Making mistakes is part of being human. We all do it, and hopefully, when we screw up something really important really bad, we have family who loves us that can step up and be supportive. But what happens when that colossal mistake happens while you’re making your family?
There is no more devastating mistake than marrying the wrong person, but even if you recognize your error early — say, within the first year of the marriage — there’s still fallout. Your family bought presents. Your now-ex has your grandmother’s ring. You’re almost certainly in debt after hiring that caterer.
And yet, sometimes the mistake was so overwhelmingly obvious that you have to break up within a year. Here are some of Reddit’s stories about when they realized their marriage of less than a year was over. These splits are devastating, but in (most of) these cases, it just had to be done.
When she pulled a knife a month in, I still stayed for a full year like an idiot.
Not me but my dad. He got back from his honeymoon and went back to work. He came home and something felt off when he walked in the door. She wasn’t there when he got home from work, which was very odd for her since she got off work earlier than him and was always home when he got back.
When she got back he mentioned that it was out-of-the-ordinary that she had been out and asked if she went somewhere. He wasn’t accusatory, just curious because it never happened, but she dodged his questions at first. Eventually after he got suspicious of her dodging a simple question, she admitted that she’d quit her job, and when he asked why, she said she didn’t need to work. So she was planning on using him as her cash cow.
He tried counseling and asked her to get her job back but she always brushed him off and never took him seriously. He threw in the towel seven months later and she started trying to fix things, but it had been 7 months of him trying to fix things and she had no interest. So he filed for divorce and went on to achieve his lifelong dream: he dated and then married his middle school crush, my mom. 28 years strong.
A cousin of mine married someone who seemed like the perfect woman. They worked in the same store together, and he would brag about how his wife was getting promoted quickly in the company.
A few months into the marriage, she tells him she’s going out with friends for the evening. An hour or so later, my cousin gets a call from one of his friends. The friend saw her having dinner in a restaurant… With the manager of the store that they both worked at. Once he confronted her about it, that was basically the end of the marriage.
Her running off with a guy she met in rehab was a pretty solid clue that it wasn’t meant to be.
We dated for five years but on the honeymoon we had a big argument over my liberal use of sunscreen. She refused to wear any because of ‘chemicals’ and I liberally use it due to my ginger skin. We seriously argued over this for a good hour and she refused to even go into the pool with me because of sunscreen chemicals.
After a scuba adventure with her she could hardly walk because she got so burnt on her legs whereas my skin didn’t change.
She then tried to convince me that it was all my fault because I didn’t force her to wear the sunscreen and that the honeymoon was ruined.
I had to call it quits. I can’t stay with someone who constantly blames me for their own problems.
The next morning I woke up and thought “…when would be a socially acceptable time to get divorced?”
In hindsight that says miles about why I felt I had to get married.
Now this is an attractive quality.
The day after the wedding when he poked me in the chest and said: “you’re going to do what I say whether you like it or not”. Ugh. Big mistake.
My brother died a week after the wedding and after about 2 months, he told me that was just too big of a thing to happen in the beginning of a marriage. I tried for 6 more months and then just gave up.
Me and my family were at her wedding reception sitting outside on a deck. My cousin comes out to sit with us for a bit and pulls out a pack of cigarettes. Her first words were “please don’t tell him I smoke”.
They moved to California a few weeks later and divorced within a week of being there.
Should mention they were engaged before she got out of high school.
Friend of mine. Very religious couple never had sex before marriage. Told him she was gay two weeks before their one year anniversary.
I knew it was over when she started a fight at my brother’s funeral because female attendees were giving me hugs as part of condolences.
When we were looking to buy our first house and he basically wanted to buy the first place that had four walls and a roof, while I wanted us to take our time and find the right place.
When I put the kibosh on a house that was overpriced and flooded four times in the past he pouted and gave me the silent treatment for a week.
Finding out he was chatting with other girls and confessing his feelings for a coworker behind my back was just the icing on the cake.
When I saw him wrestle on the floor with his mom, she was in her panties. I was 17, pregnant and I didn’t realize he was a momma’s boy.
