Being a new adult can be a scary and tumultuous time in life. You finish college and suddenly it's like you've been thrown into the deep end. You have to deal with student loans, find employment and start paying taxes. Sometimes you may feel like there's nothing you can do to organize your life, leaving you lonely and depressed.
But you should know there will always be people there to help you. In fact, there's a whole generation of people who have gone through the same experiences and they know just what to do. Taking advice from wiser and mature people is nothing to be ashamed of. Honestly, it might just be the best solution to some of your problems. Right now there's a whole subreddit where people in their forties are sharing their advice with the younger generations, assuring that they feel safe, content and most of all, happy in life.
So why not see what they had to say. You never know, they might have the advice you've been looking for.
Don't try to make your life into a novel.
Don't fall for the trap that your life needs to be one long narrative that you should be building. Life is best when it's a bunch of happy moments that just happen to be connected. Don't try to make your life into a novel, make it a book of poems. - JayParty
It's never too late to start again.
All in my 20's I thought I couldn't just restart my career or dump a useless boyfriend or go back to school because I was already on a certain trajectory. Made my choices now I gotta make the best of it. That's total bulls**t. You have no idea how incredibly young you are and how much time you have to do whatever you want to do. - Purplelicious
Maintain your friendships.
In twenty years you will be so grateful for those people who saw you through marriages, children, illness and health. People who will go for a trip with you, love your kids, remember you as a young person. Friends are essential but they require work. Don't be alone just because you don't want to be the person who reaches out to others. - Fantazja1
Go to another country that is far away.
When I was in college, I had the chance to go to Europe but I passed because I had to work at a warehouse. I picked staying at a part-time warehouse job overseeing the world. When I finally went abroad in my 30s, it changed my perspective about everything and everyone. Go to another country that is far away and different than your own. - EvenCaramel
Chase your dreams…
Life goes by SO fast. You don't want to be 80 yrs old and regretting not traveling, pursuing your passion. - SharCooterie
Relax and don't get overly angry.
While others talk about material things or experiences the real lesson is to accept that things won't always go the way you want them to and that's ok. Didn't marry your perfect spouse? That person doesn't exist - align expectations to reality and appreciate those who love you for who they are. Or find new people. Didn't buy the perfect car? Oh, well, it still gets you where you're going. Define your criteria for the next one and work towards it. Didn't get the perfect house? Probably not. But it's yours and you can fix it. Didn't get that promotion? Don't be so sure it would have worked out the way you think it would have. Vacation wasn't perfect? Are you sure about that, or were your expectations too high? Point is, relax, enjoy the ride, work to your goals but remember none of it matters if you can't enjoy it along the way. - GWS1121
There's always time to turn around…
My point is, if you end up on the wrong path or don't like where you are, there's always time to turn around and change it. Too many people just assume they're stuck where they are and stuck with the issues they have. - Yeahwellokay
Twice the man I was then.
When I was 22, an older gentleman asked me how old I was and then told me, "chad303, when you are twice that age, you'll be twice the man you are today." I almost considered it a slight at that moment, but time has proven him wise. Here I am, twice that age and, in my humble estimation, twice the man than I was then. I believe this chiefly because I have learned that kindness is not a weakness, humility serves you better than pride, and cruelty is a fool's game. - Chad3030
Everything you get becomes something you have.
Learn how to be happy "having" things instead of "getting" them. - DeludedSwoledMan
It's not a race!
It's not a race! Stop comparing yourself to others. Just because they did things sooner than you, doesn't mean they're happier or better. Try to start good habits. It is a little rough at first, but in a few years, it will be second nature. Do this with things like cooking, cleaning, saving money and self-care. It is okay to not like someone. It is also okay to have someone not like you (people are going to not like you for no reason. That is okay. It's a "them" issue and not a "you" issue). Don't be an ass to everyone and give them a reason to dislike you, but also know that you are under no obligation to put up with someone else's bad friendship. There is no shame in seeing a mental health professional. - MayUrBladesNVRDull
Never rely on your kids to make you happy. They will have to move on to their lives. Plan accordingly. - Kbhusain
Enjoy the days of your youth…
Don't put yourself in ridiculous amounts of debt trying to portray a certain image. You'll spend your entire life trying to get out of the hole you dug or you'll have to declare bankruptcy. Enjoy the days of your youth without going overboard. There is nothing wrong with having a good time, yet if you are always waking up wondering what happened last night, why you can't remember how you spent so much money or you always have a hangover; you should tone it down a bit. - RmeMSG
Get a regular exercise routine.
