Shawn Mendes Apologizes to Sam Smith for Getting Gender Wrong | 22 Words

Shawn Mendes has apologized to Sam Smith for getting their gender wrong during the introduction to iHeartRadio’s Jingle Ball on Thursday.

Now, Sam Smith has responded.

Keep scrolling see what's gone down.

Sam Smith has decided to come clean...

The songwriter revealed that they have struggled more than they thought they would have after coming out as "non-binary."

During an interview with James Corden, it seems as though they were ready to get real about it...

And the revelation has really shocked a lot of Sam's fans.

Now, Sam Smith is known for more than just their music...

Because, in more recent times, Smith has become better known as the face of the non-binary movement.

Having come out as "non-binary" just last year...

Smith has been paving the way in which we view and address gender norms as a society.

But before that, Smith was more commonly known as one of the most successful pop stars of the decade.

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From Cambridgeshire, England, Smith made their first big break after their collaboration with Disclosure in the track "Latch" back in 2012.

Since then, the singer has risen to unprecedented levels of fame.

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Their Disclosure collaboration instantly landed them a record deal, and, by early 2013, they had released “Lay Me Down," the first single from their debut album, In the Lonely Hour. Other hits include "Stay With Me" and "Too Good at Goodbyes."

Now, the singer has always been open about their sexuality...

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And has frequently written songs about love and relationships with other men. The themes defined In the Lonely Hour, in particular, had been composed in the wake of a romantic rejection by a heterosexual man.

However, it hasn't been an easy journey.

In a candid interview with British GQ, Smith detailed their experience with sexuality, explaining how "not fitting in" can make them feel "really depressed and sad." The singer also recalled "violent and scary" experiences within the gay community shortly after moving to London, admitting that they were forced to have therapy to come to terms with the "traumatic" encounters.

And, last year, Smith revealed that they now identify as non-binary.

In a revealing interview with actress, Jameela Jamil, Smith discussed topics such as fame, body image, and confidence. They then went on to admit that they have experienced conflicting emotions about their gender identity.

Smith has had issues with their body since they were young.

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As a child, Smith revealed that they were “chubby" and “carried extra estrogen" in their chest, making them self-conscious and more susceptible to bullies. “I had breasts," Smith said. “I used to get my mom to write a note to the school when I was like 8 so I wouldn’t have to go to swimming lessons. So it’s something that’s been in me forever."

Sam is now working on loving their body...

And they even shared a topless picture on their Instagram, along with the caption: "In the past, if I have ever done a photoshoot with so much as a t-shirt on, I have starved myself for weeks in advance and then picked and prodded at every picture and then normally taken the picture down." "Yesterday I decided to fight the f**k back. Reclaim my body and stop trying to change this chest and these hips and these curves that my mum and dad made and love so unconditionally."

And they are finally accepting their gender identity.

As well as their weight, Smith's gender has been an issue for years. "I've always had a little bit of a war going within my body and my mind," they said in the interview. "I do think as a woman sometimes, in my head. Sometimes I've questioned 'Do I want a sex change?'" "It's something I still think about, like, 'Do I want to?'"

Though Smith has always been open about their sexuality...

They had never before discussed their gender identity. “I've always been very free in terms of thinking about sexuality, so I’ve just tried to change that into my thoughts on gender as well." They further clarified identifying as genderqueer, stating “Non-binary/genderqueer is that you do not identify in a gender. You are a mixture of all different things. You are your own special creation."

It was after reading up on the definition of gender non-binary that Smith realized their true identity.

"When I saw the word non-binary, genderqueer, and I read into it, and I heard these people speaking, I was like, ‘f**k, that is me," the hitmaker revealed.

Smith has identified as "non-binary" ever since...

And they revealed shortly after their announcement that they wish to use gender-neutral pronouns, and even wants others to use them when referring to them. So, instead of "he," "him," and "his," they want to use "them," "they," and "their."

The revelation came after Hits Radio presenter, James Barr, used the gender-neutral pronoun when tweeting about his interview with the singer...

And Smith responded to his tweet, writing: "You’re one of the first people to use these pronouns with me. Thank you. That feels really beautiful."

Smith would prefer for everyone to refer to them using these pronouns.

A source close to the star explained: "This is a decision Sam has thought long and hard about, including doing a lot of reading on up it. [They] know that it will take some people longer than others to fully get it." "First the request is going out to mates and then it will be passed on to the music industry too. It’s an exciting and groundbreaking time for them."

Many of their fans were quick to show their support and approval...

With manly labeling them as an "inspiration."

But the singer has opened up about how difficult it has all been for them.

During an interview with talk-show host James Corden, Sam revealed that they struggled "more than they thought they would" with announcing their non-binary status... and despite a few negative reactions, fans were loving Smith's authenticity.

Referring to the public's reaction, they said it's been both "absolutely incredible" and "really, really hard."

"All in all, it's been wonderful," they began. "I've always felt the way I felt, and being able to tell everyone that and feel so much more open about certain parts of my personality and my life has been absolutely incredible."

However, it wasn't all perfect as they had to make the decision to come out when a private message was leaked to the press.

"In a world where I wasn't a well-known person, I would have changed my pronouns and I would have got used to it in a normal way, which I actually tried to do," they explained. "A message I sent to my family about changing my pronouns got leaked, weirdly, so I had to make a decision to tell everyone and go for it."

They continued:

"It's been amazing, but it's also been really, really hard to see all the backlash and the amount of people that are still so unsupportive of gender-nonconforming people and trans people all around the world."

"It's definitely more of a struggle than I was expecting..."

"But I feel good in my skin, which is the prize and the wonderful thing." It truly is!

Sam also added that this newfound freedom seeped into their music.

"I just feel permission, now, to show all different sides of myself musically," Sam said. "Whether it's dancing, or who I'm singing about, or what I'm singing about, I just feel like I can show all of myself now and put all of myself into my music."

"Before, I felt scared to show my femininity..."

"I found that really scary. But now she's out."

Watch the full interview here:

If you're in the mood for more Sam Smith news, then keep scrolling to see how they handled the lockdown...

But recently Shawn Mendes got Sam Smith's gender wrong.

How so? Well he got the pronoun wrong while introducing them at iHeartRadio’s Jingle Ball on Thursday. The 22-year-old took to Instagram to say sorry to Smith after introducing the Dancing With A Stranger singer, 28, with masculine wording. Check out the apology.

And now Smith has replied.

Replying to Mendes on their own Instagram story, Smith simply wrote:
We’re all learning together. Happy holidays, all my love xx
And that's all it's about. Learning.