There have been endless stories of controlling and obsessive parenting, and one particular story has dominated headlines in the past month.
Rapper and record producer T.I has recently spoken out in a podcast about how he takes his eighteen-year-old daughter to the gynecologist every year to check if her hymen is still intact. He claims he does this to check that she is still a virgin.
People were completely disgusted at the rapper's actions and have even labeled them as child abuse. Many spoke out about his actions, and let's just say - they are not impressed.
But finally, T.I has spoken out publically about his actions, so keep scrolling to find out more...
It's no secret that there are many parents out there who are a little too protective of their children.
via: Getty ImagesSome parents simply cannot fathom the idea of their children growing up and living independently, and safely by themselves.
As their children become teenagers...A lot of parents truly struggle with the thought of their kids becoming sexually active and losing their virginities.
There comes a time in everybody's life when they have to grow up...And the thing that many moms and dads seem to forget is that their kids are no longer children.
The age of consent here in the United States varies depending on the state...
via: Getty ImagesBut on average, the age of consent ranges from sixteen to eighteen-years-old.
So when a person turns sixteen...
via: Getty ImagesThey are the ones in control of what they wish to do with their bodies.
But sadly, not all parents respect this fact...
via: TwitterAnd T.I is one of these controlling parents.
T.I is best known for his career as a rapper and a record producer.
via: Getty ImagesBorn as Clifford Joseph Harris Jr. in September 1980, T.I has made a successful career for himself as a rapper with popular hits such as "Whatever You Like" and "Live Your Life."
The rapper featured on a podcast last month...
via: Getty ImagesHe was speaking on the Life Hacks episode of the Ladies Like Us podcast, and he was asked about whether he had spoken to his children - 2 sons and 1 daughter - about having sex.
His daughter, Deyjah, is now eighteen and has just started college.
via: TwitterSpeaking of Deyjah, T.I said that she was "figuring it out for herself," so "not only" had they already had the conversation, they take yearly trips to the gynecologist together.
You heard that right...T.I, as her father, arranges to take her to the gynecologist once a year to ensure she is still a virgin.
It has become somewhat of a tradition between the father and daughter.
via: TwitterHe reportedly said, "So it’s this one time we go, I think this might have been after her 16th birthday. This is what we do. Right after the birthday, we celebrate, usually like the day after the party, she’s enjoying her gifts." "I put a sticky note on the door: ‘Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30'."
This invasion of privacy is highly disturbing.
via: Getty Images"So we'll go and sit down and the doctor will come and talk and the doctor's maintaining a high level of professionalism. He's like, 'You know Sir, I have to, in order to share information'." He continued saying, "I'm like, 'Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you wouldn't want me to know?' See Doc? No problem."
He is ignoring the doctor's advice...
via: Getty ImagesT.I then recalled the doctor explaining how the hymen can be broken in other ways, but he clearly wasn't interested because he simply stated, "Just check the hymen please and give me back my results expeditiously."
He isn't allowing his daughter the rights to her own body.
via: TwitterSo far, the results have been to the obsessive father's liking, with him claiming, "I will say as of her eighteenth birthday, her hymen is still intact."
Not only is this an invasion of Deyjah's privacy...
via: TwitterHer obnoxious father has shared her medical information for the entire world to see. Not exactly what a young woman starting college wants...
T.I went on to contradict himself completely.He goes on to suggest that no boy wants to be a virgin, saying, "They're no fun. Who wants a virgin? Like really? All that work!"
T.I also acknowledged that his son King, who is fifteen, is already sexually active.
via: Getty ImagesThe teenager admitted in a June 2019 episode of the family’s VH1 reality show that he’s already having sex. Something you think would cause outrage, judging by his father’s yearly trips to the doctors with his daughter.
This man is in desperate need of a reality check.
via: Getty ImagesIf he thinks that it is okay to completely control and possess his eighteen-year-old daughter's life, whilst allowing his fifteen-year-old son to do whatever he pleases, T.I needs a wake-up call. He needs to realize that he must respect his adult daughter's life.
