about how I was feeling, and it came out that while things were great right now, we both wanted something different down the road.
So we called it off and have been on great terms ever since. And happy.
But damn... that moment. At a crossroads with one way leading to denial and the other leading to the terrifyingly unfamiliar." -BitiumRibbon
"I had the amazing opportunity to show in an art gallery.""My whole family and friends came out to see it. He didn't, and instead drove across the street to a burger joint and ate there with his friends and drove home. When someone isn't supportive of your dreams and achievements they don't deserve your happiness and success." -watintarnation
"When he started to question my mental health and was obsessive about me seeing a doctor."
"The final straw was the morning of a big internship, instead of texting me 'good luck' or 'smash your first day', all I got was 'have you booked a doctor's appointment?'
So I went round after my first day and dumped him. Depression magically gone.
I have not been happier. He only made me miserable, and it wasn't going anywhere but down." -purplekoolaiddrank
"She continually embarrassed me in public."
"I couldn't take her anywhere. New Year's party where the average age was 40+? Nope, we'll just head straight to the bars instead. She felt more comfortable there anyway. Great seats to the symphony? She gets bored and falls asleep.
It's not that she was awful, she just wasn't for me." -Gpotato
"When we went out for Valentines Day at an expensive restaurant I love and I saw that he had arranged for a private booth with roses and such in the table."
"My only thought was, 'Oh fuck, I've been looking forward to this food for weeks. I hope he doesn't ruin my meal by proposing.'
I've never been the kind of person who is afraid of commitment so that was an eye-opening thought regarding the state of our relationship. And then we stayed together another six months or so because he was clueless and I had no idea how to bring up the subject of ending things." -maepricot