We live in an era wherein gender fluidity is becoming more discussed and, therefore, more accepted. More and more people are coming out as "gender-fluid" or "non-binary," and the idea that a person doesn't need a set gender is becoming steadily more popular, with a growing number of influencers and celebrities coming out as non-binary themselves.
Back in March, British pop star Sam Smith revealed that they were non-binary, and now they've opened up about the key moment that triggered their transition.
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Sam Smith has become one of the most successful pop stars of the decade.From Cambridgeshire, England, Sam made their first big break after their collaboration with Disclosure in the track "Latch" back in 2012.
Since then, Sam has risen to unprecedented levels of fame.Their Disclosure collaboration instantly landed them a record deal, and, by early 2013, they had released “Lay Me Down," the first single from their debut album, In the Lonely Hour. Other hits include "Stay With Me" and "Too Good at Goodbyes."
The singer has always been open about their sexuality.And has frequently written songs about love and relationships with other men. The themes defined In the Lonely Hour, in particular, had been composed in the wake of a romantic rejection by a heterosexual man.
It hasn't been an easy journey for Sam.British GQ, Sam recently detailed their experience with sexuality, explaining how "not fitting in" can make them feel "really depressed and sad." The singer also recalled "violent and scary" experiences within the gay community shortly after moving to London, admitting that they were forced to have therapy to come to terms with the "traumatic" encounters.
And, back in March, Sam revealed that they now identify as non-binary.
They began by discussing their issues with body image.“When I was a kid, I was chubby … and then it would get worse and worse and worse and I was holding a lot of weight in my chest. When I hit eleven years old, I went to the doctor’s," they said. And, to this very day, Sam is still affected by their body image. “It’s the basis of all my sadness," they said. “Literally everything I’ve ever been sad about is my weight. I struggle with it every day."
Sam has had issues with their body since they were young.As a child, Smith revealed that they were “chubby" and “carried extra estrogen" in their chest, making them self-conscious and more susceptible to bullies. “I had breasts," Smith said. “I used to get my mom to write a note to the school when I was like 8 so I wouldn’t have to go to swimming lessons. So it’s something that’s been in me forever."
Sam is now working on loving their body.
And now, they are finally accepting their gender identity.said in the interview. "I do think as a woman sometimes, in my head. Sometimes I've questioned 'Do I want a sex change?'" "It's something I still think about, like, 'Do I want to?'"
Though Sam has always been open about their sexuality...gender identity. “I've always been very free in terms of thinking about sexuality, so I’ve just tried to change that into my thoughts on gender as well." They further clarified identifying as genderqueer, stating “Non-binary/genderqueer is that you do not identify in a gender. You are a mixture of all different things. You are your own special creation."
Sam has been identifying as non-binary for 6 months now.At first, they continued using male pronouns like "he" and "him."
The revelation came after Hits Radio presenter, James Barr, used the gender-neutral pronoun when tweeting about his interview with the singer.
@imjamesbarr @hitsradiouk You’re one of the first people to use these pronouns with me. Thank you. That feels really beautiful— samsmith (@samsmith)1568110487.0
Sam has spoken out about wanting everyone to refer to them using these pronouns.source close to the star explained: "This is a decision Sam has thought long and hard about, including doing a lot of reading on up it. He knows that it will take some people longer than others to fully get it." "First the request is going out to mates and then it will be passed on to the music industry too. It’s an exciting and groundbreaking time for him."
Sam is clearly in a great place with their new identity.
@BreneBrown By constantly trying to change and seek perfection and a life of no pain only causes more pain I am rea… https://t.co/VsDGEqwr3q— samsmith (@samsmith)1566307512.0
And their fans have been quick to show their support and approval.
@samsmith @BreneBrown You are perfect to us and I hope that you can see that too one day. We love you and you will… https://t.co/T1ApFhtSr1— 💓✌️ (@💓✌️)1566307686.0
Though, of course, not everyone has been so kind...
Sam has every right to identify as whatever they like.While the concept of not identifying as one particular gender is fairly new to most, and therefore can take a little bit of time to understand, it’s important to note that how other people identify doesn’t affect me or you. There is more to a person than their gender.
In a new interview, the singer opened up about the moment that triggered their transition to non-binary.
They had previously revealed that after reading up on the definition of gender non-binary...
And it turns out that one of Sam's own songs was a key player...
In their interview with Billboard, Sam spoke about their smash hit single "Dancing With A Stranger."
"I had just gone through a breakup and the last thing I wanted to do was write a sad song," they explained.
Sam explained that the song "launched" them into a new space of "freedom."
“The song launched me into a really beautiful space of writing and freedom," Sam explained.
This was where the key moment for their transition came...
"There’s a femininity within that song that has ignited a flame within me. It triggered the transition I’ve made into a nonbinary person."