Let's talk about relationships. It's a topic that comes with a lot of opinions – by people both in them and not in them. While there are many wonderful things about having a partner – on demand back rubs, someone to turn off the TV when you fall asleep during your latest Netflix binge, someone always in your corner – they are also a lot of hard work.
Having a healthy, functional and loving relationship isn't effortless. Nobody (and I mean nobody) has the perfect relationship. No one wakes up every single day in the honeymoon phase. There will, inevitably, be times when it's hard. But the beautiful thing about a relationship is that you're choosing to be in it. You choose each other every single day, despite one another's flaws.
Speaking of those flaws, there's a new study that says that it's actually healthy to roast one another. This sounds like dangerous territory, but it's science, you guys!
Yes, you did read that correctly.It was reported that Appalachian State University conducted research which concluded that roasting your partner and having them roast you back can be good for your relationship. Rejoice! You can finally poke fun at why your S.O. wears socks with sandals!
Now listen, I'm all for teasing my partner.But it kind of feels like people will hear this and run with it. So let's get into the nitty-gritty facts of the matter.
Why in the world would it be healthy to make fun of each other?Well, for starters, it's supposed to be done for fun. It's not supposed to be mean or bitter.
So how can you tell if it's all in good fun?If you tease them about always watching the next episode of your favorite show without you, and they laugh, then it's probably in good fun. “Make sure that not only your personalities mesh, but your humors do too—so no one takes offense, feels hurt, or gets defensive," Laurel House told Cosmopolitan. House is a celeb dating coach and podcast host.
Phew, this seems tricky.But it also apparently works, so what do I know? I'm a mere pleb.
You have to use your common sense.Be aware of your tone and feeling. If the "harmless jibing" begins to feel tense, then maybe roasting each other isn't the best for your relationship. I'm no relationship coach, but this seems pretty obvious.
Apparently, roasting each other can yield wonderful things in your relationship.It seems like it's worth a try. Here are some ways in which roasting can help your relationship.
For one, it allows you to talk about serious things in a lighthearted way.
via: Getty Images“Bringing up problems in this fashion helps you to softly address the hard stuff. Often times, just by shedding light on an issue can let your partner know you’re not into it," House said.
This is a really good point when it comes to discussing the hard stuff in a relationship.
via: Getty ImagesSometimes you need a little cushion when it comes to bringing up tough subjects. Gently teasing can actually open up a very real dialogue.
It can bring you closer together.
via: Getty ImagesRoasting can be done in fondness. There's something really sweet about gently teasing your partner about their quirks. All of those little things make up the person that you love, right? Teasing each other good-naturedly can be playful and fun, and actually bring you closer together.
Also, who doesn't love teasing someone?
via: Getty ImagesThere's a difference between being mean and teasing. When you tease your partner, there's love behind it. And if there isn't, well that's a whole other story.
This study is great news for all the people out there who love to troll their bae's.Roasting your S.O. is like an inside joke of sorts. When you're with someone, you start to learn everything about them. It's fun to tease each other about those little specifics that only the two of you know.
Pointing out all those weird little things about one another is a great way to show you appreciate each other.
via: Getty Images“When you roast each other’s quirks, you are effectively pointing out the little, sometimes ignored sides to your personalities," House says. "Those quirks tend to be the things that you love the most about your partner."
The things we tease each other about are the things we love most about each other.
via: Getty Images“If you ask the roaster what they find most attractive about their partner, there’s a good chance it could be the exact same thing that they roast them over," says House. Now isn't that interesting?
Who knew roasting could be so scientific?Relationships are funny, aren't they? Now, before you go off and roast your bae, why not have a good laugh at some of these hilariously accurate tweets about what it's like to be in a relationship?
This sounds about right...
Relationships are mostly you apologizing for saying something hilarious— Brian Gaar (@Brian Gaar)1352926304.0
Why do so many boyfriends wear horrible jeans?
every year thousands of boyfriends are hunted for their jeans alone
— ????? ?? ???? (@dust_pup) September 22, 2015
Get. It. Together.
I overheard a guy saying to his girlfriend "are you ready to fucking rage" as they walked into target together and that's what I want— the wicked witch of the east bro (@the wicked witch of the east bro)1498422463.0
Now there's a thought...
My husband is on the roof - only a few inches away from an insurance claim that could completely change my life.— Stella G. Maddox (@Stella G. Maddox)1414962050.0
Being in a relationship means always knowing when to restock the cheese.
Long-term relationships are basically sending messages like this from the grocery store back and forth forever. https://t.co/2vUs6z9p3u— Cait Mac 👩🏻💻 (@Cait Mac 👩🏻💻)1482369542.0
Well, this is relatable.
Me: *dies* People to my boyfriend: it's okay to get back out there, she'd want you to move on Me in heaven: https://t.co/CMfAEgWVUw— Asia Leigh (@Asia Leigh)1488315335.0
Here's a sad thought.
Relationships are an expensive way to watch someone slowly like you less and less.— shelby fero (@shelby fero)1400556385.0
The best comfort is always anything dog-related.This is how a healthy, functional relationship works. Take notes, people!
Phew, it's getting hot in here.
keeping our marriage fresh/exciting via texts https://t.co/XB3dktiSnA— Jeff Lyons (@Jeff Lyons)1452958166.0
This is the perfect description of a relationship.
Relationships are a lot like sports, at first you're really excited but by the end you've eaten too many hot dogs and are too drunk to argue— paperwash© (@paperwash©)1422117485.0
Lost in translation...
My Girlfriend and I interpreted the dress code a little differently. It said casual?! #yesthosearemyjammies https://t.co/u26t7Hi9bg— Cyanide (@Cyanide)1498917289.0
Truly laughing at this...
7:43 pm: I am in an argument with my girlfriend and my anger is justified 7:51 pm: I have just apologized for the Salem Witch Trials— Dan Sheehan (@Dan Sheehan)1494870738.0
It's always better to be honest.
[introducing myself to new boyfriends parents] "Hi, I usually don't make it this far"— Amanda hugnkiss (@Amanda hugnkiss)1453507049.0
Amen to this...
I moved in with my girlfriend after 1 year. People say we're rushing in but we're both so in love with saving $900/mo.— Matthew Broussard (@Matthew Broussard)1499196164.0
Wow, no truer words were ever spoken.
Its so crazy to me to think that my boyfriend existed & had a life before he met me like how did he live without me all those years dam— BELA (@BELA)1499064025.0