Get a regular exercise routine going and stick to it like your quality of life depends on it, because it does. - MellisaHoey
Figure out what is important to you in life…
Figure out what is important to you in life. A shocking amount of people never do this. The sooner you do, the better off you will be. Figure out what you want for yourself, and what you want for others. It will make planning and achieving it easier. - Tristanjones
You are never too old…to just start over.
You are never too old or too deep into something to just start over. If you aren't happy do something else. I've read about people taking up marathons at 50. For me, every day is potential for a new start. Don't like how I felt yesterday? Then I guess I'm doing something different today. I'm 50 now, so much left to do and so much time to do it. - Coldhandswarmearth
Go and have an adventure of a life time.
Go have an adventure of a lifetime. Don't put it off. Make plans for your money. STAY OUT OF DEBT. You don't need that new car, watch handbag etc. Material items are not worth your sanity. Have a 3-6 month emergency fund. Don't waste time on anyone who disrespects you. Have a backbone but don't be rude. Not everything needs your reaction. Find someone who you can spend endless time with. Talk about ideas, not people. Above all fu*k what anyone thinks. - Unapologetically_Z
Accept that perfection doesn't exist…
Accept that perfection doesn't exist. Your relationships will have problems, your car will break down, someone else will anyways have a better phone, a newer car, or a bigger house than you, no matter where on the social ladder you stand. Constantly chasing perfection will keep you permanently stressed. That doesn't mean you should not try to better your life, just know that if you expect perfection you will never be satisfied. - Denaris21
Don't go into debt.
I'm financially happy... so my advice in this regard is to not use your credit card unless you are 100% sure you can pay it off that month and it's not a burden. Don't go into Debt. I'm also happy with my children who are polite, intelligent, and happy themselves. My advice there is to always be true to your word with them, and always say please and thank you. - Fishintheboat
Don't waste your time on jealousy…
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself. - Lithodora
Put yourself first...
Don't marry someone because you think it's something you have to do. The same goes for having children. I've done neither (even though my family has always hounded me to) & am incredibly happy with where I'm at. I can't think of how miserable I'd be making commitments like those just to make others happy. Put yourself 1st, people. - Stillcore
Find yourself a good person…
Find yourself a good person to be in a relationship with. Looks will fade but that personality will be there forever. As you age your friends will pair off and you will find yourself hanging out with them less and less. They will have kids or move away and you will find yourself either alone or with your partner during 99% of your free time. Humans do not do well being isolated and alone. Finding a healthy relationship is so important and no one really talks about it or just tells you to focus on your career. Having someone in your corner that always has your back will make life that much easier. - Baiken032
Make decisions for yourself…
Make decisions for yourself, don't ignore the long-term ambitions for short-term fun, but definitely don't live the life that someone else wants you to live. - _mdz
Don't fall victim to peer pressure.
Don't fall victim to peer pressure and settle for a mate that isn't right for you. Didn't find my wife until I was almost thirty, and it was totally worth waiting for the right one to come along. - Fredfofed
Own as little as possible…
My simple advice is to own as little as possible. Having minimal possessions has made me happier and more focused. This isn't about sacrifice or going without. It's about finding pleasure in what I already own. If a friend buys a new jacket, I'm happy for him but it wouldn't motivate me to buy one. There's a certain zen calmness when you get off the consumption treadmill. - Mdfrancisuk
Build assets. Avoid liabilities.
Work on building skills. Doesn't have to be a degree. Just something that you know you can use that others will want. It will give you the means to support yourself and get back in your feet even if you lose everything.
Travel early…before starting a family. Diverse experiences allow you to broaden your worldview and adds a ton of perspective. - Upintheairx2
There is no magic balance…
Accept that it doesn't always work out in the end. There is no magic balance that says if something awful happens something good must happen later. Not always winning or being happy is part of life. The sooner you find the tools to accept that the sooner you can achieve your goals. - Seamusthebuilder
Pictures are great but memories are better.
Partying/drinking has a time and place and it is not every day. Why go off on a great adventure in an amazing place if you are just going to spend all your time getting drunk? You won't remember as much as you could. Pictures are great but memories are better. - ImmortanBones
Be true to yourself…
Don't have children unless you really really want children. Don't have more children than you really want. Be true to yourself. It's OK to live a life that no one else understands. - Leavmealone
Embrace your youth…
Embrace your youth. Embrace not having back pain. Start saving as much money as you can. Go to college (it is never too late. I got my first degree when I was 32). Take better care of your skin. Take exceptional care of your teeth. Start thinking about your future… - Azaarus