In a recent interview, singer Sam Smith has opened up about their dating life, and who they want to eventually settle down with…
The songwriter revealed that they have a huge desire to have children, and isn’t rigid when it comes to who they plan on doing that with…
Because, in more recent times, Smith has become better known as the face of the non-binary movement.
Smith has been paving the way in which we view and address gender norms as a society.
But before that, Smith was more commonly known as one of the most successful pop stars of the decade.
From Cambridgeshire, England, Smith made their first big break after their collaboration with Disclosure in the track “Latch” back in 2012.
Their Disclosure collaboration instantly landed them a record deal, and, by early 2013, they had released “Lay Me Down,” the first single from their debut album, In the Lonely Hour.
Other hits include “Stay With Me” and “Too Good at Goodbyes.”
And has frequently written songs about love and relationships with other men.
The themes defined In the Lonely Hour, in particular, had been composed in the wake of a romantic rejection by a heterosexual man.
In a candid interview with British GQ, Smith detailed their experience with sexuality, explaining how “not fitting in” can make them feel “really depressed and sad.”
The singer also recalled “violent and scary” experiences within the gay community shortly after moving to London, admitting that they were forced to have therapy to come to terms with the “traumatic” encounters.
In a revealing interview with actress, Jameela Jamil, Smith discussed topics such as fame, body image, and confidence.
They then went on to admit that they have experienced conflicting emotions about their gender identity.
As a child, Smith revealed that they were “chubby” and “carried extra estrogen” in their chest, making them self-conscious and more susceptible to bullies.
“I had breasts,” Smith said. “I used to get my mom to write a note to the school when I was like 8 so I wouldn’t have to go to swimming lessons. So it’s something that’s been in me forever.”
And they even shared a topless picture on their Instagram, along with the caption:
“In the past, if I have ever done a photoshoot with so much as a t-shirt on, I have starved myself for weeks in advance and then picked and prodded at every picture and then normally taken the picture down.”
“Yesterday I decided to fight the f**k back. Reclaim my body and stop trying to change this chest and these hips and these curves that my mum and dad made and love so unconditionally.”
As well as their weight, Smith’s gender has been an issue for years.
“I’ve always had a little bit of a war going within my body and my mind,” they said in the interview. “I do think as a woman sometimes, in my head. Sometimes I’ve questioned ‘Do I want a sex change?'”
“It’s something I still think about, like, ‘Do I want to?'”
They had never before discussed their gender identity.
“I’ve always been very free in terms of thinking about sexuality, so I’ve just tried to change that into my thoughts on gender as well.”
They further clarified identifying as genderqueer, stating “Non-binary/genderqueer is that you do not identify in a gender. You are a mixture of all different things. You are your own special creation.”
It was after reading up on the definition of gender non-binary that Smith realized their true identity.
“When I saw the word non-binary, genderqueer, and I read into it, and I heard these people speaking, I was like, ‘f**k, that is me,” the hitmaker revealed.
And they revealed shortly after their announcement that they wish to use gender-neutral pronouns, and even wants others to use them when referring to them.
So, instead of “he,” “him,” and “his,” they want to use “them,” “they,” and “their.”
And Smith responded to his tweet, writing:
“You’re one of the first people to use these pronouns with me. Thank you. That feels really beautiful.”
A source close to the star explained:
“This is a decision Sam has thought long and hard about, including doing a lot of reading on up it. He knows that it will take some people longer than others to fully get it.”
“First the request is going out to mates and then it will be passed on to the music industry too. It’s an exciting and groundbreaking time for him.”
With manly labeling them as an “inspiration.”
Speaking with Apple Music’s Zane Lowe earlier this week, Smith opened up about their desire to start a family.
“I want kids. I want all of it. I want to have kids.”
“I want to be mommy.”
However, they did admit that children aren’t on the agenda just yet.
“I’m definitely going to do that at some point, but I’ve still got more in me. I’ve still got ambition… I try and settle it down all the time and play it down, but I’m ambitious and I would still want to sing to people and do this job. It’s an amazing feeling.”
But that has proven to be quite the challenge in London.
“I’m going to work my ass off until then [and] hopefully find a boyfriend – but they’re absolutely nowhere to be found anywhere in London. I’ve been searching all over the place. Honestly, I’ve been on the frontline now for a good 3 years and it’s exhausting.”
You can watch their full interview here.
Saying in a recent interview promoting his new album Love Goes, that he’s willing to date “any gender.”
“I’ve never really kind of played by the rule book. I love people and whoever I fall for, that’s who I fall for. I don’t know who that’s going to be.”
“Now I don’t know what gender they will be, to be quite honest, and that’s a freeing thing — to not be limited to one category of person.”
“I just fall in love with whoever I fall in love with. I generally have never really thought about people, any human beings, in rigid terms.”
They added, “I’m too busy, if I’m honest, to facilitate any sort of relationship.”
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