After announcing that she was "giving-up" her adopted, autistic son, Myka Stauffer has been on the receiving end of intense backlash from her fans. She has also been accused of using her son to make money and leaving him because she couldn't deal with the struggles of having a child with special needs.
Now, the police have gotten involved. Read on to discover why the felt they had to intervene and what they found when they did.
YouTuber Myka Stauffer has recently sparked an intense debate...
For those of you who might not be aware, autism is a life-long developmental disability.
via: Getty ImagesThe condition affects how people perceive the world, and how they behave and interact in social situations and with others. It is characterized by challenges with social skills, repetitive behaviors, speech, and nonverbal communication.
And it is incredibly common.In 2018, the CDC determined that approximately 1 in fifty-nine children is diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder here in the States.
There is a spectrum.
via: ShutterstockAnd, dependent on where a person sits on the spectrum, the characteristics of autism can vary.
All autistic people share certain difficulties, but being autistic will affect them in different ways.Some autistic people also have learning disabilities, mental health issues, or other conditions, meaning different people need different levels of support.
And, most importantly...
via: ShutterstockAutism is not a disease or illness, therefore it cannot be cured.
Autism is generally believed to be caused by genetics.
via: ShutterstockResearch has consistently supported the theory that autism tends to run in families. Changes in certain genes increase the risk that a child will develop autism. If a parent carries one or more of these gene changes, they may get passed to a child.
And it is definitely not a result of vaccines.So all you anti-vaxxers out there can just pipe down, okay?
Anti-vaxxers have long blamed vaccines on autism.
via: ShutterstockBut scientists have conducted extensive research over the last 2 decades to determine whether there is any link between childhood vaccinations and autism. The results of this research is clear: Vaccines do not cause autism.
And there is no cure for autism.
via: ShutterstockAutism is not a disease that can be magically irradicated with a course of antibiotics. It is a social disorder with characteristics that, instead of being curable, can be managed and improved over time.
But it seems as if this is still sometimes too much for parents to handle...
Myka and James Stauffer posted a video in which they explained what was going on with their family.
That's when she announced that she had "re-homed him."
In the 7-minute YouTube video titled "An update on our family", they said this:
via: YouTube"With international adoptions, there's unknowns and things that are not transparent on files, and once Huxley came home, there was a lot more special needs that we weren't aware of, and that we were not told," James says.
"So over the last few years, Huxley has been in numerous therapies to try and help him with all of his needs."
via: YouTube"For us, it's been really hard hearing from the medical professionals, a lot of their feedback, and things that have been upsetting, really upsetting for us, because this is not what we've ever wanted to hear. We've never wanted to be in this position. And we've been trying to get his needs met and help him out as much as possible… We truly love him."
With tears streaming down her face, Myka added this:
via: YouTube"There's not an ounce of our body that doesn’t love Huxley with all of our being."
She continued saying:
They did not reveal any details about where Huxley had been placed but they did describe it as his "forever home."
The announcement was met with intense backlash.
So many people started accusing her of "making money off of him."
This. Myka Stauffer owes Huxley every cent she made off of him. Huxley’s disability may affect his ability to tak… https://t.co/l7X8gpVkpI— CASSANDRA (@CASSANDRA)1590699393.0
It seems as though a lot of people have a big problem with their decision.
from birthing the baby yourself? the truth is they didnt want the baby because he's autistic and they got the money… https://t.co/EWJOHoge2R— jemmy (@jemmy)1590712457.0
Twitter users were extremely vocal about the decision with a lot of backlash being hurled at the parents.
Extremely depressed reading about the influencer who raised funds to adopt a son, made this her “brand,” discovered… https://t.co/ZpP1gf595F— Sophie Ross (@Sophie Ross)1590546207.0
Apparently, it was "kept a secret" until now.
To be clear she pretended he didn’t exist for MONTHS and deleted comments from concerned followers. Finally JUST ad… https://t.co/tSWHPqpm2E— Sophie Ross (@Sophie Ross)1590546441.0
Others have talked about the challenges parents with special need's children face:
@SophRossss As the parent of an ASD child, I do understand the challenges. Violence, safety and security of her oth… https://t.co/OeW1Hrt6X6— Betsy Duncan (@Betsy Duncan)1590579548.0
This is also the main reason that the police have now gotten involved.
Even though Stauffer and her husband said the re-homing was carefully considered, some people do not believe them.
Tracy Whited, a spokesperson for the sheriff's office said this:
Attorneys Thomas Taneff and Taylor Sayers who represent the Stauffers ensured that all the right precautions were taken.
via: Twitter"Over time, the team of medical professionals advised our clients it might be best for Huxley to be placed with another family. This is devastating news for any parent," the lawyers stated.