There have been endless stories of controlling and obsessive parenting, with some parents smothering their children in protection until they are young adults.
A lot of parents do obsessive things in a desperate bid to protect their children from anything that could be potentially harmful. But when are these behaviors considered too far?
Rapper and record producer T.I has recently spoken out in a podcast about how he takes his eighteen-year-old daughter to the gynecologist every year to check if her hymen is still intact.
Keep scrolling to learn more about this horrifying story...
It's no secret that there are many parents out there who are a little too protective of their children.
via: Getty ImagesSome parents simply cannot fathom the idea of their children growing up and living independently, and safely by themselves.
As their children become teenagers...A lot of parents truly struggle with the thought of their kids becoming sexually active and losing their virginities.
There comes a time in everybody's life when they have to grow up...And the thing that many moms and dads seem to forget is that their kids are no longer children.
The age of consent here in the United States varies depending on the state...
via: Getty ImagesBut on average, the age of consent ranges from sixteen to eighteen-years-old.
So when a person turns sixteen...
via: Getty ImagesThey are the ones in control of what they wish to do with their bodies.
But sadly, not all parents respect this fact...
via: TwitterAnd T.I is one of these controlling parents.
T.I is best known for his career as a rapper and a record producer.
via: Getty ImagesBorn as Clifford Joseph Harris Jr. in September 1980, T.I has made a successful career for himself as a rapper with popular hits such as "Whatever You Like" and "Live Your Life."
The rapper featured on a podcast earlier this week...
via: Getty ImagesHe was speaking on the Life Hacks episode of the Ladies Like Us podcast, and he was asked about whether he had spoken to his children - 2 sons and 1 daughter - about having sex.
His daughter, Deyjah, is now eighteen and has just started college.
You heard that right...T.I, as her father, arranges to take her to the gynecologist once a year to ensure she is still a virgin.
Her virginity is "checked" yearly.But as all women will understand, not all virgins will display classic characteristics of "being a virgin" from activities such as horseriding, gymnastics, using tampons, and even riding a bike. These can all break the hymen that virgins have, which is what is broken during sex.
This means that T.I's insistent and invasive checking of his daughter's virginity is scientifically inaccurate.
via: Getty ImagesThe rapper's claims initially drew laughter from hosts Nazanin Mandi and Nadia Moham, who thought he was joking or exaggerating... but he wasn't.
It has become somewhat of a tradition between the father and daughter.said, "So it’s this one time we go, I think this might have been after her 16th birthday. This is what we do. Right after the birthday, we celebrate, usually like the day after the party, she’s enjoying her gifts." "I put a sticky note on the door: ‘Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30'."
This invasion of privacy is highly disturbing.
via: Getty Images"So we'll go and sit down and the doctor will come and talk and the doctor's maintaining a high level of professionalism. He's like, 'You know Sir, I have to, in order to share information'." He continued saying, "I'm like, 'Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you wouldn't want me to know?' See Doc? No problem."
He is ignoring the doctor's advice...
via: Getty ImagesT.I then recalled the doctor explaining how the hymen can be broken in other ways, but he clearly wasn't interested because he simply stated, "Just check the hymen please and give me back my results expeditiously."
He isn't allowing his daughter the rights to her own body.
Not only is this an invasion of Deyjah's privacy...
T.I went on to contradict himself completely.He goes on to suggest that no boy wants to be a virgin, saying, "They're no fun. Who wants a virgin? Like really? All that work!"
T.I also acknowledged that his son King, who is fifteen, is already sexually active.
via: Getty ImagesThe teenager admitted in a June 2019 episode of the family’s VH1 reality show that he’s already having sex. Something you think would cause outrage, judging by his father’s yearly trips to the doctors with his daughter.
This man is in desperate need of a reality check.
via: Getty ImagesIf he thinks that it is okay to completely control and possess his eighteen-year-old daughter's life, whilst allowing his fifteen-year-old son to do whatever he pleases, T.I needs a wake-up call. He needs to realize that he must respect his adult daughter's life.