On my honeymoon, when he threw my ice cream cone out the car window.
Not me but my dad. He got remarried after being divorced for about five years. I would have been all for it, but he met this woman in another state on a business trip, and would travel up to see her every weekend after they hit if off. They knew each other for six months before getting engaged. The engagement was only for three months.
Apparently my dad’s new bride had the gall to ask my dad to leave everything to her in the will, and write me and my brother out. Only then did he realize she was in it for the money. The next day he had the marriage annulled.
My uncle got “green card married” to a Mexican woman he met online, convinced that by the end of the 2 years before she could become a citizen, she would fall in love with him and want to stay with him.
She made it very clear that wouldn’t happen, she just wanted to bring her kids over and needed a good Samaritan to help. Well once she started dating people after their marriage he realized he was wrong and they divorced. She and her kids got sent back to Mexico.
The moment we left the wedding. He made the car fishtail into traffic and it scared the crap out of me and he wouldn’t stop when it freaked me out.
But 15 years later, we’re best friends and my new husband and I are godparents to my ex-husband’s sons with his new wife, so it worked out.
My dad recently got married to his third wife. Lasted only a couple of months before divorcing. He said they had nothing to talk about and that they didn’t notice earlier because of their… intense physical attraction. These are things no kid wants to hear but he repeated it profusely.
When she got me sent to prison for giving her side piece (which I had suspicions about) a ride which ended in a shootout and wound up bailing him out instead of me (with my own money) and moved 1500 miles away.
When I was in Iraq and she posted a picture on Facebook of her and another guy laying in bed together, it was obvious that they had just hooked up. Don’t get married to fix relationships (pro tip).
A story that’s not about adultery! How hopeful!
When I found out he had 500K in debt that he hadn’t told me about beforehand.
[Yes, we had a prenup. He just lied about it on the prenup.]
Got married and it lasted exactly 6 months before we called it quits. I knew our wedding night. He was more interested in smoking weed with his so-called friends instead of spending the night with me.
One of my husband’s best friends married his long-time girlfriend (from his home state) while we were all stationed five states away. Suddenly, after the marriage, long-time-girlfriend-now-WIFE decides she didn’t want to move to our state. He filed for divorce three weeks after they married and vowed to never let this chick break his heart again. (She had a history of being unstable and not nice at all.)
Best part? It’s now three years later and he is BACK WITH THE GIRL.
Last night, my wife was telling me about an acquaintance who got divorced within a year or so of getting married. Her husband refused to be in any wedding photos. The acquaintance ended up having the photo session on her own.
Anyway, they got divorced. Apparently he still claims that she is the love of his life.
I had an emergency operation. When I was laying in the hospital recovering, she told me I ruined her birthday weekend. I laughed thinking she was joking, but she was serious and held it against me for months.
You don’t argue this one. You go “Hey, you do you” and you skedaddle.
She decided she was in love with her step-brother a month after we got married.
If you’re going to work out all your self-hatred on your wife, you have to bring that up while you’re dating.
Less than a year into actively trying to get pregnant he got discouraged, gave up and started staying out until 4:15 AM with his “coworker.” He posted selfies on her couch on Snapchat and even went as far as asking her to marry him once he could get rid of me. He had two biological children (my stepchildren) that he abandoned at home with me while he was out doing this.
The icing on the cake was that on my favorite holiday while holding my brand new baby nephew in front of his entire family, he told me he wanted a divorce.
Day after we got engaged. He changed. Then he uninvited my family to the wedding- said they would take my attention away from him.
We lasted three months.
If you’re going to be the worst person in the world, you have to bring that up while you’re dating.
My cousin and her husband met at work. Both independent and career-focused. When they got back from the honeymoon he immediately started treating her like his mum and told her she would need to give up work to look after the house.
No talk of that before the wedding at all. I think they lasted four weeks married.
Fascinated by these tales of romantic disaster? Well, stay tuned for the opposite! The next 30 stories are of people who planned to get divorced and then called it off in favor of staying married!