People Are Sharing the Reason They Never Want To Have Kids and It’s Eye-Opening

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Even though it’s a taboo topic, the thread of those who never want children anonymously sharing their stories online makes for some important reading…

For many, parenthood is the most rewarding job on earth.

The love between you and your child is something unlike any other feeling on earth… It’s a pretty magical thing.

Being a parent is basically the hardest job on earth – and the pressure to be a perfect parent can make life even more stressful.

There are some aspects of parenting that are just eternally frustrating.

There are many things that make parenthood irritating…

But most parents agree it’s all worth it.

But others don’t feel the same way.

It’s a heartbreaking truth.

One controversial anti-parenting thread has broken the internet this week.

And it makes for some enlightening reading.

These are all the reasons people have made the decision not to have children.

Do you agree with any on the list?

1. “A friend told me once that I would probably be like the mom from Carrie and there’s no f*****g way I would condemn a child to such a miserable life.”

“Also, giving birth? **** that.”

2. “I would make a terrible dad, great uncle but a terrible dad.”

“Uncling is extreme diet parenting and that’s enough. I’m selfish and irresponsible and beset with ADHD. I’m barely suited for houseplants and fish much less human children.”

3. “I’m stingy.”

“Don’t want something that takes up the majority of my life for the foreseeable future.”

4. “I’m too mentally unstable to provide a quality life for any potential kids.”

“I’m a pile of depression, neurosis, and introversion. I’d be a terrible parent.”

5. “One of the many reasons I don’t plan on having kids. Maybe the most important.”

“I think more people need to consider their ability to raise a child before having children.”

6. “Did you have a bad childhood?”

“I did and I don’t want to pass on the dysfunction to the next generation. Also I feel like I didn’t really have a childhood, so I deserve one now.”

7. “Since I am the oldest I call my experience ‘the free trial’ and to make things short I don’t like it.”

“If people truly don’t want kids, they shouldn’t have kids because it only adds another layer of resentment.”

8. “I’m aromantic and self-centered.”

“I would make a terrible partner and a lousy parent.”

9. “I have never seen a person with children and thought to myself ‘I want that life.'”

“I’ve been to plenty of family gatherings where kids are screaming and running wild basically, and all I can see is how tired the moms are.”

10. “I don’t have the patience to deal with them.”

“I now work at a place with lots of visitors including screaming rowdy kids and entitled parents. Seeing both, I don’t have patience for kids and I don’t want myself to turn into my kids’ adults.”

11. “F***in expensive.”

“Anyone wanna spend $233,000 raising a child?”

12. “I can barely take care of a cat.”

“How do you think I would do with a child?”

13. “I love peace and quiet.”

“I can’t believe there are people who think that’s weird.”

14. “For me it’s the order in my house.”

“Every time I visit my friends with kids I’m like I don’t want to live in a place like this.”

15. “I enjoy money and silence.”

“I would resent anything that takes that away SO MUCH…”

16. “I don’t have children, I have things.”

“And I CAN have nice things!”

17. “They’re expensive and I’m already in enough debt from college, they’re a big commitment and seeing how my siblings lives have changed with kids, I look at that and don’t want it, I like my freedom, I don’t handle crying well, especially from kids/babies, they’re rowdy, loud, messy and cause damage. If I could fast forward them to age 10, I’d be more open to it.”

“I’m 28 and considering a vasectomy. When I find the right woman, maybe I’ll change my mind, but I tend to look for women who don’t have kids and would rather not have them.”

18. “Too mentally ill from childhood trauma and have various auto immune diseases.”

“Wouldn’t be fair to have a child when I’m not completely present for them. Love kids but not for me.”

19. “As the eldest sibling in my family, I’ve already lived out my maternal dreams.”

“Mental and chronic illness runs in my family and I can’t risk passing it along.
I don’t want to put my body through pregnancy.
It’s a lot of responsibility and I rather live for myself and all the other things I rather do in the world.”

20. “Mental and chronic illness runs in my family and I can’t risk passing it along.”

“I don’t want to put my body through pregnancy.
It’s a lot of responsibility and I rather live for myself and all the other things I rather do in the world.”

21. “I understand the immense responsibility & sacrifice they are and choose instead to work on myself and continue to nurture my own experiences and growth through the one life I have.”

“There’s a difference between wanting a child, and wanting to be a parent. One makes you a kid sound like an accessory, the other makes you think of the responsibility.”

22. “I don’t want kids.”

“There’s literally no other reason.”

23. “I was born this way.”

“Have just never desired children. No particular reason.”

24. “I always say that the first thing you should be able to offer a child is for it to be wanted.”

“I’ve never wanted.”

25. “I don’t want to go through birth, I don’t like the baby stage, children and toddlers are fun and can be adorable but not 24/7, I like money and the peace of mind that I won’t do anything to screw up their lives, everyone I have said I don’t want kids to will say I told you so.”

“And finally I’m not responsible or mature enough.”

26. “Our society is structured so that nearly everyone but the wealthy are living hand to mouth. I feel no security in my life and find life stressful.”

“I can’t imagine how bad that would be if I had to worry about another soul.”

27. “It’s so strange how expected it is of the average person to have a child.”

“I get that in nature, if you live long enough to mate, you just do. But we have released ourselves from just about every other shackle of nature, so why draw the line at reproduction. We are cerebral beings. We can enjoy so many avenues of life. I 100% agree that people have it completely backwards, that you should need a good reason to have a kid; if you don’t want one, that’s nobody’s business and you ABSOLUTELY don’t have to justify that choice to ANYONE.”

What do you think of this list?

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