These Are the 20 Qualities That Will Make People Fall In Love With You | 22 Words

There is no formula to falling in love. But there are some traits that tend to draw people to each other, help facilitate trust, and contribute to building long-lasting relationships.

Certified Health and Wellness Coach, Lauren Brown MSc. WWHP, compiled a list of twenty such qualities for Healthversed. Some of these rely on genetics or your prospective partner's preferences, but others may be things you can develop over time.

The road to love is paved with a combination of compatibility, genuine affection, the ability to grow and develop as an individual, and yeah, maybe a smidge of biology. But that doesn't make it any less romantic.


It kind of goes without saying that loving yourself makes it easier for other people to love you. Self-confidence isn't easy to accomplish, and everyone has their off days, but learning to be comfortable in your own skin and knowing how much you're worth will attract a person who sees and appreciates exactly how awesome you are. Guaranteed.


Be nice, OK? It might seem like common sense, but people who are kind to others attract people. Who'd a thunk? A study conducted at the University of Chicago found that people who answered that they would sacrifice their own wishes to let the one they love achieve theirs were more likely to have "very happy" marriages.

Playing Hard To Get

While it's not a good idea to totally deny someone you're interested in because they might get the hint and run away, The Scarcity Principle — desire that results from not being able to have something — is a real phenomenon. Translation: Wait a day to text back, sure, but don't go radio silent for a week.

Having a Symmetrical Face

Unless you have thousands of dollars to spend on plastic surgery, this one's probably not changeable for you. But it has been proven with research that "females of many species unconsciously prefer males with symmetrical faces because symmetry is perceived to represent his genetic health."

Being Similar

Contrary to popular belief, opposites do not attract. A bad boy might be exciting at first if you're more inclined to follow the rules, but over time, your differences will only be highlighted and if you don't have enough in common, the relationship will die.

Having a Dog

This is the biggest DUH on the list. Of course, this only applies if the person you're wooing is a fan of dogs, but a study did conclude that you'll be more highly regarded if you have a dog. You seem happier, easier to get to know, and able to take care of another living being. Huge plus.

Being Attentive

Here's another tidbit of common sense to remind yourself of. Being thoughtful about others, attentive to your partner's needs, and able to listen and absorb are attractive qualities in a mate. Showing that you value those you love is not only going to draw other to you, but it's also just a good thing to do.

Smelling Good

Perfume and cologne are good — in moderation — but pheromones, those sexy chemicals we all give off, are where it's at. Unfortunately, we don't have a lot of control over this, so spritzing yourself with some Chanel No. 5 is OK, but let those pheromones do most of the nasal calling.

Location, Location, Location!

The most attractive man to me is one I don't have to drive more than twenty minutes to see. It may seem unromantic, but it's true. The closer you live to someone, the more likely you are to establish a relationship with them. Does this mean your soulmate lives halfway across the world and you'll never meet them? Sure, if you believe in that sort of thing. But if you, like me, define "soulmate" as the person who shows up, who's always there when you need them, who can pick up a pizza and come over and the pizza's still warm...then this doesn't sound sad at all.

How You Feel About Relationships

In order for a relationship to work, you should be on the same page about a lot of things, not the least of which is, well, how you feel about relationships. If you're looking for someone to marry and they're not into commitment, don't believe you're going to change their mind. You won't.

Having Your Own Life

"You complete me" is the worst. You should not be incomplete until you meet "the one." You should have a full, rich life filled with your own passions, projects, and interests in order to have a healthy relationship. You have to be able to bring something to the table for the table to remain exciting, fun, and ever-changing.

Being Vulnerable

If you're in a glass case of emotion, break down that glass right now. The ability to be vulnerable, to show your emotions, and to ask for help are essential to successful relationships. It may seem uncomfortable to break down in front of your partner, but A- that's what they're there for. If they judge you for showing emotions, run far, far away, and B- opening up can only build trust and fuel your connectedness.

Physical Attraction

Can't lie — physical attraction is an important part of relationships. There's no buts about it. If you're not drawn to each other, it ain't gonna happen. That doesn't mean that attraction can't increase or develop over time, though.

Looking Like Their Parent

Have you ever looked at your significant other and thought, "Oh my god, I married my parent"? Well, apparently that's a thing. Subconsciously, people tend to gravitate toward those who physically resemble their parents, especially if they have a positive relationship with them. Don't worry, it's not weird. It's a thing people do.

Being Able To Make Eye Contact

Staring into someone's eyes for an extended period of time (not for like, hours, but for a minute or two) can have a positive effect on your relationship. It can bolster love. Please, only do this to people you know. We don't want any arrests.

Listening Well

The importance of being able to listen, truly listen, to another person, cannot be overstated. Not just nodding and waiting for your turn to speak but really being able to take in what someone's saying, synthesize it, and offer constructive feedback or support, is possibly the most important quality you can have in a relationship.

Having a Great Memory

This can be tough for all my fellow terrible-memory-havers out there, but working to keep track of important dates and occasions is paramount to a solid relationship. It shows your attentiveness, your commitment to another person, and it's ultimately indicative of your listening skills. The anniversary of your first time holding hands may not be a big deal to you, but it might be to your partner, and showing that you remember it, or at least remembered it enough to make yourself an alert on your phone, will do more than you can imagine.

Taking Care of Yourself

You cannot be a whole and giving partner to someone else if you don't take care of yourself first and foremost. That is a must. Taking care of yourself, making sure you are comfortable in your own skin and you are fulfilled and happy on your own will serve to bolster your self-confidence and make you a better partner.

Having Similar Body Language

So much of the messaging we receive from other people is non-verbal. There's so much that tone, facial expressions, and body language can say. Often, we find ourselves mirroring the non-verbal language of others as a signal that we're connecting with each other. This can be conscious or unconscious, but having similar body language is just another way can deepen our connection to each other.

Being Genuine

You've simply got to find someone with whom you can be totally and completely yourself. Sure, when you first start dating, there is a level of formality and disconnect, but as you get to know your partner, you should be able to let your guard down. In other words, if you can't fart in front of bae, get a new bae.