If you or someone you know struggles with their mental health, you know it can, at times, feel frustrating and isolating. Besides the fact that living with a mental disability can be utterly crippling for some, it makes it even worse when other people give you unnecessary judgment and invalid advice, mostly because they just don't understand.
As more people open up the conversation about mental illness and how common it is, it creates a healthier environment for everyone as we discover that it is not something that can be generalized, simply because it affects each person differently. It takes time to understand mental illnesses and sometimes even more time to open up and talk about it, without being judged.
A Reddit thread initiated a conversation about common frustrations and misunderstandings for people who have a mental disability. There were some similar themes and some answers that were shocking and eye-opening. Either way, it's incredibly important to ask these questions and listen when people choose to speak up.
Ever feel misunderstood?
There are some people who feel this way all the time.
Life looks quite different.
Reddit asked and you answered.
People assuming you just need to be stronger.Happy_Each_Day
Blaming it on your attitude.
That it can be fixed with money.
Telling them to just feel better.
Invalidating their emotions.
People who make it about themselves.
Normalizing debilitating diseases.
When people think mood swings are equivalent to bipolar disorder.
Telling them to just get it out of their head.
"It's just all in your head!" where.... do you expect my mental problems to be, exactly, karen? does depression reside in my left buttcheek? does anxiety stem from a rogue fingernail??
Misinterpreting their emotions.homestuckintraffic
Telling them to just stop.shaekessler
Saying it's not a valid excuse.
"You can't use it as an excuse."
I realize I have a problem, I'm informing you of the problem and you decide it simply doesn't exist anymore because I know it affects what I do.
Being afraid of autism.
Dismissing its entire existence.
'ADHD doesn’t exist’.
It sure as hell does exist.-artyfischal
Giving dumb advice.
When you’re having a panic attack and someone says, “Dude, just calm down".
What an insightful idea! I’ve surely never tried THAT before.-addreid
Thinking they are able to control it.
"You shouldn't let it get you."
Bitch what is this "let" you speak of? My anxiety is not choice.-poop_dawg
Believing toxic stereotypes.SpookySpring
Blaming external circumstances.
Being shocked because to you they seem "normal".ASweetRoll
Making it their identity.greenplaidmoose
Telling them something they probably already know.
"You worry too much"
Like, yeah, I know I do. It's sort of a symptom of this thing I have a diagnosis for?