And, quite understandably, people are completely outraged.
Even if Deyjah wasn’t 18 what TI is doing is a complete invasion of privacy. This ownership that men think they hav… https://t.co/GQP3Csiqul— LAUREN S. 🦋 (@LAUREN S. 🦋)1573066419.0
And others have commented on this invasive behavior.And have noted at his hypocrisy over his attitude towards his son's quite blatantly active sex life.
Yet, despite T.I's blatant control issues...
I feel bad for miss Deyjah. Her business all on social media being discussed all bc her daddy wanna be an asshat in interviews.— 🕵🏾♀️ (@🕵🏾♀️)1573062368.0
People have been waiting for T.I.'s daughter to make a comment.
via: TwitterBut eighteen-year-old Deyjah Harris has remained tight-lipped, not releasing a statement to the press.
Or, that's what we thought.
via: TwitterBut internet detectives actually tracked down Deyjah's social media - and it speaks volumes.
Firstly, check out her liked Tweets.
via: TwitterShe's been favoriting several opinions stating her dad is being overly possessive, controlling, and even "disgusting." Wow.
And that's not all.
via: TwitterShe also opted for this rather conspicuous retweet. Or are we reading too much into it??
Either way, it seems Deyjah is standing up for herself.And (needless to say) we're totally on Deyjah's side. We're just curious if she'll actually speak out on this weird and creepy issue.
Another twist in the tale soon surfaced.
via: Getty ImagesSocial media seems to be the site where all of this is going down - and people were quick to notice that Deyjah unfollowed her dad on Instagram.
And after so much scrutiny on her own social media pages ...
via: TwitterDeyjah then made the decision to delete all of her social media accounts.
Both Deyjah's Twitter and Instagram accounts have disappeared from the internet.
via: TwitterWe can't say we blame her - after the weeks she's had, we'd be in need of a digital detox, too.
We just hope that she's doing okay...
via: TwitterAnd that Deyjah's time away from the internet will give her the respite we're sure she needs.
But her dad has finally spoken out about his actions.
via: Red Table TalkT.I and his wife, Tiny Harris, appeared on the most recent episode of Red Table Talk, chatting to Jada Pinkett Smith and her mother Adrienne Banfield-Jonesto to "set the record straight."
T.I went on to blame others for "overreacting"...
via: Red Table TalkSitting down with sympathetic interviewers who often give him the benefit of the doubt, T.I. was quick to defend himself against the backlash. He argued that there was little fault in what he said and what he's done... and blamed others for overreacting.
He claims to have said what he said in a "joking manner.""I just began to — from a place of truth — I began to embellish and exaggerate," he said. "And I think a lot of people kind of took it extremely literal. Because if you put any of my reputations, like who I am as a father, who I've been. I honestly thought people knew me better than that."
Jada pushes him, asking if he understands the sensitivity of the subject he was discussing...
via: Red Table Talk
T.I. replies that he didn't understand it at the time, but he does now... but he continues to blame the public for misunderstanding him rather than what he said or claims to have done.
"My intentions, I think, have been terribly misconstrued," he said.
The deranged father continuously insists he "wasn't in the examination room"...But that isn't what people are criticizing him for. People are criticizing the rapper for exploiting not only his daughter's privacy but the rights to her own body.
T.I then goes on to contradict himself... again.
via: Red Table Talk"I never said that it was being done present day as an eighteen-year-old," he goes on, while his wife interjects that Deyjah was 15 or 16 at the time. In the podcast last month, T.I confirmed that his eighteen-year-old daughter was still a virgin.
He most definitely forced her to go to the gynecologist this year when she turned eighteen."All of this false narrative has just been sensationalized," he argued.
T.I said that his daughter initially never had a problem with going to the gynecologist...
via: Red Table TalkBut she did have a problem with him talking about it publically... as anybody would! "And I understand that. And I am incredibly apologetic to her for that. To her. Not to any of these other strangers, any of these weirdos that just kind of toss lies around for fun," he said.